sachin gupta - kalimpong/ west bengal
Name: sachin gupta
Comments: my wife is the only daughter of her mother, her father expired around 15 years back. she is 4 years elder to me.7 years back when i got married, my wife after staying with me for 3 months went to her mother place saying she had to offer some pujas on the sucess of our marriage. then after few days i came to know that she was pregnant, so she further extended her stay at her mother's house, on our 1st anniversary we were three of us. even after delivery my wife didnot return to my house , saying that she could not take care of the child all by her self and she needed her mother's help. after 4 years passed , her mother became seriously ill, she was at the verge of death in the hospital, my wife phoned me asking for help as she was running sort of money, so i took all the cash,gold and securities that i had and i went to my wife's house to help her. as her mother started recovering , my wife told me that she wanted to stay with me,because I had helped her during her hard times and asked me to admit our daughter in school. as 3 months passed she started making complaints on house hold products , etc. saying that nothing in the house was her personal belonging so she needed every thing brand new from the kitchen utensil to mixer grinder , fridge , almirha, bed, ect. everything new should be provided to her, one day she even started sayin that she no longer wants to stay in our ancestaral house and wants to shift to a newly constructed building which is incomplete, and told me to complete the flat as soon as posibble. when i disagreed on this , as it was not financially posibble for me, as i had just established a new business. i fulfilled her small demands but completeing the construction of the flat and shifting my residenceto a new flat,so that my wife could enjoy the freedom of being aloof from rest of the family members and become independent, so that she does not have to seek permission of the elders of the family on what ever she wants to do and no family member will ever dare to interfere in her daily life, like where she goes and what she does outside home or whom ever she invites from outside. my wife is demanding my shop and one flat in her name, she say that she has no trust on me.on my refusing to do so,my wife has started quarelling with me every day on each and every small thing, she has even left cooking food for me. she threatens to file an FIR under 498 and domestic voilence by making a false allegation on me, even though that i and my wife live all alone in the house and rest of the family members live it different town with my elder brother, my wife has threatened that she will take action against all of the family members and will put all of us behind bars,only then she will be happy and relaxed after seeing all of us behind bars.
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Tuesday, January 23, 2007

VIVEK MOHAN - MUMBAI
Name: VIVEK MOHANComments: LIVING SEPARATELY FOR ONE YEAR WITH NO HOPE AND INCLINATION OF A PATCH-UP.
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Rajeev - New Delhi
Name: RajeevComments: Was leading an abusive married life since five years, have two little children, have decided not to live my whole life with her, most of the financial issues have been settled verbally, currently she is living with children close by, she is trying to find another person and get remarried, she completely commands movement of children, I am living separately with my mother and maid. Whenever I ask about MSA already given to her two months back she does not give any concrete reply, I need clarity in my separation so that I can start living my life with new approach. It has been more than year of our separation but nothing is happening whenever I say something she verbally abuses and threats
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Rajeev - New Delhi
Name: RajeevComments: Was leading an abusive married life since five years, have two little children, have decided not to live my whole life with her, most of the financial issues have been settled verbally, currently she is living with children close by, she is trying to find another person and get remarried, she completely commands movement of children, I am living separately with my mother and maid. Whenever I ask about MSA already given to her two months back she does not give any concrete reply, I need clarity in my separation so that I can start living my life with new approach. It has been more than year of our separation but nothing is happening whenever I say something she verbally abuses and threats
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Monday, January 22, 2007

rajiv - mumbai
Name: rajivComments: not finding good advocates for truth.negotiations on
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rajiv - mumbai
Name: rajivComments: not finding good advocates for truth.negotiations on
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rajiv - ajmer
Name: rajivComments: not finding truth in the courts at delhi.pl help with good and trustworthy lawyers.
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Vihan khera - South Delhi
Name: Vihan kheraComments: Vihan khera
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Sunday, January 21, 2007

Atul - Bangalore
Name: AtulComments: ignore
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Thursday, January 18, 2007

RS BHADAURIA - NEW DELHI
Name: RS BHADAURIAComments: FIRSTLY,HER RELATIVES ATTAKED ON ME DURING MY LEAVE PERIOD ON 02-11-05 BECAUSE OF NO KNOWN REASON, WHICH MY IN-LAWS HAD SUPPORTED THEM THEN I HAD FILED CRIMINAL CASE AND COMPLAINT AGAINST HER RELATIVES AND PARENTS RESPECTIVELY ON DATED 03-11-05 AND 08-11-05(THROUGH MY WIFE, FOR WHICH SHE DENIED LATER), BUT REGISTERED AGAINST RELATIVES NOT PARENTS. ON REVERSE MY MOTHER IN LAW GIVEN COMPLAINT ON 04-12-05(FOR 498A) AND APPLIED FOR 156(3) ON 02-05-06 FOR THE SAME ON 02-05-06. AFTER THAT THEY ATTACKED MY UNATTENDED FATHER ON 22-05-06. FOR THIS MY FATHER APPLIED 156(3) ON SERVING OF THE LEGAL NOTICE FOR THE SAME THEY APPLIED THE 498A THROUGH MY WIFE, AS MY WIFE DESERTED MY HOME THROUGH POLICE ON 04-04-06.THE APPLIED 156(3) BY MY MOTHER IN LAW DISSMISSED BY LOWER COURT. THE REVISION OF 156(3) OF MY MOTHER IN LAW REGISTERED AS COMPLAINT CASE AND REASON GIVEN BY THE HONOURABLE COURT FOR NON REQUIREMENT OF POLICE IN THIS CASE. AS THE TEAM OF MY OPPONENT NOT SUCCEEDED TO PUT MY PARENTS AND ME BEHIND THE BAR THEY APPLIED FOR DOWRY HARRASMENT UNDER 498A, 323, 328,504,506 AND 3/4 DPA ON 02-11-06 THROUGH MY WIFE. I GOT ARRESTED ON 04-11-06 ALONG WITH MY AILING PARENTS UNDER 498A, 323, 328, 504, 506 AND 3/4 DPA. BUT MY MOTHER IN LAW HAS APPLIED TO WITHDRAW THE CASE ON 09-11-06. THAT MEANS I WAS FACING THE TWO CASES OF CHARGES OF THE SAME NATURE BETWEEN 02-11-06 TO 09-11-06. I BAILED OUT WITH MY PARENTS ON 15-11-06. AS I AM COMBATANT MEMBER OF INDIAN AIR FORCE, SHE APPLIED FOR DEPARTMENTAL PUNISHMENT ALSO.
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RS BHADAURIA - NEW DELHI
Name: RS BHADAURIAComments: FIRSTLY,HER RELATIVES ATTAKED ON ME DURING MY LEAVE PERIOD ON 02-11-05 BECAUSE OF NO KNOWN REASON, WHICH MY IN-LAWS HAD SUPPORTED THEM THEN I HAD FILED CRIMINAL CASE AND COMPLAINT AGAINST HER RELATIVES AND PARENTS RESPECTIVELY ON DATED 03-11-05 AND 08-11-05(THROUGH MY WIFE, FOR WHICH SHE DENIED LATER), BUT REGISTERED AGAINST RELATIVES NOT PARENTS. ON REVERSE MY MOTHER IN LAW GIVEN COMPLAINT ON 04-12-05(FOR 498A) AND APPLIED FOR 156(3) ON 02-05-06 FOR THE SAME ON 02-05-06. AFTER THAT THEY ATTACKED MY UNATTENDED FATHER ON 22-05-06. FOR THIS MY FATHER APPLIED 156(3) ON SERVING OF THE LEGAL NOTICE FOR THE SAME THEY APPLIED THE 498A THROUGH MY WIFE, AS MY WIFE DESERTED MY HOME THROUGH POLICE ON 04-04-06.THE APPLIED 156(3) BY MY MOTHER IN LAW DISSMISSED BY LOWER COURT. THE REVISION OF 156(3) OF MY MOTHER IN LAW REGISTERED AS COMPLAINT CASE AND REASON GIVEN BY THE HONOURABLE COURT FOR NON REQUIREMENT OF POLICE IN THIS CASE. AS THE TEAM OF MY OPPONENT NOT SUCCEEDED TO PUT MY PARENTS AND ME BEHIND THE BAR THEY APPLIED FOR DOWRY HARRASMENT UNDER 498A, 323, 328,504,506 AND 3/4 DPA ON 02-11-06 THROUGH MY WIFE. I GOT ARRESTED ON 04-11-06 ALONG WITH MY AILING PARENTS UNDER 498A, 323, 328, 504, 506 AND 3/4 DPA. BUT MY MOTHER IN LAW HAS APPLIED TO WITHDRAW THE CASE ON 09-11-06. THAT MEANS I WAS FACING THE TWO CASES OF CHARGES OF THE SAME NATURE BETWEEN 02-11-06 TO 09-11-06. I BAILED OUT WITH MY PARENTS ON 15-11-06. AS I AM COMBATANT MEMBER OF INDIAN AIR FORCE, SHE APPLIED FOR DEPARTMENTAL PUNISHMENT ALSO.
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Amrut - Pune,Maharashtera
Name: AmrutComments: I am working with the reputed insurance company.One year bck i married with a girl who was working in my company,it was a love marrage.But Tow days before the marrege she called me and told that she is going to make a big mistake in her life by mrring with me.After the 2 months she started creating problems,all the time her mother is supporting her badly.She has submited the application in police station against my all family members.I need some dvice from your side.
Thanking You.
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Raghunath Ramanarasimhaiah - Bangalore
Name: Raghunath RamanarasimhaiahComments: My wife is a legal permanent resident of USA. Falsely claimed to be a citizen. Very abusive. Abuses with very vulgar languages me and my family including my mother. Threatens to defame me publicly. Has done everything possible to stop me going to the USA. She does not give me her land line and she does not allow me to access her over the internet. I pleaded with her to help me fill the visitors visa, for almost three months but she did not do it. Ultomately after a lot of coaxing she did give some information but the very next day she created such a scene that I had to cancel the visa interview. For every word and every act she fights with me bitterly for days. She has threatend to complain tomy seniors and spiritual gurus and defame me. She is not even accepting to send the divorce papers. Please advice.
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Raghunath Ramanarasimhaiah - Bangalore
Name: Raghunath RamanarasimhaiahComments: My wife is a legal permanent resident of USA. Falsely claimed to be a citizen. Very abusive. Abuses with very vulgar languages me and my family including my mother. Threatens to defame me publicly. Has done everything possible to stop me going to the USA. She does not give me her land line and she does not allow me to access her over the internet. I pleaded with her to help me fill the visitors visa, for almost three months but she did not do it. Ultomately after a lot of coaxing she did give some information but the very next day she created such a scene that I had to cancel the visa interview. For every word and every act she fights with me bitterly for days. She has threatend to complain tomy seniors and spiritual gurus and defame me. She is not even accepting to send the divorce papers. Please advice.
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Wednesday, January 17, 2007

inderjeet singh - delhi
Name: inderjeet singhComments: married for the last about 15 years- have two children aged 14 and 9. wife starting seeing another man- cause of trouble at home. wife belongs to a very rich and influential family. had filed 498A cases against my parents but I left my parents for my wife in 1993 and was living separately since then.I Was falsely imlicated in sec 107 also and jailed for three days. have taken over my house and shop also- police not entertaining my pleas because of pressure from my rich parents in law. I am penniless, homeless and helpless . have threatned more cases against me to ensure that people do not learn about the affair their daughter was having
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Tuesday, January 16, 2007

Ramana - hyderabad
Name: RamanaComments: I got married in June 2002.She has not matured enough, and tried 2 suicide attempts for no/small reasons. I am separated from Jan 2003 to till date.I have not filed any case,they have not filed any case in court.once they made complaint to police station saying" I want my husband"after my friend try to settle the issue for some amount.at that time the case was just left,means i have not gone to police station on that date .the so called settlement not firm.now i ask for mutual divorce,they say they wont give divorce .if i file case in court , it takes years.the reasons for i want to separate are not much weigh for court of law,but the reasons are valid to me as a HUMAN.my age is 36 running. what to do.Kindly advise
RegardsRamana
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Ketan R Udani - Bangalore/Karnataka
Name: Ketan R Udani Comments: At present my family members are in regular bale from 06/01/2007.Now I am preceding through the court and have appointed an advocate by name Premesh (leeladhar & co) and his office address is as follows. #4, 2nd floor, vishwakarma krupa, poornaiah chatram road, near upparpet police station, Ban galore 560053.As when I was arrested by the police on 12/11/2006 and brought to kamakshipalya police station, bangalore, and I was produced to court on 13th of November 2006, The police also took signatures of me on three papers and when I refused, They forced me to do so, when I was arrested, No one was intimated by them, The cops went to our house and forcibly break opened the door, I was sent to jail and I was released on 16/11/2006,but my mother and brother had not got their bail, Now as they are on bail now we want to file up a case against the police for breaking up the door with out the presence of any one of my family members or none of my relatives were there at the time of this act, we do not know what has happened in the house, so till date none of us have gone to the said house, Now she has filed a case for maintenance for 10000/-saying I have an income of 30000/-and also getting rental revenue, which is not true, I don’t have a job and I lost hopes of living because I don’t think this will end soon, is there nothing we can do but to wait and see what she is going to do, she is going on telling false,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, and I can do nothingShe is from a poor family and she loved me very much for this reason we felt pity and took up the total marriage expenses like choultry, back stage decoration, pundit, caterings, lighting, Etc. But this all went in wane, the result was I was jailed,because i got married, it means getting married is avery big crime so please let me know what is the next step I should do and under what act should I put up a case against the police for doing this deed.
posted by 498A_Victim at 7:44 AM 0 comments

Ketan R Udani - Bangalore/Karnataka
Name: Ketan R Udani Comments: At present my family members are in regular bale from 06/01/2007.Now I am preceding through the court and have appointed an advocate by name Premesh (leeladhar & co) and his office address is as follows. #4, 2nd floor, vishwakarma krupa, poornaiah chatram road, near upparpet police station, Ban galore 560053.As when I was arrested by the police on 12/11/2006 and brought to kamakshipalya police station, bangalore, and I was produced to court on 13th of November 2006, The police also took signatures of me on three papers and when I refused, They forced me to do so, when I was arrested, No one was intimated by them, The cops went to our house and forcibly break opened the door, I was sent to jail and I was released on 16/11/2006,but my mother and brother had not got their bail, Now as they are on bail now we want to file up a case against the police for breaking up the door with out the presence of any one of my family members or none of my relatives were there at the time of this act, we do not know what has happened in the house, so till date none of us have gone to the said house, Now she has filed a case for maintenance for 10000/-saying I have an income of 30000/-and also getting rental revenue, which is not true, I don’t have a job and I lost hopes of living because I don’t think this will end soon, is there nothing we can do but to wait and see what she is going to do, she is going on telling false,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, and I can do nothingShe is from a poor family and she loved me very much for this reason we felt pity and took up the total marriage expenses like choultry, back stage decoration, pundit, caterings, lighting, Etc. But this all went in wane, the result was I was jailed,because i got married, it means getting married is avery big crime so please let me know what is the next step I should do and under what act should I put up a case against the police for doing this deed.
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Monday, January 15, 2007

Tapas Kanta Goswami - Kolkata, W.B.
Name: Tapas Kanta GoswamiComments: Filed this case under 406, 498a under Sec. 200 pleading case 6 weeks after filing for divorce and alimony stating that she is unable to get help from police.Next date is on 22.3.07 for exemption hearing of aged mother.
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Tapas Kanta Goswami - Kolkata, W.B.
Name: Tapas Kanta GoswamiComments: Filed this case under 406, 498a under Sec. 200 pleading case 6 weeks after filing for divorce and alimony stating that she is unable to get help from police.Next date is on 22.3.07 for exemption hearing of aged mother.
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Tapas Kanta Goswami - Kolkata/W.B.
Name: Tapas Kanta GoswamiComments: On 23rd July 2004 after 15 years of marriage of which above 5 years in the U.K. she develops a relationship with servant and when caught in act and cautioned; the husband is assaulted around 01-30hrs. and the wife walks out the next morning when husband goes to leave the child to school as aged and disabled mother-in-law is helpless spectator. The child is collected from school. She returns with relatives twice within the week to collect everything she can lay her hands on while husband and his frail mother is abused profusely and threatened dire consequenses.January, 2005 she files case under Section 125 Cr. PC. Her claim is rejected and the child gets an award of Rs. 1500/- p.m.July, 2005 she files a divorce suit followed by alimony pendente lite.July, 2005 Husband files Act VIII case for seeking custody of childMid-August, 2005 she files a Complaint Case under Section 200 filing petition under Sec. 498a & 406.November, 2005 she gets the Sec 125 Cr. PC case dismissed for default.February, 2006 she files a new case under Sec. 125 Cr. PC wher she is awarded Rs. 6000/- p.m. Interim by systematic abuse of process of Court.She has multiple sources of income being MBA from London and yet declares herself as a person who begs from relatives for living.It is difficult to trace proxy earnings and thus goes to her benefit.The husband had applied for revision at Sessions Court which got dismissed as the session court does not wish to go into the merit of the case upon interim order. Contemplating to go the higher court for justice.In the 498a,406 exemption hearing for aged mother to be held on 22.3.2007.
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Sunday, January 14, 2007

abhay kumar - pune
Name: abhay kumarComments: my marriage solemnized at M.P, I TOOK TRANSFER TO PUNE FOR CAREAR OF MY WIFE TO PUNE.SHE IS ALSO Er, doing m.tech plus teaching.since two yrs we r living seperately. she always extend her time limit to come back to her husband home.my in-laws do heavy interference and forcing me to always come their home. PROBLEM ARISED SINCE MY M-IN-LAW TOLD THAT SHE WANT TO KEEP MY FIRST CHILD WITH HER.MY WIFE IS SUPPORTING HER. whenever i tried for negotiation, they start threatening me for dowry/torture case.they feel like that INDIN LAW HAS SYMPATHY BLINDLY WITH WOMEN. I M ALONE, I FALLEN SICK, BUT THEY NEVER VISITED ME. I HAVE TELEPHONE CALL RECORDED PROOFS,BILLS,DOCUMENTRY PROOVE , WHICH WILL SHOW EXACT CAUSE, & FAULT OF THE PERSON.MY WIFE IS HEALTHY, FIT PERSUING M.TECH, PLUS DOING LECTURERSHIP,ALSOCOMPETING IN BANK EXAM LIKE P.O. this shows her fittness, but after all this they r threatening if i shall file case sec.09, then they will file 498a/125 crpc etc.give me tips, how to face this condition? I WANT THAT EITHER SHE SHOULD JOIN CONJUGAL LIFE OR LEAVE COMPLETELY.SHE told she will not give me divorce, & i have to follow her parents instructions.pls help, if i will send the notice SEC 9(RESTITUTION OF CONJUGAL RIGHTS), can she register 498a? is there other cases known to you.give me tips.if possible tell me about ur members in pune.
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Vineet Trivedi - Chhindwara M.P.
Name: Vineet TrivediComments: I am living with my mother and unmarried younger sister in our own house. From the very first day of marriage (on 14.12.02) my wife's and their perents behaviour showed that she didn't married to start a familly but for some other reasons. (Property, child)Her behaviour was very humiliating and difficult for some of our familly friends and three of us, but was very sweet and easy with others.Most of the time she prefered to live in her "mayka" on the pretex of her service. (They didn't mentioned that she is in job in the biodata of her marriage.) She got her transfer on 1.7.03 only when I compelled her to come back from Mayka only after her transfer of resignation from her service.She went to her perents for delevery (Due on 15.4.04 as per 3D sonography report) on 5.2.04.She got a girl child by ELECTIVE scizure on 9.4.04 without any prior informaton to me. On receiving massage I went and stayed with her for 4 days. After comming back suddenly she stopped talking to me and attending my phones and her perants started ill and LIFE THRETENING talks.Without informing us she got her "ON REQUEST" transfer in Oct.04 back to her perent's town.Now the are not talking to us directly but calling other people known to us in our town and try to give them an impression that she is willing and I am not calling her back. When we contect them they just fight and ill talk.Now they are asking back from me, all the presents they have given at the time of marriage, to my wife and to the "BARATIES" and many more things that they have not given at all.IN SHORT SHE IS NOT READY TO LIVE WITH ME BUT TRYING TO CREATE A SITUATION WHERE I SAY THAT I DON'T WANT TO LIVE WITH HER.
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Saturday, January 13, 2007

Jay Kumar - Ahmedabad
Name: Jay KumarComments: I was married without dowry in Aryasamaj in India in August 2004. She was from USA (working on H1b) Ahmedabad based. I was here in India for some work and she filed divorce case in California without intimating me as she started loving another guy. When I argued she threatened me that she will come to India and will use 498A against me which will create severe problems for me. She just ruined my life. As she is there and I am here, I can not put my favor in the court where she filed the divorce case. She is just playing with law. Otherwise as per US State laws I must be granted 50% of the total properties earned during the marriage period. But as I can not go there she is enjoying with laws.
She is used to of playing with laws. She withdrew all money from my bank account in US (1000 usd). She also lied in her visa interview for h1b in India (US embassy) about her marital status (she was married but she denied). She also lied in written during interview. Later she managed to get fake marriage certificate by managing my fake signatures on stamps/ application etc. This was necessary for her as she denied in her visa interview that she is married.
Now I am thinking of informing her felonies to embassy. Please guide me what should I do and what way I should adopt.
Should I file a case in my hometown for her getting fake marriage certificate (I have prove). If I inform the court that she applied for divorce on fake marriage cert. will it be declared as null and void?
How and whom should I contact as she is in USA.
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Friday, January 12, 2007

Near - NCR
Name: NearComments: Hi,One of my friend is very intelligent but have very little physical problem by look only. He married one year back and have one child. From the day 1 he is getting lot of problem with his wife. Even his wife is also some physical problem and only 10th standard pass out non-working. She is very attached with her mother. From day 1 he started crying to go to her home. Initially they though it is due to new atmosphere but the problem is going to increase day by day. He is an govt. employee and living with her mother and wife. They are only 3 members. She never do work at home always talk with her mother every time. Her mother knows each and every second information about them. She always demand for money and run from home without informing them. Always curl with his mother and him. She always blame him that she is bitten by him. He never took hand to her. He is my childhood friend he even cant shout on any body. She always try to blame him differently in front of others. Always told him she don’t want to live with him. But also tell them she will not live him easily. There are lots of more issue. Some issue he don’t tell me directly. He is very scared at any time they can file a case. He is a only child and very emotional. He always try to fulfill her demands but daily getting more and more problem. He even don’t want to go home but his mother is very aged can’t leave her alone. Please suggest what should he do in this case.
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Wednesday, January 10, 2007

madhan kumar - chennai
Name: madhan kumarComments: i filed for the divorce in chennai family court last september. till now my wife has not filed her counter petition but instead she has filed a transfer petition in the madras high court seeking transfer of the divorce case to her native which is 600kms from chennai. now i would like to know what i have to do to keep the divorce case sustain here in chennai itself.
posted by 498A_Victim at 9:14 PM 0 comments

kumar - chennai
Name: kumarComments: i filed for the divorce in chennai family court last september. till now my wife has not filed her counter petition but instead she has filed a transfer petition in the madras high court seeking transfer of the divorce case to her native which is 600kms from chennai. now i would like to know what i have to do to keep the divorce case sustain here in chennai itself.
posted by 498A_Victim at 9:12 PM 0 comments

Ketan R Udani - Bangalore/Karnataka
Name: Ketan R UdaniComments: As I had also told you previously about my problems about my wife ,Now I have a problem The Kamakshipalya Police arrested me on 12/11/2006 it was Sunday and that day they kept me at the Kamakshipalya Police station only, Then produced me the next day to the court before taking me they took my sign on three papers for which I refused but they forced me to do so ,Later I came to know that the police had braked open my house door and had gone into the house with my wife and her family members, and I don’t know what all they have taken away from my mothers house, My mother and brother were not on bale so she could not take any step for this matter, Now they have got their bale on 6/1/2007,Now my mother has decided to put up a case on the police for doing this deed, So now please guide me as to what next to do and under what act should I put up a case on to the police,Now she has also sent me a court notice for Rs 10000/- as maintenance saying that I have an income of 30000/- thousand but the truth is that at present I don’t even have a job and my mother her self is taking care of me and my brother and also all the expenses of the court, in this circumstances what should in do next
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:21 AM 0 comments

abhinav gupta - delhi
Name: abhinav guptaComments: i would like to submit a file by sending mail give me any email address i will send pdf document
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sandeep jain - jaipur
Name: sandeep jainComments: dear sir,my case is this:::i got married on 21 june 1998. after six month problem started. without any cause fighting was going on. before five year of today i came to know that she has relationship with some other boy. due to that all situtation was there in family. then i started to collect proff for the same. before 11 months she went from my house. now current situtation is this that on 27 november she imposed one F I R against me u/s 498a and 406. then i show that proff to investgation officer and S P also. i have given lot of applications to SP, DYSP, C O, STATION INCHARGE, SUB INSPECTOR. now i am forcing them to give me a F R . but they are saying that althoug you are right but we are unable to give you F R .i don"t want to stop this metter untill my inlaws get punnishment. kindly suggest me what should i do???????i am sandeep jain from jaipur. my mobile no is 9928061033. hope to get positive responce to you.regardssandeep jain
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Sunday, January 07, 2007

Sukumar Audiseshaiah Paturi - Hyderabad , A.P
Name: Sukumar Audiseshaiah PaturiComments: My wife partially hanged herself just to Force Me to keep Seperate Family .But as I reacted late to this incident , she was to be taken to the Hospital where she found normal after general treatment .But her father & bother registeted a case against me under section 498A . I tried to convince my wife that I will keep seperate Family .But at present she is completely under parents Influence.
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Bhushan Agrawal - Mumbai
Name: Bhushan AgrawalComments: I & my wife have been married in the year 1999. In the year 2001 we had a son & since the delivary she has been staying with my in-laws & has not returned back, i pursueded her & waited for a year to return but when she did not, i filed a case for divorce in the year 2002 with the session's court. The judgement against the divorce for my case has been pending for last 5 years, my son is almost 5 years of age & i can literally count on my fingertips the 3 to 4 occasions i have seen him in the court, the judge has already pronounced a judgement in year 2003 for access of my son every Sunday for 3 hrs, but that has been clearly violated from day one by my in-laws & my wife, but they have not been held accountable for this contempt of court. Its my In-laws who wanted a hen-pecked husband for there daughter & therefore are trying to prolong the case as long as they can, she has already said twice in front of the judge that she does not wishes to stay with me, i have myself tried to convince her either to patch up or part ways, but they have just one motive in life to harass us as the Indian law is a lot biased to women. She is a practising dental surgeon by profession, but inspite of this i have been ordered by the court to pay an alimony of Rs 4000 per month, which i have done it till date. The most interesting aspect about that family is she has 2 elder brothers who themselves are also fighting there own cases for divorce against there wives, this gives a general impression about there background. The Indian Judicial system is real mess, they do not value time, i have lost 6 years of my life till date, nothing can get them back to me, my son does not recognises me & feels iam the one who is causing all the problems, no judge or magistrate is going to fill in these losses for me. Iam an IT professional & know how things r accountable, but the judicial system has no accountability, the judge generally tries to push over the case by giving dates after dates ...........
Some how over the period i have thh feeling that the saying "JUSTICE DELAYED IS JUSTICE DENIED" goes true. I have lots of support from my parents, not every one is as lucky as iam, but my career has suffered a lot.
This is all about me, iam not sure how can i help others but if you guys have some sort of planning please do let me know .....
Cheers Bhushan
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:51 AM 0 comments
Saturday, January 06, 2007

Kamal K Bhalla - New Delhi
Name: Kamal K BhallaComments: I got married in 1991. Problems started soon thereafter as she wanted the house to be transferred in her name. In 2000 she left home citing torture (took both the children with her). Instead of returning home, she lodged a complaint in the local police station. The colony elders intervened and she withdrew her complaint.
In 2002 again she left home(took both the children with her. Lodged a complaint in CAW Cell. Again the colony persons intervened and she withdrew her complaint.
In 2004 she again left home (took the daughter only). But returned home within a month.
In 2006 she again left home (took the daughter with her) and filed for divorce and custody of the son. She is involved with a married man, ten years her junior. The affair is on since 2000. It came to light when she brought that person home in July 2006, in my absence, and introduced him to my son as her new husband. My son recogonised that man immediately as he was the same person whom her mother had been meeting whenever she woud go the her parents' house along with the children. There is no hard evidence- in terms of photographs etc about this affair- only my son's testimony.
My daughter is 13-1/2 yeras old and son is 10 yeras old. The daughter is not willing to live with me and the son is not willing to stay with her mother.
My question is that can she take the custody of the son even if he is not willing to live with her? A point to mention here is that her sister-in-law is a Metropolitan Megistrate in UP. Can the judiciary be influenced by her sister-in-law in deciding the custody of the child in her favour?
My son has progressed in his studies after my wife left home. He has become self-confident.
Thanks.
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Thursday, January 04, 2007

rocky - Hyd
Name: rockyComments: Please help me by answering the following questions which will decide my future. Problems between me and my wife reach the limits (she is threatning for false 498A); she wants me to separate from my parents and wants me to allow her to do job so that she can have affairs (she had them in past and I have proofs in forms of e-mails and her own voice - recorded). We have a 1.5 year boy whom she is not allowing us to meet.
1. (a) I have a US opprtunity with me. If 498A is booked within how many days do I need to surrender my passport. Do I need to surrender it immediately the day its booked or will I get a notice from court or PS asking me to submit it. (b) If not immediately then by the time notice comes (say if it takes a week time) can I leave India immediately? Will Airport authorities or Interpol or US Immigration authorities in US be informed of my 498A case immediately so that I cannot leave or be sent back the moment I reach there?2. Say somehow I reach US can I be deported back...I heard about some 300 cases of extradition on AP NRIs....What is this process and how long does this process takes. Can I stay in US for say 3 years with 498A booked on me?3. If I am in US can someone else represent or fight the case on my behalf? If yes then till what stage the case can go on or can be represented without me being here? Can the trials be started by someone representing me (relatives or lawyer).4. If case is booked then will parents and siblings passports will also be confisticated? Will they also not be allowed to leave the country. Will siblings future be at stake i.e. if they want to apply for some country's immigration?5. Being a moslem I can easily give divorce...If I give divorce before the case is registered will it be of any help to my case?
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prashanth - bangalore
Name: prashanthComments: married on 24/2/2003.during that time she is house wife.forced marriage to her by their parents. started quarelling with me from 3rd day after marriage. i left india on jan2004,went to dubai.issued legal notice on 28/3/2005. filed divorce case on 4/7/2005 at davangere.26/10/2005.reconcelation & mediation both failed.she applied for transfer to bangalore. she appointed as sub-inspector in excise department on 20/5/2004.working in bangalore. after reconcellation again i went back to dubai. came back again in april2006 to attend cross-examination. they draged the case like anything.on 25/12/2006 they completed my cross-examination. my father c/s exam. duue know.in the mean time on 8/9/2004, she break open my brother's house, started leaving their illegally. my brother working in US since from last 8 years. after so many warnings also she is not reday to leave that house.my father is GPA holder for that house. when my father & mother goes their she used to run away from that place. when they leave bangalore to davangere, she again come & break open the lock used to stay their. on 3/1/2006 my father give police compliant, filed injection suit on her.still now also both the cases are going on. she used to stay their only.on 1/11/2006 my brother came to india. after leaving is wife & kid in shimoga, he went his house with father. at that movement she querrlled with both, then went & put 498A. my father also went their to lodge compliant they arrested him. now we r all got bail, still chargesheet is not filed. so what to do at this movement pls suggest at the earliest.
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Mayank Tripathi - Gurdaspur
Name: Mayank TripathiComments: On 13 Jun 2006 my wife alongwith her mother & brother who were staying at my place left the house alongwith all household items. When I came back at 1600hrs I found the house swept clean. I tried speaking to her but she did not talk, then she sent a complaint to my CO. She came once but her mother was very abusive & did not let us talk. After that she did not spk to me & I recd court summon. Dt of hearing is 05-02-07 in Family court Jhansi.
posted by 498A_Victim at 5:11 AM 0 comments

neeraj - hyderabad, A.P
Name: neerajComments: got married on 2 feb 2006,wife was pregnant(5 months) left citing fathers illhealth and terminated pregnancy , but calls it an accident sent letter saying she was physically and mentally harassed at my place by myself, my mother and sister, which is not at all true left on june 9, 2006 seeking maintenance sent lawyers notice failing to sent maintenance will entail booking of case and refusing to come.
posted by 498A_Victim at 4:27 AM 0 comments

neeraj - hyderabad, A.P
Name: neerajComments: got married on 2 feb 2006,wife was pregnant(5 months) left citing fathers illhealth and terminated pregnancy , but calls it an accident sent letter saying she was physically and mentally harassed at my place by myself, my mother and sister, which is not at all true left on june 9, 2006 seeking maintenance sent lawyers notice failing to sent maintenance will entail booking of case and refusing to come.
posted by 498A_Victim at 4:18 AM 0 comments

S.N.R.C. Murthy - Hyderabad
Name: S.N.R.C. MurthyComments: As of now, NO case has been filed against us.
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:06 AM 0 comments
Wednesday, January 03, 2007

Kamal Wadhawan - Mumbai
Name: Kamal WadhawanComments: Both self & wife married before, she had 1 kid & I have 2 kids from earlier marriage, no kids from this marriage. She left with stridhan in September, then sent 2 notices threatening to file 406. We were living in Bombay (my flat)first 2 years of marriage & then in Noida the last 2 years (rented flat). Now she has filed for judicial seperation & pocession of the Bombay flat to live in. She got a Status Quo on the Bombay flat expartee without informing me. Now I moved into the Bombay flat & cant rent it out due to status Quo
posted by 498A_Victim at 9:10 PM 0 comments
Tuesday, January 02, 2007

Vijay Ramchandra Maurya - Mumbai - Maharashtra
Name: Vijay Ramchandra MauryaComments: My wife came in Mumbai on 21st June and on the very next day she told me that she is suffering from Goitre in her neck which they hide from us before marriage. I took her to HOLY SPIRIT HOSPITAL
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Ashwin C. Nagar - Pune
Name: Ashwin C. NagarComments: Hi,For last 3 months (Aug to Oct) we were getting threats. We applied for bail twice (under our judicial area and also under wife's judicial area) and as no case was registered, we got 2 days prior notice from court before arrest by police. On 6 Nov, case got registered and police informed us on 12 Nov. Again we applied for bail and we got confirm bail (I had to pay lawyer 3 times for bail applications. I was under assumption that 1 time payment is sufficient as the work was routine for 2nd and 3rd bail applications). Police did not took our statement till now and charge sheet is not yet submitted in the court.
We had returned her belongings on 30 Sept and have got that signed by notary also. Papers were ready for mutual divorce and we also agreed to pay some amount as one time alimony. But I think their mind got changed and they filed 498(A) and now are demanding more money.
I am member of Purush Saraksungh Hak Samiti and 4 days back also joined Save Indian Family-Pune chapter.
Please advice me what things I should take care of. I am a service class person and cannot afford their current demand.
Regards,Ashwin C. Nagar
posted by 498A_Victim at 3:42 AM 0 comments

Rocky - Delhi
Name: RockyComments: Please help me and advice what to do, I am expecting a case/498 against me from my wife. Please advice me how can I & my parents save from this situation, my wife had left my home more then 1 yr back [23-Dec-2005]. What all precautions we can take, I don't want my parents to be suffered at all in this. Please help me & reply.
Below is my case:
I got marriage on 26-Nov-2004. After 1 year My wife started issues/argument with me & my parents without any reasons and on 27-Nov 2006, her parents said that her daughter is not happy and her brother took her back to her house, but after 3-4 days I discussed with my wife and asked her say sorry and come back, I went to her office and took her back on 01-Dec-2005. But she had something in her mind she didn't talk with anyone for 2 weeks and one day she started again everything and left home on 23-Dec-2005. and after some days we again started talking but she was in some other mood and said you people are wrong...etc. but I managed the situation and again asked her to come back & everything will be normal but she refused and said come to my home & take me, I said ok I'll come then she put new condition that say sorry to my parents & then I will come, But on 19-Jan She said that her office wants her to go USA for 2 weeks, [she didn't tell me when , As I know that she doesn't have VISA/Passport ..etc I said No, first come home & make environment/everything normal then we will discuss it] I thought she will have plan to go after 2 month as Visa interview date gets around 40-45 days] I said first come back to home & then we will discuss it. on 23-jan-2006 I inquired from her office abt her US visit, Her office told me that she has been already gone on 19-Jan'06 [She told me abt it last day and went without any information], I was shocked abt it and when I checked her docs at home, She took her passport, her jewelry, all degree/exp documents etc... I never knew abt this until 23-Jan that when she left our home she took all these thing.She back after 6-7 month [in those 6-7 months her parents never contacted us] but she called me often but never given me her US address and now from last 2-3 months her parents is pressurizing us that give her last chance, she will not do it again. In last 2-3 weeks they started giving us threats that they can go to women cell...etc. I am afraid but I asked my wife for a one-to-one meeting next week [between me & her].
Please help me and let me know What all I should do to safe ourself from their false case.
RegardsRocky [Delhi]
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:54 AM 0 comments

NAVEEN KUMAR TANWAR - DELHI
Name: NAVEEN KUMAR TANWARComments: I need divorce from my wife. Though I have no medical record or proof regarding her mental statement, however, she gets irritated and angry that leads to mental tensions for both of us.
posted by 498A_Victim at 1:55 AM 0 comments
Monday, January 01, 2007

Ravindra Agrawal - mumbai
Name: Ravindra AgrawalComments: after compromise in ppolice station i had purchased flat worth rs 10,000,00/- to saty together separately but she refused. property i am forced to purchase is on joint name with her name as first.FIR-- Claim mental and physical harressment by total 9 family members. demanding dowry of re 10,000,00/- and claim to be given 250000/-. she is CA and LLB. I am engineer
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sjsoberoi - dehradun
Name: sjsoberoiComments: married 1989(16 years),3 children,both working in bank,elder child (16 yrs) with me,cause of trouble mother-in-law,2 younger children with wife in delhi,taken away stealthily while i am at my posting in hills(Uttaranchal),me at dehradun,498a,divorce,maintenance cases filed in delhi by wife,i have filed case for custody of 2children,case under section 9,case under ipc 209 etc in dehradun, wife's posting still at dehradun(temporary at delhi),main aim of wife & in laws to grab as much money they can.i am officer in sbi,wife clerk in pnb,nobody listens in court,court/law biased,2 younger children not allowed to talk to us(since more than 1 year),we did not live even a single day with our parents but parents were also dragged in 498a,escaped custody due to anticipatory bail,openly being asked to pay money in lacs to free us,
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Sunday, December 31, 2006

IntikhabAlam - Kolkata/West Bengal
Name: IntikhabAlamComments: The reason for her and her family to comedown to my house and fight with me and my family is because I don't take her out and since she doesn't like my mother she accuses her of telling her something or the either. She and her family on their own has approached the Police Station twice where allegations against us of demanding and torturing her for dowry were made. The police however tried to get a mutual done. My wife's family want to put me and my family behing\d the bars and threatens me and my family to get us killed.They have even threatened me to get me out of my Job. I cannot take this kind of humilition hence I some how got out of Calcutta by telling them that I am being sent to Chennai for Training and would return by Feb.My wife is not staying with my family as I told her to go and live in her father's place so that there is no issue raised by her an that my family is safe. Pls help in getting out of this.
posted by 498A_Victim at 11:45 PM 0 comments

Sandeep - Delhi NCR
Name: SandeepComments: When I clicked this help botton. A mesaga came that the data limit is exceeded.
I want to contribute some money for Mens rights in India. If you require some money for paying to this web site, please let me know.
Best Regards,Sandeep . Mens Rights India.
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Satendra Singh - Secunderabad
Name: Satendra SinghComments: I have severe incompatability problems with my wife since ten years and we are living separately for the last two years.Several times I have asked for divorce through mutual consent but she is adamant about not giving her consent.She is also constantly harassing me with unjustified demands for money and property and levelling false allegations and threats.Once she even complained to the Police and withdrew the complaint after extracting an apology.She also constantly tries to prejudice my married daughter and grown up son with lies and falsehood.Please advise as to how I should go about obtaining a divorce without her involving me in false cases and creating undue harrasment with the recent enactment of laws favouring Women.
posted by 498A_Victim at 9:48 PM 0 comments
Saturday, December 30, 2006

parvinder singh - ghaziabad
Name: parvinder singhComments: sir, i got married on 11 feb 2004.iam employed as an army officer presently posted in a field station.my family stays in ghaziabad and her parents are in chandigarh.my dad is a retired govt servant and my elder brother is an engineer working in delhi.her father is an inspector in haryana police and her elder brother is a lawyer.ours was an arranged marriage through newspaper.though life in initial two years of marriage was kind of OK,except for a few problems when we used to visit my parents place. she was under her parental influence especially her mother to the extent that they used to chat on phone for long periods 5-6 times a day on a daily basis.besides she used to keep throwing tantrums around.her problem was that in a fit of anger she could go to any extent without bothering for the consequences,even to the extent that when she was two months pregnant,she threw herself on ground trying to hurt herself.during these moments of anger she was just uncontrollable.a day before the birth of my son on 01 may 2006,her mother joined us at nasik.even my parents were with me that time to look after my wife.on the 12th day after his birth she out of the blue demanded to go to her parents place.since for 40 days it is not advisable for a mother to travel and take stress she was advised against doing so.on this she tried to aggravate the issue and things took an ugly turn when she started abusing and called me a BASTARD.i could not take that infront of my family and i slapped her.on this she and her mother walked out of the house without the child and tried contacting none other than army chiefs wife.when she was unable to do so she walked upto the general officer commanding the station and created a big fiasco stating that i have thrown her out of the house and snatched the child from her.i was called upon and after a long negotiation,we returned home.next day her brother came and without even bothering to listen to our version of the story and against our wish took the child and my wife with a promise that she will be back after a short stay at her place.eight months have passed ever since and she has not returned.there was no communication from both sides during this period untill the 25th of dec when my dad,my brother,his father in law and one of my colleagues went to her place to talk to her parents.instead of feeling any kind of remorse on the turn of events she tried to put everything back on us.i spoke to her on the telephone at length suggesting that we should try and look ahead but she is not ready to budge.my leave is about to get over and i have to rejoin my duty station.iam worried now that with their kind of attitude they might file a case against us and might trouble my parents in my absence.i would like to bring out here that there never has been a case of any kind of physical/mental harrasement from any of us in our family neither has there been any dowry demand rather for the first four months of our separation she withdrew money from my account .kindly advise us on the safety precautions that we must undertake to avoid any kind of legal hassles. regards,
Maj.P S Dhanoa
posted by 498A_Victim at 11:24 PM 0 comments

Kirtan - New York
Name: KirtanComments: You SICK people, who are you guys, if you are "guys". Shamelessly harrased you wifes who blindly followed thinking that you are "MEN"Hitting woman in your homes, mentally harrasing them are the traits of NAPUNSAKS - HIJDAS - YOU!
You Shameless Eunuchs, imagine the same treatments you have meted on your wifes someone doing it on your sisters and mothers, what will you do? You HIJDAS?
All your lives you have hated hated, you will take that your graves.
ONLY GOD CAN SAVE YOU
posted by 498A_Victim at 4:13 PM 0 comments

PALLAB SANYAL - kolkata/west bengal
Name: PALLAB SANYALComments: Name & Address of The Husband :- Mr. Pallab SanyalBL 199, Sector II, Salt LakeKolkata – 700091sanyal.pallab@gmail.comMobile: 9831259413
Name & Address of The Wife :- Mrs. Moumita Sanyal
Date & Place of Marriage :- 19th April 2000, at Salt Lake
Mode of Marriage :- Social Marriage
If there be any issue,The particulars of the Same with date of birth :- We have a son named PRIYANSHU who has just Completed 4 years on 05th February 2006. His date of birth is 05th February 2002.
Experience after Marriage :- Initially for around 2-3 months every thing was normal Except for the fact that my in-laws house & ours were Culturally different (may be due to urban/rural difference). My in-laws house is in Serampore(Hooghly District) The first abnormal behaviour pattern which I noticed in my wife was slitting of the left hand with blade & there itself written the initial letter of my name. She told me not to divulge it. I was very annoyed & reported this matter to my mother-in-law. They told it was there before marriage & not to worry about. Anyway this type incident never recurred. The second incident took place in the market place when I bought 2 maize to eat. While handing her over the maize it fell down. Hell broke loose. She started yelling at me. I tried to pacify her by telling that I am buying one more for her & that it was a market place, she should keep in mind. But it was of no use. Disgusted I took a rickshaw & went back home leaving her in the market place. She came back & did lot of silly things to attract my attention. She conceived in 2001 June. During the period she was pregnant I saw lot of unusual behaviour like clutching on to the bedsheet, yanking it/clenching the fist & teeth at me. She abuses me verbally (after child birth). But after child birth she came at loggerheads with her mother-in-law. (Reasons & history I better leave on to my wife to give the explanation). The perennial problem that still persists is with the child food. She has scant respect to what the doctors say regarding the child food habit, up bringing & psychology. What ever she feels good she does & when problem comes she lays the blame on her in-laws, husband & other family members. Most of the time the child vomits while having the food (because of her unnatural ways of feeding & then starts the merciless verbal & physical abuse on the child, which has resulted in physical injury to the child many a times.). Needless to mention this is type of attitude is shown towards me & my family members when things are not to her liking (however illogical & unreasonable it may be). Day in & Day out it is not possible for us to keep our tempers under control. When we react she turns hysteric- bangs her head against the wall/almirah, clenches her fist & jaw in a very peculiar fashion which instill fear in the mind of the child (he is growing up) as well as to all other family members including myself. She doesn’t have control over her self when these bouts take place. Recently she tried to flung open the door of a running taxi which could have been fatal for our child (he was sitting by the window). Driver stopped the taxi & shouted at her & only then she came back to her senses. In June 2004 she tried to commit suicide by taking heavy dosage of TRICA tablets but was unsuccessful. On the advice of the hospital (Bidhan Nagar State General) I took her for counseling. A psychometric analysis hinted at paranoid schizophrenia and the report suggested immediate psychiatric intervention followed by psychotherapy. She took medicine on advice of psychiatric but never went for psychotherapy .She & her family members feel this is absolutely unnecessary. I have tried to give her the best of treatment (photocopies can be provided on request). Nothing much has changed. She couldn’t be taken for psychotherapy as she feels that I am trying to prove her “mad”. Now I could see in our child some of the traits her mother has. This is of serious concern for me. Her family members knew all about her problem but still married her off by concealing vital facts. As a matter of fact the same behavior pattern is shown by her towards her family member at Serampore also. At the end of the day everybody linked with her is suffering from mental anxiety. Lastly I sought help of SOPAN (Family Support Centre & Counseling) in Purta Bhavan where in they called my wife & mother-in-law. The latter didn’t turn up. Sopan has finally referred her to MON foundation for admitting to the hospital but the doctor’s won’t admit her without seeing. The constant bickering between us is taking a toll on the child’s mind and my profession too. It is becoming very difficult to stay together under one roof. My conjugal life is thrown to winds. On August 5th 2006 I called their family members to sit down and amicably find a solution. To my astonishment my mother-in-law hurled “tantrums” at my wife (she is now 36 years old) in front of everybody. Undoubtedly this is the same reason why she throws “tantrums” at all of us including our 41/2 year old son. Presently she is under medication (given without her knowledge) as per description given by me to the psychiatrist and on seeing the earlier prescription. In consultation with some lawyers & on their advice I have twice lodged a GDR in the local police station. She is also not ready to come out and stay with me in a separate house.
Relief Sought For : - Child Custody and Divorce/Judicial Separation from my wife.
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:39 AM 0 comments
Friday, December 29, 2006

Rajnish Sharma - kolkata
Name: Rajnish SharmaComments: Dear Sir,I always thought that the constitution of India always said that Male Or Female,they both are equal in the eyes of law.There shouldnt be any differneces between men and women but i feel that 498A is the perfect example of injustice to men as more and and more women are misusing it for their benefit.I got married on 16feb 2004.Further our marraige wasnt blessed by the almighty it seems because we started having trouble after a month or so.My wife though from a small town like jharia in jharkhand had the biggest of expectations from me like taking her out every week to restaurants,movies and buy her expensive gifts which an average earning individual like me was finding it very difficult to cope.I tried to make her understand our financial status but then she would not listen to it.Her mother kept on supporting her for watever she did.I went to mumbai for a business trip for a period of 2 months but then overstayed there for 6 months more as the project that i was involved in got delayed and i had to finish that.Her fights shifted from me to my parents, brother and my old grandma in my absence.We were blessed by a son in the month of may'2005.She would often pack her bags and leave for her parents place for long period only to return when my mom would give her 20 phone calls to come back.Birth of my son also didnt change her attitude and the demands grew more.Now she wanted me to leave my parents and stay in a seperate flat which again was beyond my financial strength.I told her strictly that in no way i can think of leaving my parents as this is the time that i need to take care of them and repay them for wat they have done for me and brother.I have always worshipped my parents more than god as i believe that on earth if there is anyone close to god then its parents.
Seeing me adamant she left for her fathers place in Feb'2006 not to return there after.She has also taken my son along.We all tried to call many times to return but then she wasnt willing to return.Meanwhile she filed a case of dowry,torture and forced abortion against me,mom dad and brother.Thank god she spared my old grandma.She also moved family court for maintenance and said that my monthly income is more than 1,50,000/- .Here she has complained that i have asked for a dowry of 40000 from her and have taken gold worth 1 lacs from here.What i would like to say that when a girl gets married in india, a girls father is always given ornaments so why does this ornament become a noose for the groom when there are differnces between the couple.Why is that the groom and the family member charged of dowry? Is there any defintion of dowry in Indian constitution? We tried to involve friends and relatives from both the sides but then all the negotiations failed.The girls father says that he will not send his daughter and have asked for a sum of 10 lacs from us as alimony.Now that amount we cant even generate even if we mortgage ourselves.Although my mom dad and brother have moved court for anticipatory bail which the hearing will be on 4 jan 2007 we are stil living in fear.My parents are on the run as they are scared of being arrested and to save their social pride they have no where to go but court.I feel that though marraige is a sacred term for a couple but then now it seems its like the safe business with dirty mind when things go wrong between two individuals.My wife has exploited the use of 498A against me and my family members.She left our place in feb 2006 and files a case against us in may 2006.I want to ask that she took 3 months to register that she was tortured and asked to bring dowry or was is that she took this 3 months to plan a strategy with her parents to frame this false charges against us seeking 10 lacs from us as alimony.
I just want everyone to know my case because this is how a male member is treated after a marraige wrecks down.I dont seek any advice from anyone cos ultimately the justice is in the hand of the Learned judge where my case is pending.I would like the people there in parliament and those In womens wings to know that if in past men have tortured women its time that women have started men.Remember excess cesspit in a jar is always abortive.
Thanks
Rajnish Sharma
posted by 498A_Victim at 3:28 AM 1 comments

Mr. Nirmal Singh - Mumbai , Maharashtra
Name: Mr. Nirmal SinghComments: Dear Sir / Madam
I, Mr Nirmal Singh, aged 36 yrs, seek for advice from your organisation, with regards to the divorce case filed by my wife, Mrs Neha Singh on the basis of false charges of cruety and harrassment.
This is in fact for her personal motives and she is trying to force the seperation on me. Inspite of being a working woman,she has demanded for money, all my property as alimony, our only 7 year old daughther's permanent custody, thus , leaving me with absolutely nothing.
Our case is currently in progress at the Family Court, Bandra.
I wish to know information regarding the possibilities of reconciliation of marraige as I definitely do not want to let go of our marraige for the sake of our daughther.
Also I am willing to ignore some infedelity issues from her side which she has managed to cover up with the help of her father who is an advocate.
I would request you to kindly help me with some information regarding exprienced lawyers who can advice me for the best options available for me.
Please feel free to contact me for any queries you may have.
Thanking you for you cooperation,
Mr. Nirmal Singh.
Mobile: 9869479442.
PS - If you wish to reach me by email pls contact me on my sisters email id as i do not have one. The email id is - surekha_si@hotmail.com.
posted by 498A_Victim at 1:50 AM 0 comments

vikas - ambala
Name: vikasComments: soon after marraige we recognised that she is schezophrenic .her 16 year PGI record is with yes. we have filled a case for 12A .returned back their stridhan with 1 lakh . they are asking us to withdraw 12A case but not filling a case for mutual agreement what to do.
posted by 498A_Victim at 1:47 AM 0 comments
Thursday, December 28, 2006

sameer - delhi
Name: sameerComments: - love marriage , at gurdwara, forced my parents.- no dowry involce. streedhan was just : a 6X4 ft bed and a steel almirah.- paid back all the marriage expenses fom her side by paying my wifes full salary and my half salary till now to her mother.-my family spent approx. 60,000/- on gold for her which she has taken away with her.-after her constant nagging and fighting shifted to a rented place leaving my parents.-on 3rd january 2007 im called for the third date on which she will be giving me d (fake) list of her stridhan amounting to 9 lacs ruppes.kindly help as soon as possible. am a poor person, with illiterate parents, an unmarried sister, and elder sister and brother in law(married in 2002)
all of whom are also being unnecesarryily dragged into it.shes put up a bill of 9 lacs... excluding d lawyer cost which i have to bear!!
posted by 498A_Victim at 4:44 AM 0 comments
Wednesday, December 27, 2006

shivshankar kele - purna / maharashtra
Name: shivshankar kele Comments: i have no e mail id.
i am ex-military man in army.after my marriage i went to delhi with my wife.in absence of mine she used to go in others home. she is not allowing anybody to enter in our house saying that my husband doesn't like strangers. one day i & father catch her.in 1993 she (my wife)bits my father.1994 she try to burn herself by pouring rockel on herself.1997 she harrashing my mother.1998 she refuse to come with me on vacation & recide at jalandhar.her parents claim tha i murder my wife.
2004 she taken 15000/- from home for delivery and denie and left the house
2005 on my mothers funeral she fought left house.
10 dec 2005 she filed case under ipc 125
11 nov 2006 on 11;45 she left my home with her relatives.
12 nov 2006 on 2:30 she filed 498a.
i filled Rs. 2000/- fine under ipc 125.
now she threating and harashing mentally me pl. give me suport and guidance.
yours
shivshankar keleat - balsa (b)post- mirkheltal- purnadist parbhani
posted by 498A_Victim at 5:41 AM 0 comments

Dr. Prabhat Palta - Karnal (Haryana)
Name: Dr. Prabhat PaltaComments: I am a senior scientist working in a research organization. I got married through a matrimonial ad in 1987. Within a few days of marriage, I could make out that my wife suffers from an obsession about extramarital affairs. It was confirmed when within a couple of months, she started accusing me of having an affair with a student. She was extremely aggressive verbally and would shout at me and abuse me for hours even in front of my parents who were then staying with me. The student in question got married a few years later but immediately after this, my wife started accusing me of having an affair with a colleague of mine. Her aggressive behavior continued from 1987 through 1996 but our marriage somehow survived due to intervention from my in laws and exemplary tolerance shown by me. However, becuse of this problem I took a transfer to Karnal in 1996 where I am still working.
Things went on smoothly from 1996 to 2004 when in January, 2004 her violent behavior returned with a vengeance. Within a span of next 15 months, she accused me of having affairs with over 7 different women and of having fathered their children. Her behavior was extremely violent verbally although she never tried to assault me physically. The threats given by her ranged from complaining to my Director General to get me sacked, taking a little poison to get admitted in the hospital and then accuse me of having poisoned her, lodging false cases against me in the women cell, getting my 90 year old mother arrested on a dowry case etc. Her abusive behavior could go on for hours throughout the night till she felt exhausted and fell asleep. My in laws, who I still believe are nice people, were informed about this and they took her away on a few occasions but her aggressive behaviour would resume with a day or two of her return to my place. She contacted all my friends and asked them to break off with me. It is important to mention here that due to a physical handicap, I walk with a slight limp but am otherwise quite healthy and fit.
Due to my wife's I became a nervous wreck and would have prabably committed suicide if my son, who is now 18 years old, had not stood by me. My wife started living in a separate bedroom, which she always keeps locked from inside and broke off all communications with me in January 2005. She stopped taking care of me and our son. I, therefore, filed for a divorce in the local court in march 2005 where the matter is still pending. Since January 2005, my wife is living in a separate room within my house. I alone have been taking care of my house and my son for the last two years.
I had two witnesses from my side- my servant and my son. My son has, in a written affidavit, narrated all the above mentioned things, including the incident when due to her mother's behaviour he took poison (fortunately it was a small amount and was discovered well in time). My wife has, as expected, denied all these allegations in her affidavit. I believe she has no witnesses from her side. I would be grateful if some help could be provided on the following queries
1. What are the chances of me getting out of this sordid marriage? Are there similar cases of mental torture which could be refered to in my case.
2.How much alimony or maintenance is she entitled to? I am earning Rs. 35,000 a month and she earns around Rs. 10,000 a month. This is important since nearly one thid of my salary goes towards supporting the education of my son who is studying in a management school.
3.Any other information which could be helpful to me.
With regards.
Sincerely,Dr. P. Palta
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:08 AM 0 comments

yusuf - delhi
Name: yusufComments: married on 10 april 2005 under muslim personal law. please give me advice my wife fights some times she bites me and some times she scratches me with nails simply if i dont follow her instructions that is not to touch naything in house without her permission, not to go out of home once i am in from office. she is also not cooperating with me in marital life i.e in sexual relation. she thinks it is dirty and and covers her private parts with big cloth once she goes for sleep. on number of occcassions we had a quarrel with her, and her father once tried to take signitature from me on number of items that he gave to her daughter which i refused and on that i a told him i never asked you even a singkle coin and you better take things back which you have given to your daughter. on other two occassions her daughter tried to implicate me in police case and because of her abnormal behaviour she received injury on her face when i retilated and dragged me to police station and forced and police men abused with me and forced me to write compromising statement on the complaint made by my wife. I have so far not filed any complaint against her as i think thta it will bring a disrepute to my image and am siliently facing all her atrocities against me, there are injuries on my neck and arms always from her side, and she hold me in her arms and at that time i am unable to breath and on various occassions she bited me on arms and legs. please guide me what is solution and how can i prove atrocities committed on me in court of law if there is any court case in future.
posted by 498A_Victim at 12:59 AM 0 comments
Tuesday, December 26, 2006

syed azimuddin - ludhiana/punjab
Name: syed azimuddinComments: 1. i am a serving army officer. i got married in 1988 to my first cousin. we had two children, son/daughter now aged 16/12. my father died in 1990 and i dont have siblings. 2. in 1999, my wife developed a relationship with my subordinate colleague which i have reasons enough to believe developed into an extra marital affair and culminated in adultery. my wife accepts the fact that she met the man in a hotel, but denies having sexual relations with him which i find difficult to believe till date, the reason being that after a month of this liaison she had conceived but claimed the child to be mine because she was having unprotected sex with me too. nevertheless, we already had two children and i was not aware of her illegal liaison till that time. so in the mistaken belief that the child was mine, we went in for an abortion. it was only later that i discovered the whole plot but by that time it was too late to ascertain anything medically.3. being very close relatives, i continued the marriage in the belief that things will work out, even though arguments did occur betwen us over my inability to forget the episode and her intransigence to enjoy our marriage physically and emotionally to the extent that i wanted. things might have improved, but my wife continued to show signs of showing undue interest in other men. in 2003, i overheard her talking on phone to another man in very suggestive tones. when confronted, she made up some unlikely story to divert the issue. in 2005 i again overheard her telephonic talk to another man intimately. my confronting her caused her to beg forgiveness. these are some of the instances which i have highlighted her compulsive obsession to have unwanted relationships with other men. 4. in the absence of any other male member in the family, she is the sole able bodied adult to support my mother and kids. while her work towards them and the household is not at fault, it is her characterless misconduct which worries and irks me. everyone advises me to continue in the marriage for the sake of kids. but i am fed up of living an isolated life with the nagging fear that my wife is involved with some man or the other, which is very easy for her to conceal behind the garb of her job and domestic responsibilities. my mother and kids have distanced themselves from me due to these developments. of late, she has also shown signs of mental imbalance especially during violent arguments when she starts foaming at the corners of her mouth. i have asked my uncle/father in law to have her checked medically as also requested him to consider divorce under muslim law.5. may i request for some advice on the issue.
posted by 498A_Victim at 10:47 PM 0 comments

rajesh shaw - kolkata/ west bengal
Name: rajesh shawComments: I got married on 7th of march 2001. It was a arranged marriage. She is sister in law (Nanad) of my elder sister. From the first day of marriage she astrted harrasing me mentaly by saying I am not smart & handsome & used many adjective about my poor persona.Every night when I go to sleep she kept on talking unnessesary things which I dont see any relation with me or her till morning. Slowly slowly I realised that she has some mental problems. She loved to go out & do other activities than daily household chores. After one month of our marriage I went out station for some work when I came back after 4 days she was in violent mood. she was throwing everything on everybody & abusing everyone of our house. she was totally uncontrolable. We contacted a mental doctor in southern avenue (Dr. Partha sarthy)he treated her for short period meanwhile we informed her family in Bihar(Kesaria)her brother came & he conffesed that she had some mental problems & they used to take her patna for treatment.then we asked him to take her back for few days.After 4 month when my father died she came with her parent & stayed with us but this time she become more violent again on 17th Decemv\ber 2001 I took her to her parent place.After 3 month we received a call from her parent to take her back but I refused to take her back & in August 2002 they came & forcily leave her they also created scene in front of our neighbour.This time she used to tap my bedroom door whole night & kept on using abusive languages It was really unbearable for me & my family to tolerate her.We again contacted her parent to come they came & this time they started telling bad things about me & my family to my locality & one day when they were abusing us some local Goon &(A lady who is involved in politics & she has some difference with me)enterd my house with some people & assaulted my brother & me in front of may people & also called local thana a police wala came & he beated me & my brother with his boot in front of so many people. we were in mental trauma & even i was thinking of commiting sucide. I was forced to stay with her. From that days she make it a point even for small issue she used to ran out of house & create scene in front of local people. I was so scared to talk to her. Even for small matter she alway waits for mid night & starts crying loudly to attract attention & 0n 23 march 2005 by hearing her crying somebody called police & they took me & my elder brother to polise station & kept us in lock up for whole night. After comming from lock up & went to patna to her brothers house & tell them everything & requested them to bring her . in the mean time she stared saying everybody she is pregnant & we are not providing her food when my family asked her to go to doctor for further check up she refused. Her brother took her to patna & in september they called me & informed she gave birth to a boy baby but we were very scared to bring her back but after one year I contacted her family & went to patna to see my baby & took cloths for whole family & her. there her sister in law(Bhabhi) & brother assured ne that now she will not harrase & live peacefully I asked them to come after deewali even I given them train fare to come. Now my family loves my small baby very much & it is imposible for me & my family to live with out him but she again started abusing me & my brother & Bhabhi right now I am in very deep mental tension & it is very difficult for me to live with her whole life. Nowadays she says she will again go to police & also inform her family that I am torturing her. what should I do I want custody of my child & get rid of her
posted by 498A_Victim at 12:44 PM 0 comments

Arpit Sharma - Ludhiana
Name: Arpit SharmaComments:
The basic problem i realise is that all the cases are concoted by her parents , They feel like rebuking our family , i do not understand where it all went wrong , she has been picked uo by her parents to make a rucus , she has also terminated her first pregnanacy without evening me knowing that she was pregnant. they are ca middle class family but act like they are richest people on earth . we went for a mutual divorce but as the application was placed before the one year completion of marriage the petition was dismissed . in the petition it was mentioned that there are no claims to be settled . then one of my friends approached to save our family then he also realised that it was not worth taking the call , now when i called up to file in a new mutual divorce petition the girl is threatening to use all the armours which this stupid goverenment has provided io these ladies.
posted by 498A_Victim at 6:41 AM 0 comments

sandeep singh - dehradun
Name: sandeep singhComments: married for the last 10 years.my wife's total remote with her mother.left after 1 year of marriage with my 40 days old child,never came back till three & a half years.i got her back after she initiated to talk & was apologetic for the past activity,i also had in mind the career of my son,whom i saw after 3 & a half years.during the period of seperation took all the jewellery,certificates,clothes & every thing back.again now living with her mother.left my 4 years old kid at mussoorie where i work,with my staff without informing me.put an application in police station with false allegations like dowry,phisical abuse etc.need help as we are a repected family with my father being a retired army officer,mother principal of a govt. school & myself general manager of a chain hotel at mussoorie.this lady has always given priority to materialistic things & never to emotions or good up bringing of our children.recently shifted six months before from agra.even my total house hold stuff is also lying with her in her house as she wanted during our shifting.kindly also advice on anticipatory bail as what i know is that there is nothing of this kind prevailing in uttaranchal.
posted by 498A_Victim at 12:31 AM 0 comments
Monday, December 25, 2006

kausik - kolkata
Name: kausikComments: My name is piyali and I'm writing on behalf of my brother kausik who got married at the age of 39yrs.Just immediately after his marriage his wife started having problem living with him and would scream or create problem with abrupt mood swings. To maintain peace in the family (father was a heart patient)kausik tried to fulfil her wives desire at his level best. They had a baby girl on aug'2005 when the actual problem started. Kausik's wife (and her family members) started claiming everything for her daughter and blackmailing about filing for 498a.As a result of that our father had cerebral attack and died on 17th nov2005. Since then she is threatening us and left her in-laws place on May2006 and didn't come back but asking kausik to follow whatever she says otherwise she will go to the police. We are seeking help from a lawyer who adviced kausik to wait until she file for 498a. Now my qs. is can we take any preventive steps before she does anything like that?
posted by 498A_Victim at 11:03 PM 0 comments

Manu - Columbus OH
Name: ManuComments: They are not willing to negotiate. They want to wait for court results.
posted by 498A_Victim at 7:38 PM 0 comments

Nitul - Delhi
Name: NitulComments: My married life was disturbed because of undue interference of my father in law and non supportive behaviour of my wife. They made a life hell with their undue demands like buy everything under sky in just 2 months of marriege. she is not living with me apperently since april 2006 but finally left home on June 19 2006. since then she took up job in aug 2006 and working now. she took all her belongings like clothes , jwellery. even she took belongings i bought for house hold. now only bed tv and washing machine are left at home in hyderabad ( we were living in hyd after marriege as hyd is my job location, parents were not living with us). all her belongings i mentioned above were return in writing to her. I am in delhi for project work but her father called my HR at hyderabad and made undue inquiries which hinder my proffesional growth too. she made many undue demands like buy sofa buy ac get all means at home at once. dont save for insurance why i sleep late on sat sunday. she never cook food it's my duty to arrange food before 8:30 pm or else i have to listen whole night. my first gas cylinder i bought in dec 2005 got over in july 2006 ( so u can imagine how much food is cooked at my home.) daily food expenses crossed 800-1000 Rs sometimes at my home as only packed food comes. latest she use to call me and threaten me of dare consequences she said she will destroy my life her father also do lot abuse. she abuse my parents my family. I am fed up of this. please let me know if i was able to explain my situation or it was just emotional fool explanation. and im still paying 5200 rs rent in hyderabad for that home as her tv bed washing machine kept there. what to do i cant understand.please help
posted by 498A_Victim at 8:38 AM 1 comments

lalit - delhi
Name: lalitComments: Staying with my 75 year old mother, my daughter and my wife.
Mother in law is doing all wrongs by 1. Influencing negatively my wife. 2. Interferes in all small and big issues of my family. 3. Threatens me for 498 a case as well as tells me to get out of my own house. 4. Blame me and my family for all fights and even cruel behavior of my wife. 5. My wife had abused my and my mother. 6. Shouting at top of the voices, by my wife and mother in law.
posted by 498A_Victim at 1:23 AM 0 comments

PRASHANT M. SHENOY - VASAI/MAHARASHTRA
Name: PRASHANT M. SHENOYComments: She left on 28.7.2002. She is non-metric. She doesn't work. She doesn't know household works. I filed divorce suit against her on cruelty ground at Palghar court in July, 2002. She filed maintenance application u/s 125 at Baroda Court in November, 2002. My salary certificate given for Rs.6000/-. I work for my brother's business at paitning site supervisor. First, interim-maint. of 750/- passed then Rs.2000/- passed. The she filed review, then 2500/- passed. Now notpaid maint. since Jan.'06. Divorce mayget passed ex-parte as she did not contesting, only application for transfer made.
posted by 498A_Victim at 12:26 AM 0 comments

parminder singh - NEW DELHI
Name: parminder singhComments: i had married a girl on 18 nov2005 but on my first night she told me to leave my parents but i refuesed after few month ie march 2006 she threw the chuda from her hands on seeing this my mother called her parents to solve the matter but they blaimed us for not taking care of her after that on 21 june2006 they again came abused & tried to beat me ,my parents & took there daughter with them .my mother in law told us that she will get the baby aborted (the whole neighbours are witness of this thing) but they didnt do that because we had the proof of pregnacy with .on 3 dec baby boy got birth now when i ask my wife to come now she is sayig to give mantaince of child & herself plz advice me what to do
posted by 498A_Victim at 12:06 AM 0 comments
Sunday, December 24, 2006

arup - Kolkata
Name: arupComments: My wife had been complaining almost since the time she came to our household that my mother has been harassing her mainly with her comments.She has been accusing my mother of trying to separate us and trying to throw her out of the house. At first I listened to her and tried to convince her that she should not worry about that. Later on I noticed that she is clinically paranoid.She thinks everybody around her is conspiring against her. I even talked to a psychiatrist about her syptoms.The doctor is quite convinced that she is paranoid and wants her to be taken to a psychiatrist. My wife even thinks that she talks to her dead grandfather and grandmother who are in heaven. Through them she can know everything that is sinister going around her. She even thinks that she talks to souls of Filmstars, sportspersons, famous personalities etc. Her mothher is also involved in this with her and she mainatains a vice like grip on the daughter. I talked to her father recently about she should be taken to a psychiatrist. But he tried to browbeat me and threatened me saying you work in a govt organisation. The unsaid thing is the moment you try to do something 498A will be applied and you would be suspended . Her mother has recently thrtened my mother with Police case. By the way no dowry was demanded during and paid during my marriage. whatever, ornaments she had brought in was promptly reurned back to her without any receipt. Howver, aone piece of ornament costing about (40000-50000) went missing .
Advice me on how to go about it all. Should I start consulting a lawyear. I am planning to change my job and move to a new location . Would that be of any help?
posted by 498A_Victim at 11:33 PM 0 comments

Natarajan - chennai
Name: NatarajanComments: Filed for dissolution of marriage in 2005 april.Wife filed for restitution of conjugal rights in july 2005 pondicherry. Transfer of chennai case to pondicherry after 1 year. They seem to want settlement, i am not talking to them directly or indirectly , they want to speed up the case. Wifes father and lawyer threatened me outside family court that they will use prowomen laws against me,father-in-law rich . Want your advice as to how to protect myself against a potential 498a.
posted by 498A_Victim at 9:25 PM 0 comments

PRAFUL - Mulund/Mumbai/Maharashtra
Name: PRAFULComments: hi,
i am married for last 3 years.but not happy at all with the marriage life.Intially she would just ignore my parents and abuse them.when it reached the certain hieghts but father seperated me and wife from the family and currently i am living with my wife and my son (2 yrs)in my fathers owned flat nearby.but once we shifted there she didnt stopped my abusing my family.she is literaaly torturing me everyday.she just likes spending money.she even started arousing my son against me.she teaches all the wrong things to my son.which are against me and my family.Previously i thought she had some problem with thw mother and my brothers wife but for last 1 and half years living with her alone i think she is not happy with me also.In last 3 years of marriage i have sent to her mother house 4 to 5 times and everytime her parents would drop her at my home saying that she would not repeat again.Even sending the court notice twice but not helpful.eveytime she arouses me saying anything against me so that i can beat her and she would shout and cry for help from the neighbours and say that i am beating her.i think she has some mental problem.Please help me out from this.i love my child very much.
posted by 498A_Victim at 8:54 PM 6 comments
Saturday, December 23, 2006

Dr Mohd.Ashraf - kerala
Name: Dr Mohd.AshrafComments: sir,
I am a 37 yr old postugraduate doctor(MD medicine),working in UAE.I married 10yrs back a NRI girl and she was a plus 2 student at that time.Immediately after marriage both us together went to Manipal/karnataka for my MD course.During this time she discontinued her studies.There she give birth to my first son.After finishing my studies we came back to kerala and I started my pracice.During this time we were very happy and after 1yr she gave birth to my second son.After 2yrs I came to UAE and joint in govt service here.Immedeately I brought she and my children to UAE.Children were going school here and we were happy.
In early 2005 I notieced some changes in her behaviour,like she was always sitting in front of computer and chatting with her friend(girl by name).Usually I am coming late in the night after my work and some times I will have night duties.One day night,when I came back she was plying chess with her friend.But I was doubtful,then I repeatedly asked her about the friend,and finally she revealed that that is a boyfriend from Andra pradesh.I warned her not to repeat this.BUT she continued it and slowly started to keep a distance from me.
On 2005 june she came with children to India and stayed 4-5 days in my house and went to her house.After 1month I came back from UAE,but she totally avoided me and refused to came to my house and UAE.I was very much depressed and I came back alone to UAE.During this time she informed that she is still loving her internet friend and if she is having a life she will live with him only.During this time some many relatives tried to solve this problem.But she didnot agree.Her father was very cunning and he told me that she will come back with me once she gets the money which he has given to me durring our marrieage(Nearly 17 Lacks).I agreed to pay the money with a written document.I payed the money with documental evidence in which she and her father sighned.But after receiving money she refused to come with me and she told me to remarry.
Then my parents become angry and they told me to remarry.As I Was a muslim I have all the right to re marry.I did it on 26/5/06(thu).My children were staying with her at that time.On 29/5/06(sun.morning around 8a.m)police came to my house and told me that SI want to see me. Then I went to police station and he told me that there is 498a charge against me.By 1 pm they arrested me and by 5pm.As it was sunday and there was no APP magistrate remanded me in to sub-jail.Acyually I was planning to to go to UAE on 30/5/06 to sign contract for my new job. My father in law know this and he want to stop this.For that he did the same.In the FIR she complained that I was harrassing her for the last 10yrs and I hold her neck in her house on 25/5/06 to get permission to remarry(according to islamic rule first wifes permission not needed to remarry).My advocate told all this points in court and i got conditional bail on 30/5/06(Mon).
Next day police S.I Submitted a request in the court to withhold my passport.But the court didnot agree it and told me to go and work abroad but I should attened the court 29/10/06 and my mother got bail from Kerala H.C.
Now the real game started,her parents afraid about the case and they dinot get witnesses from my village and her father is a criminal .He married thrice and divorced one.I also got information that he made a wrong birth certificate for his son,s daughter as his daughter and took passport with that birth certificate to bring her to gulf. I got all this papers and I am going to file a case against him.I want he is to punish.He is challengin Indian penal code.He gave a false complaint against this innocent doctor.I want to proove in court that he is the real criminal(because he and his wife is the only witness in my case and they are fake.)Now he is trying to negotiate. I didnot agree. I will file demation also.
Next week I am going to file case for the custody of my chidren.I use to send RS2000 for her(by money order)but 2 months back she return back it.Then my advocate told me not to send any more money.
What is your openion about this case.I will win if it goes forward or I want to go for a settlement outside court(they will agree for it).But I WANT TO BRING THIS LEGAL TERRORISTS INFRONT OF COURT.plz advice me
yours faithfullyDrMohammed Ashraf
posted by 498A_Victim at 9:39 PM 1 comments
Friday, December 22, 2006

Sachin - Hyderabad
Name: SachinComments: Dear Sir,My name is sachin and I'm from hyderabad. I have watched the video posted "http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ESW6JEtgvm0&NR". I got your contact from there.
I got married last year in Nov 2005. I'm facing problem from my wife due to her misbehaviour with my parents and myself. I'm suspecting a 498A charges from my in-laws side. But before that I want to help myself to protect my family and me from 498A. We have not asked anything to them at all neither do we need any. We are well to do family and I'm a software engineer earning a good salary and working in Indias top IT company. My sister stays in US with her family there. So there is no question of asking for it. As the bride's side donot have any other legal weapon I'm suspecting 498A.
Could you please tell me how I could prove my innocense. Can I record the conversations and show it as proof? What are the various other ways I can keep as proof ? Pls help.
Regards,Sachin
posted by 498A_Victim at 12:57 PM 0 comments

Biju - Kerala
Name: BijuComments: I filed a case on Oct 4 th to declare my marriage as null and void in family court kerala after that she got the notice from family court due to this reaction she failed a false complient in Madivala police station bangalore under section IPC 3,4 34 498A on oct 19 th.
I was working at client side in HP Police came with arreset warent in the office at that time i was not there one of my friend informed about this.
Due to this client terminate me with immediate. Right now i am job less. I lost my job.
Please help me.
Regards
Biju9895158458 Mobile
posted by 498A_Victim at 12:45 AM 0 comments
Thursday, December 21, 2006

manoj - Hubli / Karnataka
Name: manojComments: My wife who deserted me on 19/4/04 filed G&W 18 of 2006 before P CJ (Sn Dn) Hubli on 21/7/06 after a Police Complaint u/s 498A accusing me of kidnapping my own girl child Ekta. Thereafter, Court ordered my wife on 27/9/06 to live with me. She acted accordingly for 2 months with a plan to take the child Ekta from me to emotionally blackmail me. As conspired, she took child Ekta on 30/11/06 uninformed and against Court orders and refusing to allow me from meeting child. She is also not coming before the Court after taking the child because the G&W filed by her with the prayer seeking child custody does not survive. She is suffering from schiophrenia unwilling to be treated. Whereas, there is no such record.
posted by 498A_Victim at 10:33 PM 0 comments

ujjwal - Bangalore / Karnataka
Name: ujjwalComments: SirI am a married man, married in 2003 without any dowry. Now I am aware of the misuse of Dowry Prevention Act, IPC 498A. Although I have faith in my wife yet I get alarmed by noticing statistics, (symptoms as mentioned in one of PDF files in saveindianfamily.org) and learning such stories.
I read an article in http://india.indymedia.org/en/2006/07/211853.shtml. It was suggested that,
" A joint declaration should be signed by both husband and wife that they have not taken any dowry in marriage, and so their problems are not related to dowry harassment. "
Do you think such a joint declaration can safeguard the dowry harassment for the period before signing the declaration or throughout life?
Please advice or comment on this. If applicable could you please mention vital points that should be mentioned in the above mentioned declaration. Also, will court or police accept such declaration made on plain paper?
SincerelyU HazraE-mail: ujjwalhazra@yahoo.com
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:26 AM 0 comments
Wednesday, December 20, 2006

Pankaj Goyal - Gurgaon
Name: Pankaj GoyalComments: My wife wants to call me in AGRA she wants to live there near to her family. Only this is a issue between us and this has became a big issue. If you help me I'll be very oblige to you. thanks, Pankaj Goyal
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Shujjatali Khan - Mumbai
Name: Shujjatali KhanComments: My wife has filed a divorce case in August 2005 along with permanent custody of my son who is now 3yrs and maintainance.
She is a hindu by birth but during marriage out of her own wish and consent she converted to Islam.My son is born a muslim and his circussicium is also done.
She had put a lot of false allegations in the petition on which i have requested for a trial and now after a year she has put a declaration saying that i am no longer a muslim and have reconverted to Hinduism and that the case does not subsist.
I was deprived of meeting my son but later got permission for just 04hrs in the entire month which is bad.
My son is not atall happy with her and had said to the judge that he wants to live with me once when the judge was councilling us both.
I want us to reunite as in this stressfull world todays all relationships do not go a very long way but it is just the understanding that helps to clear the storms.
She is desperate for a divorce and was going through relationships after she got seperated and just gives 01 hr. to my son daily apart from her work offs.
I am too depressed with this injustice happening to my son as he is just used as a weapon for her own merry making.
This is the prime reason i am still fighting but things are just loosing shape for me as this law is totally favouring women even if they are wrong.
I had clearly stated that to the judge that just mere on one persons allegations which she has not even prooved how the court can stop me meeting my son. I can understand if things are prooved and i am fount guilty but here just on mere words the law should not deprieve my son from meeting me as this is unfair for him to be deprieved of fathers love.
I am too keen to fight till my last breath for my son and i need your support.
I have a good lawyer with me and she is also keen on the same.
Awaiting your advise.
Regards,
Shujjatali Khan9820140080
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KAUSIK RAY - Kolkata
Name: KAUSIK RAYComments: My wife left our home( she was staying with me & my father) for her parental residence about 8 months back...she was pregnant when she left home.....she has conceived our child (girl) about 3 weeks back.....she or her family (my wife is staying with her father, mother & mentally challenged brother) did not inform me of birth of our daughter...came to know of it through common acquaintances.......her father during this period did not allow me to enter his house or to speak to my wife on phone...there was no communication from their end either to me or to my father...did not entertain any efforts by my relatives to contact her or mediate.
On insistence of common friends her father allowed me only to just see my daughter about 2 weeks back for a period of half an hour at her home....henceforth they also allowed my father to see his granddaughter in presence of common friends only once for 15 minutes at his residence where my wife is still staying .
All this is because of a tiff between my wife and me the day she left our home . She has in the 4 year marital life of ours also previously left our home for her parental residence on a couple of more occasions in whimsical fashion making petty allegations (most of which are later found out to be wrong founded.)
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Srinivas - Bangalore
Name: SrinivasComments: My wife stayed for 45 days that to shuttling between her native and bangalore.On 20th spet she left for her parents house and subsequently refused to return on grounds that she was interested in her classmate and would like to marry him.Reason attributed for accepting arranged marriagewas peer pressure.Even during her brief stay she has made abnormal calls to her friend(class mate she loved)evidence of calls avialable.Now having agreed for mutual consent divorce,they are back tracking and treatening with section 498A.How do i take care of my mother and my slef against such threat and misuse of 498A.
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Tuesday, December 19, 2006

Nagaraj Shenoy - Mumbai
Name: Nagaraj ShenoyComments: I, a marine engineer got married in the year 1996 to one Ms Purnima Bhat, now Mrs. Nisha Shenoy. She gave the impression of being ambitious & career minded, which was fine with me as nowadays almost all ladies are career oriented. We ( the 2 of us only ) used to stay in Charkop
But came to know later ( after marriage ) that she was not at all interested in marriage & was forced to marry by her parents. There marriage was not consumated. She was highly moody & least interested in married life. She had psychological propblems & often used to get violent swings. We had also taken her to an organisation called PRERNA for treatment which she refused to continue. She avoided going out with me & used to tell me not to come back from shipping contracts very soon. Becoz of this I used to be out on ship for more than 9 months continuously. This she used to do so that in my absence she can do whatever she wants with the money I used to send her. She used to spend water like money & has done a number of courses in which she has no interest at all. She never used to like anybody coming in our house & used to create tantrums when we had people around us. She ultimately left our house in 2001 & after that I have filed for Divorce, which she is dragging o!n only to harrass me & get hefty alimony from me. All attempts for a mutual settlement has fallen on her deaf ears & refuses to settle it amicably. Her application for interim maintenance has cost me Rs. 2.5 Lacs as of now & Rs. 10,000/- pm till the case is over.
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Nagaraj - Mumbai / Maharashtra
Name: Nagaraj Comments: I, a marine engineer got married in the year 1996 to one Ms Purnima Bhat, now Mrs. Nisha Shenoy. She gave the impression of being ambitious & career minded, which was fine with me as nowadays almost all ladies are career oriented. We ( the 2 of us only ) used to stay in Charkop
But came to know later ( after marriage ) that she was not at all interested in marriage & was forced to marry by her parents. There marriage was not consumated. She was highly moody & least interested in married life. She had psychological propblems & often used to get violent swings. We had also taken her to an organisation called PRERNA for treatment which she refused to continue. She avoided going out with me & used to tell me not to come back from shipping contracts very soon. Becoz of this I used to be out on ship for more than 9 months continuously. This she used to do so that in my absence she can do whatever she wants with the money I used to send her. She used to spend water like money & has done a number of courses in which she has no interest at all. She never used to like anybody coming in our house & used to create tantrums when we had people around us. She ultimately left our house in 2001 & after that I have filed for Divorce, which she is dragging o!n only to harrass me & get hefty alimony from me. All attempts for a mutual settlement has fallen on her deaf ears & refuses to settle it amicably. Her application for interim maintenance has cost me Rs. 2.5 Lacs as of now & Rs. 10,000/- pm till the case is over.
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vijay - baroda gujarat
Name: vijayComments: wife had physical relations before marriage which she disclosed to me after marriage which resulted in conflicts in our marital life
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Shujjatali Khan - Mumbai
Name: Shujjatali KhanComments: I will sent you the case history soon.
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Monday, December 18, 2006

hapless - New Delhi
Name: haplessComments: My brother (a Sikh) was married in November 2004 through arranged marriage to a girl of same religion from Delhi. After 9 months of marriage they had a daughter.
Around Dec 2005, my brother's wife went to her mother's house along with their daughter. After around 1.5 months she along with one of their relatives came to our house (when her husband, my brother was in office and only my parents where there) and took her belongings along with many other papers. After around 1 month of that incident she filed for a divorce, claiming she was harrassed and dowry was demanded and she was physical abused. All of which is ofcourse totaly false.
Some more details:The time difference between my brother's marriage and engagement was approx 1 year. Beforemarriage my brother was in UK working as an IT professional, his plan was to take his wife with him after marriage as soon as her visa and other paper formalities were completed. But due to my brother unable to renew his work permit and thus was unable to renew his own visa or procure on for his wife and had to return to India. After marriage he was in UK for about 8 months, though he visited india on 1/2 occassions.
Presently the case is being contested in court in Delhi. Our present lawyer is our second lawyer as we thought our first lawyer was not pro-active enough in presenting our case in front of the judge. Even the second lawyer we have hired we feel is not giving a good fight and is advising us to settle and give money (2 lakhs) to my bro's wife.
Our main concern is to get custody of the daughter as we dont think her mother is suitable to bring her up, and getting divorce . We dont think we should pay anymoney as we are just being blackmailed .
Can you advise as to what our options can be or how to proceed in such situation. Also a suggestion for lawyers would be v.welcome.
many thanks.
posted by 498A_Victim at 5:40 AM 0 comments
Sunday, December 17, 2006

GANPAT V PATIL - Goa
Name: GANPAT V PATILComments: My name is Ganpat v Patil age 33 married 3 years back. I have 8 months old son. First two years everything was ok but ever since my wife went for delivery at her parents place last january she never came back to me. Ever since the child is born she has started abusing me emotionaly and mentally. she is not even allowing me to see my son nor willing to meet me or talk to me. she says she wants to stay seperate with her parents and wants divorce with custoday of son. Because of this i have totally gone into depression and due to this i have even lost my MNC job.Now she does not have any feeling towards me nor she has any softcorner towards me. She does not have any valid reason for doing this. All she wanted was, she did not wanted my parents to live with me which i strongly opposed that time.I have not seen my son. how can i see my son as i am very attached to him. Also i want my wife back.can some one help me and take me out of this pain.
posted by 498A_Victim at 10:42 PM 0 comments

Deepak - delhi
Name: DeepakComments: Hi,I got married about two years back.We always fight from the first day itself.They are rich and we are from simple family.Her father is retired ACP delhi.She has two sisters and two brothers.Sheis the yongest one.We dont have good sexual relation from the start.She has no relation with my parents also.She dont coperate and I also also have premature ejaculation.So she remains to be physically unsatisfied.Now aroundtwo month back she left my home and scared me to file case against me for dowry and women crime cellNow Her family seems to be behind her.What should I do?
posted by 498A_Victim at 9:36 PM 0 comments

Yogesh - New Delhi
Name: YogeshComments: How Can we find the precedents (Judgements)made by Honble High Court & Supreme court in this regard?
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Rohini Kadam - Thane
Name: Rohini KadamComments: Date of marriage of my Elder brother:3rd June06.Fights from day1 of marriage.Sister in law's name:Jyoti.Her behaviour was not cooperative,understanding.she never used to do any work at home.it seemed she never wanted to get married with my brother.and her family forced her into this relationship.we found her behaviour suspicious when she used to chat on phone for hours.we now think she had an affair with some1 in past.she used to go to her mother's home in pune very frequently.when we used to oppose her she used to start a fight.and because of her behaviour my brother was very disturbed.he started losin control frequently.but never never hit her.only thing was he used some bad language/bad words to scold her.his wife's uncle has also filed a false NC'tht my brother had beaten him' against him to frighten him.After that my brother decided to take a devorce from her and we sent a notice thru our lawyer which is returned undelivered.because she didnt accepted it.then we sent the notice thru email and after reading tht her family contacted my brother and begged him to accept her.so we allowed her to come home.but hewr behaviour didn changed at all.but became more worse.she also started behaving badly with my mother and me which was not the case earlier.she used to behave decently with us.From begining my brother's wife used to threaten us tht she wil file a case against us u/s 498.and put us behind the bars.Case Status:FIR Lodged.we have beened jailed for few hours in thane jail.we got a bail now we are waiting for the future proceedings,of which we are completely unaware of.FIR details:1.My brother has beaten her with a stick.2.we are demanding money to start a new business.3.we are also demanding funds to buy new car.4.we also demanding gold.5.we ve torturted her mentaly and physicaly.and also kept her empty stomache for days.Her ornaments or Stree dhan is in our home but when she went to her home she locked it in her locker nd went.she has not mentioned about it in the FIR.
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kiran kulkarni - nagpur
Name: kiran kulkarniComments: wife's father & relatives force her to file 498a after my quarrel with father-in-law ,we were arrested by police coz a phone call from a minister secretary was given to nagpur police(SP) WE(I & mother father)later given bail, when we went to yeola(dist:nasik) to sort out the problem by cool discussion my father in law forcebally took a mutual divorce consent signed by me with Rs 1 lakh & stridhan (even which doesn't belong's to wife)father-in-law have criminal back ground gathered 50-60 local history shitter's of his place to who threaten me for my & relative's for life and hitted us if i dont sign the paperafter 4 month's wife came to nagpur she on his own went to court after 6 months & filled application to with draw the case the case have been with drawn on 26th june 2006 but still she & her father frighten me to put another case and they dominate me what i should do?
posted by 498A_Victim at 4:47 AM 0 comments

pradip kumar pal - nagpur
Name: pradip kumar palComments: Dr Sir/Madam,,, My case totally different. after several harrashment and cruelty i filed a case of divorce no 354/2004 and the H'ble Nagpur Family Court declared my plea with exparty decree in my favour on 14th feb 2005 with no cost and dissolved the decree of divorce. now my ex wife was being a W.B govt school teacher still earning and emplyed in same orgination and challenges the case filed with MJC 26/05 at Nagpur family court on Nov 2005 where Nagpur court allow her petition with condolation of delay with cost of Rs: 500/- (Five Hundred Only---) and now case contrating on main petition filed by me and next hearing date given on 06th Jan 2007. where as in nov 2005 my ex-wife filed another case section 125 asking allumni of our one mail child aged about 3yrs now who since brith at my ex-wifes custody and also demanding false harrashment on me and my parents with alligation of rs:02lakhs and repeatedly harrashing me and my parents and also in my service places. me need proper guidance what i do in this crusial situation as i cant change my opinion or my family to accpt her as a wife and of course i am ready to accpt the child if court orders and i respect the court order still yet to come but she unnesseary demanding her challange over me and my parents and mentally creating a lots of pressure on me...pse advice ////////my contact number 09890515690 after 3pm any day///Thanking you,Yours faifhfullypradip kumar pal
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Rajan Kumar - mumbai
Name: Rajan KumarComments: WIfe not ready to compromise, work needs me to travel for ome time in a month ( say 8 - 12 days a month, not continously but in periods of 1-3 days or some times in stretch of 5 days). Never stays at home when I am not there at home or in town. There is constant nagging from inlaws to part money at regular intervals. Her father has already threatened to file case against domestic violence in case I do not part with the money they need. She is presently at her parents place post delivery & indicates that she may not return back to stay with me.
Please advice on what precautions to be taken & should I go ahead & file a case with the local police stn.
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:09 AM 0 comments
Saturday, December 16, 2006

ravi bahel - mumbai
Name: ravi bahelComments: gone to her fathers place since 4/2/06, recently she came and opened her bank locker and cabinet at home and took away all jewelery, threatens to call the police and evict me my son (24) daughter (19) and my old motther (89) from home (mothers property) and put us behind bars, had been screaming and beating her own chest and going to neighbours that we have hit her, mentally unstable and i worry that in one of her fits of rage she might do harm to my mother or even herself, i am a BE, D Mgt Sc, 55 years and now jobless for last two years since my parkinsonsons / stress and other problems have made me almost handicapped, she has become specially vicious since last two years she was called by her brother in kanpur but has not come back (except to collect jewelry -both sides)ravi
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Friday, December 15, 2006

Shibu Chakraborty - kalyan,Maharashtra
Name: Shibu ChakrabortyComments: I got married in Jan2005.It was an arranged marriage and accepted by both families.My wife's nature could be known better only after marriage.She is very independent,non attached to me and workaholic.She never tried to settle peacefully in married life.She was spenthrift and immatured by nature.Yet, I tried to pull on at times compromising and hoping she will change.To keep her happy, i did everything that was possible.Happy moments however used to be shortlived.During this period, she conceived and immediately went to her parents place to reside.Since then, she just stopped talking and the great divide happened all while she was carrying my child. All efforts to reconcile failed and I had to maintain tolerance as she was carrying.Her parents also failed to understand our situation and only protected her.My baby(son)was born in Feb 2006 but they did not give me the information directly. Being mentally tortured by all this, I had taken legal advise and filed for conjugal rights. In response, she filed for judicial separation and maintainance. Then i filed for child guardian rights and visitation rights as till date I have not been able to see my child.Matter pending in court.I am convinced that this relationship is all over and only hope for a peaceful settlement for the sake of my innocent child.May god give my wife some sense to think positively and help to resolve the issue in a dignified manner.Thank you.
posted by 498A_Victim at 8:31 PM 0 comments

arun tammannavar - thane
Name: arun tammannavarComments: case registered in local police station on 10/11/2006
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Thursday, December 14, 2006

D. Chatterjee - Kolkata, W.B.
Name: D. ChatterjeeComments: I m constantly threatened by my wife, she is not willing to give divorce. But I cant continue with her. Advice me how can I proceed
posted by 498A_Victim at 4:09 AM 0 comments
Wednesday, December 13, 2006

Prasbhakar Sarma Neog - City: Silchar, State: Assam
Name: Prasbhakar Sarma NeogComments: The problem started from day after marriage - my wife behaves very arrogantly and insensitively with my family members. She fights with my parents, never cares about her marriage and acts very childlike in these matters.
Now after 3 years of marriage she fights with me every day regarding petty issues and makes my life a living hell. I try to reduce stress/tension as far as possible, but it never works and last week she left to her parents home 300 km apart, without informing me and with our girl child who is 2.5 years old. Now she or har family members refuse to communicate with me and threatens with 498a.
posted by 498A_Victim at 5:11 AM 0 comments
Tuesday, December 12, 2006

KUMAR - A.P
Name: KUMARComments: 498 FILED BUT SHE WANTS TO RETURN BACK TO ME ALL THREE SISTERS ARE FROM PUNE ALL ARE OF THE SAME CHARECTER ALL ARE SITTIN AT THEIR HOMES.WANT A GOOD STAND FROM THIS FORUMN
posted by 498A_Victim at 5:47 AM 0 comments
Saturday, December 09, 2006

Gautam Maskara - Surat
Name: Gautam MaskaraComments: My wife is from Kanpur. She had not accepted me as her husband from day 1. She was forced to marry by her parents. She used to quarrel, insult, blame me from day 1. We didn't had any relationship till date. She said she is not interested in. I think she is already having an affair.
Presently she had asked for divorce by mutual consent. Pl. advice? If yes please mail me the format for divorce by mutual consent. Also please advice on what are the matters/precautionary measures to be looked at?
Thankx,
Gautam
posted by 498A_Victim at 9:14 AM 0 comments
Friday, December 08, 2006

Syed Ejaz Hussain - Chennai
Name: Syed Ejaz HussainComments: Marragie took place on 31-12-04 bangalore as per islamic law. She aborted 2 times without my consent. She fought and went back 3 times. With the mediation of elders brought her back. Now that she has filed to complaint the police have filed charge sheet on their behalf. It claims that I came to Bangalore on 15th March 2006. Beat her up in her home and took Refrigerator (Make and rate not mentioned) Rs.50,000/- in cash and two gold rings (weight and price not mentioned). This is the base of the case now.
posted by 498A_Victim at 3:36 AM 0 comments
Thursday, December 07, 2006

PRATEEK KHANNA - Banglaore
Name: PRATEEK KHANNAComments: My wife engaged in a physical scuffle with me on October 29 ' 2006 resulting in both of us sustaining bruises.She left my house the next day and has been staying with her parents ever since. She has now filed a false & unilateral legal suit against me and is using that to blackmail me and my family for money.
posted by 498A_Victim at 10:40 PM 0 comments
Wednesday, December 06, 2006

Gaurav Dhamija - Thane / Maharashtra
Name: Gaurav DhamijaComments: Sir,We had got married in Februray 2006. I am into Govt. Contracts business i.e. i have to fill tenders & take work & we were executing work in Bangalore. She accompanied me to Bangalore and was okay for some time & then she returned back to mumbai & was there in bangalore.She put allegations initialy that we made her work like a servant. We regularly fight as she does not bother for my siblings nor for my parents. She doubts too much on me & her parents force me to take her out regularly. She wants me to give her permission to let her go out for a job or give her pocket money for Rs. 10000/- per month. recently we had a fight and i slapped her due to which she called up the police at home & was about to lodge FIR when her parents intervened & said that i should not raise hands or else they will file a case but the fact is that my spouse does not want to adjust in joint family she wants to move out of it and that is the reason she is doing tantrums
posted by 498A_Victim at 5:13 AM 0 comments
Monday, December 04, 2006

Parminder Patial - Kangra/HP
Name: Parminder PatialComments: We are seprated from more then 2 yrs She is leaving with her parants .I want that my divorce take due to mutual concent.She is not prepared fro it even do not want to go to court and even do not want to continue with me.In IPC I do not find a suitable [lace for me. As my parants and other reltives are forcing me to remarry without all this .What should I do
posted by 498A_Victim at 8:43 PM 1 comments

R.K.ADHIKARI - BELGAUM
Name: R.K.ADHIKARIComments: MY WIFE HAVE BEEN CLAMORING FOR DISCARDING MY OLD AND AILED PARENTS. MY FATHER IS INCAPACITATED SINCE 2004 AND MY MOTHER IS A CHRONIC ARTHRITIS PATIENT. MY WIFE DOES NOT WANT TO KEEP THEM WITH US AND WANTS ME TO CHOOSE EITHER SHE OR MY PARENTS.ENRAGED OVER THE MATTER, SHE LEFT MY HOME WITH MY NOW 2 YEAR OLD SON IN JANUARY,2006 AND THREATENING TO USE 498 A AND OTHER DRACONIAN CHARGES TO HARASS ME AND MY FAMILY. RECENTLY SHE HAS SENT A COMPLAINT TO MY EMPLOYER ALLEGING CONCOCTED CHARGES. HER BROTHER NAMELY GOURI SHANKAR CHOUDHURY WORKING FOR COVANSYS INDIA PVT LTD IN MURUGESHPALYA,BANGALORE IS THE MAIN BRAIN BEHIND THE MENANCE. HE TEAMED UP WITH SOME RULING PARTY FUNCTIONARY IN KARNATAKA AND CREATING TROUBLE FOR ME.
MY WIFE THREATENING TO FILE FIR NOW. WHAT SHALL I DO ?
IN THE MEANWHILE SOME MEDIATORS ARE TRYING TO FIND A TRUCE. BUT AS THE LOVE,RESPECT AND LOYALTY LOST BETWEEN THE SPOUSES, IT IS SUGGESTED THAT THE MARRIAGE BE CALLED OFF GRACEFULLY. BUT SHE WOULD NOT AGREE AS SHE WANT TO HARASS ME. IF THE MARRIAGE TO BE CONTINUED, WHAT SAFEGUARDS DO I HAVE TO TAKE SO THAT MY WIFE WILL NOT REPEAT SUCH MISADVENTURES IN FUTURE ?
posted by 498A_Victim at 9:57 AM 1 comments
Saturday, December 02, 2006

nirupam - Delhi
Name: nirupamComments: She abuses me and my family member.Claiming to do dowry case on me and family
posted by 498A_Victim at 12:49 AM 0 comments
Thursday, November 30, 2006

Jeyaguru - Bangalore/Karnataka
Name: JeyaguruComments: She deserted at the time of death of my baby and went to her home on August 2005. And then on there was no communiocation between us, I have filed the divorce petition on April, 2006. There were 4-5 hearing happened already. They filed Objection to the divorce case. They filed maintenance case also. After all these they went and filed the Dowry case on 25-Nov-2006. FIR has been filed and they arrested my sister. I am fighting my case. Please advice me how to proceed on this
posted by 498A_Victim at 4:07 AM 2 comments

sujjan - bangalore
Name: sujjanComments: would provide full details which i have submitted for my divorce in court
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:15 AM 0 comments
Tuesday, November 28, 2006

Ravi - Nagpur
Name: RaviComments: I got married to this girl in May 2005 in Bangalore. I am from Karnataka but doing job in defence in Nagpur. Our marriage was decided by a match maker. Her father is a lecturer and a severe alcohol addict and hence has no control over his family. Her mother is a home-maker. Soon after marriage I found out that the marriage was forced upon her. I happened to get her e mail password and discovered that she has plenty of boyfriends and they were all sending her mails of obscene contents. She had some passionate mails to a Telugu Software Guy about how un lucky she is for not marrying him. Even her mobile is full of such obscene messages. When I opposed to that and sought an explanation she said her friends are all at distant places and mere SMS exchange makes no different as they can not have sex over phone!I am a Scientist in Defence and a Class I officer. Eversince her misdeeds were found out she became violent and started threatening all of us about putting us behind bars by invoking a false dowry harrassment case. Some how I pushed throgh month in the hope that the things may improve. However, things went worst, She is pregnat and I happened to hear from a colleqague of mine that she spreading around that we are pestering her for the dowry. Then I decided that I would file a divorce case aginst which I filed on 20th of Nov 2006. When specail bailif came to deliver the petition she flatly refused to take the petition. She called her father and has threatened all of us that she would file a case against us under Domestic Violence Act, Sec 498 a etc. I have not recieved any dowry, but still she says that she can send me behind bars since it is non-bailable offence and since I am a central govt. employee I will lose my job and prestige in the society. She is holding this as a bargain against us. Her father has even owed that he would put a false and frivulous story of us in Udaya TV or ETV Crime dairy / Story to malign our reputation in the soceity. Under these conditions what I am supposed to do? How can I avoid the arrest? If I go behind bars for 48 hours I will be suspended. Please advice me about how can I escape from this situation.
posted by 498A_Victim at 8:50 AM 1 comments

nilesh bodhi - Pune
Name: nilesh bodhiComments: I m from Pune and wife from Sangli..I got married on 21/04/2002..My wife is a doctor..For the first 2-3 months she stayed fine..I was not having a good job..by the way I m a software engg..After that her mother came from sangli to Pune permanently and then she demanded to stay seperate..but still i got seperated from my family after 6 months from marraige..then we were leaving on rent..she was pregnant and she went to her mother for delivery and since delivery she never returned back..I told her so many times, visited so many times but she abused me, my parents, my relatives when we visited her house..there is no one in her family except the old mother whose age is 65 years..and now after 3 years she filed a petition for divorce demanding 2lakhs for herself and 4000 p.m for the child..she is working and has bought a new car(maruti 800) and a booked a new flat costing around 9 lakhs..in the petition she has said that i m having an affair and she is not working anywhere..I dont know what to do? please guide me
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Monday, November 27, 2006

sunil gupta - dehradun
Name: sunil guptaComments: i am alone since last 15 yrs.because my wife's nature is very bad and like quarrelies and she torchered me in many many times she had filed wrong and fordge many cases in police, mahila cell, mahila ayoge and faimily courts also. She is problum creater for me and she is totaly black mailer. She like only money not me as husband. we have two child one is daughter(19 yrs.) and one is son (18yrs.).please help me - what can i do ??? She is doing misuse of law and wwant to get undue advantege and herrash me. she is continiewed theretin me and uses abuse words against me in courts and public place and also my business place but all are favouring her being a women. I culd not understand that if is every man is wrong then no arguments if right man has right for justice then why one sided ??????
posted by 498A_Victim at 6:37 PM 0 comments

sunil gupta - dehradun
Name: sunil guptaComments: i am alone since last 15 yrs.because my wife's nature is very bad and like quarrelies and she torchered me in many many times she had filed wrong and fordge many cases in police, mahila cell, mahila ayoge and faimily courts also. She is problum creater for me and she is totaly black mailer. She like only money not me as husband. we have two child one is daughter(19 yrs.) and one is son (18yrs.).please help me - what can i do ??? She is doing misuse of law and wwant to get undue advantege and herrash me.
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sunil gupta - dehradun
Name: sunil guptaComments: i am alone since last 15 yrs.because my wife's nature is very bad and like quarrelies and she torchered me in many many times she had filed wrong and fordge many cases in police, mahila cell, mahila ayoge and faimily courts also. She is problum creater for me and she is totaly black mailer. She like only money not me as husband. we have two child one is daughter(19 yrs.) and one is son (18yrs.).please help me - what can i do ???
posted by 498A_Victim at 6:28 PM 0 comments

Tanjit singh - amritsar
Name: Tanjit singh Comments: from the first week of marriage wife asking me to leave my old and infirm parents, regularly goes and spends months at her parents housetwo days after the birth of my son my father in law created a sceneat the hospital some how with help of neighbours she stayed on for 40 days and then left for a year asking me to leave my parentsCame back after a year would not let my parents touch my son wtried my best but she used to drop him daily at my in laws and would not even let me keep him4 months ago she pushed my 68 year old mother and took her belongings
filed a case with human rights police is trying to solve i am being pressurised to leave my parentsalso my MD final exam is 4 months away
did not take a single penny in dowery i swear
do advise and help
posted by 498A_Victim at 1:49 PM 0 comments

Ramkrishan - Delhi
Name: RamkrishanComments: My wife has been harrasing me since the day of marriage, mainly because my elder brother got divorced earlier. She kept threatening me that she will bring our whole family on road. She took all the jewellary my mother gave to her, and replaced it with exact duplicate one within 3 months of marriage, I only came to know about it accidently. she keep forcing me to buy things, take loan to take a separate apartment. My sister bought an aparment for me, and we shifted after 5 months of marriage. But she keep harassing me, and finally left me in April 2006 after informing the police. I got so mentally tortured and tried to even commit suicide. However, now she is again threatening me along with his family to go to court. I really don't know what she wants from me. please advise me about a good lawyer in shahdara area in Delhi to get anticipatory bail under section 498a
posted by 498A_Victim at 5:28 AM 0 comments

sivabalan - Malaysia
Name: sivabalanComments: Dear sir,My name is Sivabalan 38 years. My wife's name Sareswathy 36years. We have 4 kids (13,10,6 and4 years old). We always have arguments and quarrels. But for the past 1 year our quarrels become more worse. Due to this i slabbed her twice. Our problem is caused by her new friend. Due to my jeallousy, i stop her from contacting her friend, but she refused and continue the friendship. Due to my anger, i scolded her with some bad words. After that our relationship become more worst untill we never communicate each other for past 6 months. Its all happen due to my jeallousy and hot tempered. I realised and ask for appologize, but she refused. Recently on mid of september she go to her mothers house and stay there. I try to talked with her mother and brother to advice her and call her back. She said everything is over and she told me that she no more love me and cannot live together anymore. In early october i received a divorce noticed from her lawyer. I try to talked to her but cannot. The chilren are still with me. She told me that she will take the children from me legally. Dear sir, I made a big mistake. Now i realise. I really love her very much. I cannot live without her. My wife and children are everything for me. I dont know how to save my family. Please help me to save my family. Please dont ignore my mail due to i am a malaysian.Thank you.
posted by 498A_Victim at 12:24 AM 0 comments
Sunday, November 26, 2006

Kaushal Gadani - Ahmedabad, Gujarat
Name: Kaushal GadaniComments: My Marriage take place in Baroda on dated. 29-5-2006. After marriage she come to my house and live with my family. after some day quarrel with my mom & dad and asking to me pl drop to her to her father house at baroda. but called her mother and father at ahmedabad. after they come they give advise to their daughter regarding work and how to live with family. after this she spent 15 days with my family after that once again she quarrel with my family on that day evening she left my house and gone my elder brother house. we are seraching for her after my brother call we found her in his house. that night we spend their next morning she come to my house with me. after 2-3 days it happens once again. that time i took her to his father home at baroda and tell them stay her for few days and give her to advise. after that we all (My self, My father, Mother and My Uncle and Aunty) go for her house and after discussion we take her to back to my house on 15-12-2006. after 15-20 day on 11-1-2006 she onceagin quarrel with my father and then after she pack all thing which is given by his father'house in bag and asked to me come with her and left at baroda at her's father house.
after this i am trying lot to she come back to my house. but she saying that you come over here at baroda and stay with my father, mother. and also lot of trying of my reletavies she can't convence but other than their family member they harres to me and my reletavies.
now i knew from my confirm resourecs that she is want divorce and ask to me give 1.0 lacs rupees to give her. after that i know she is going to file agaisnt IPC 498 to me .
so now what will i do? pl give advice.
RegardKaushal Gadani
posted by 498A_Victim at 10:58 PM 0 comments

sandeep jain - sonipat/haryana
Name: sandeep jainComments: I AM ALREADY A MEMBER OF SIF.IWANT TO CHANGE MY ID ONLY.PRIOR ID WAS SANDY_BPR@YAHOO.CO.IN
posted by 498A_Victim at 10:40 PM 0 comments

Madhavi - Plano
Name: MadhaviComments: My Husband filed for divorce, My father in law, sister in lawwhere there in the house, and they filed for divorce.
posted by 498A_Victim at 1:17 PM 0 comments

Sunny - Mumbai. M.S.
Name: SunnyComments: Is there any time limit to file 498a? Someone told me 498a can be filled within 7 years from the marriage date.
posted by 498A_Victim at 1:15 PM 0 comments
Saturday, November 25, 2006

r k - mumbai
Name: r kComments: ill treated and asking 4 money, unconsumed marriege and i m not earning well filed by my wife
posted by 498A_Victim at 10:07 AM 0 comments
Friday, November 24, 2006

Gagan Sahni - Delhi
Name: Gagan SahniComments: thgis was ans arranged marrage through news paper advertisment in 2002, where we had clearly mentioned that we need a working girl and no demands because i am the only earning member in my family. the frist one month was ok after that she started demanding costly items which i tried to full filled till one year. after one year she left my place saying that she need big flat and luxry life, which she are not geeting with me after one year of speration she filed the police complained including my other distance relative since than i am suffering the police harrasement etc. and wating for any relife . the more details can also be provided with prof a
posted by 498A_Victim at 4:52 AM 1 comments
Thursday, November 23, 2006

sumit - delhi
Name: sumitComments: My father in law has beaten me against police.what should I do to get revenge.
posted by 498A_Victim at 12:14 AM 0 comments
Wednesday, November 22, 2006

sumit - delhi
Name: sumitComments: My mother in law therened me and I put apolice complaint.Afer 2 years my father in law took me to police station and beat me.
posted by 498A_Victim at 10:28 PM 0 comments

sumit - delhi
Name: sumitComments: My mother in law therened me and I put apolice complaint.Afer 2 years my father in law took me to police station and beat me.
posted by 498A_Victim at 10:24 PM 0 comments

Gaurav Agarwal - New Delhi
Name: Gaurav AgarwalComments: Hi,
My wife who had deserted me just after staying with me for about amonth after marriage on 10/04/2006,has now gone to CAWC falsely alleging cruelty by my family.
She says 'I' had left her seven months ago ,she was beaten up by my father ,mother and younger sister from the first day of our marriage,we have taken all her belongings(whereas she took everything away when she left my house 7 months ago with her father,including the cash she took from me and the jewellery and clothes gifted by my parents).
Surprisingly, she also states that she would like to stay with me if she is provided enough protection and safety. Contrastively, she has also pleaded that her father is a retired person and would not be able to spend anything on her 're marriage' and that 'I' used to persuade her to take a divorce by mutual consent so that 'I' could marry another girl whom I loved(in reality this is not true at all) .She said who would take care of her expenses.
All these charges are totally false. I and my family took proper care of her and even got her treatment done at a Private Hospital when she had fever(17/02/06 to 22/02/06) immediately after marriage.
Infact, my wife had previously on many occassions threatened me with a false dowry case if I did not give in to her demands of separating from my parents etc.
She had also told me many times she did not want to marry me in thefirst place but on being 'advised' by her father and aunt she had agreed to marry me.As a result,our marriage could not be consumated.
I tried to bring her back by meeting her personally thrice but she refused.One day her father accompanied by his 2 brothers and elder daughter came to our house and insulted us by shouting and making baseless charges against us.
On 17/11/06, I got the notice from CAWC.Incidentally when I went there on 21/11/06,the inspector who was handelling my case was not present and another inspector heard the case. We have to go there on 1/12/06 for next hearing.
We are now in a fix and do not know how to deal with all this.I definitely do not want to bring her back now because I know she will try to harrass me and my family even more if she comes here.
Please advise.
Thanks,Gaurav Agarwal
posted by 498A_Victim at 9:23 AM 0 comments

Venkat Ramana - Hyderabad
Name: Venkat RamanaComments: I was married on 15/11/2002 at Tirumala hills Andhra Pradesh. She stayed with me for 3 months and she left to her parents house on 12/04/2003. A restitution of conjugal rights case was filed by me in the family court in the year 2004. In the same year she filed for divorce case against me by alleging false allegations against me. I won restitution of conjugal rights case in the family court in year 2006. They appealed in High court which was also rejected. Then I applied for divorce in same family court. In the last stages in granting the divorce she filed a 498a case against me in women police station and put me, my elderly parents to harrassment. They want a compensation of 8 lakhs to withdraw their case. Kindly give your valuable suggestion at the earliest
posted by 498A_Victim at 6:47 AM 1 comments

pritesh j.dholakia - nalla sopara,dist.thane
Name: pritesh j.dholakiaComments: I have been cheated by wife & her family as my wife & her family have not informed me before marriage that her nature is very bad.She is very short tempered.She is not listing to anyone even her elders in her home also.Instead her mother informed me at my home that she is cool minded,doing service & will be helpful to your family which was totally wrong as we immediately came to know about my wife's angry nature within a week after the marriage.Also after a month,wife has informed me that she had been forced my her family to do the marriage.In sept end 2006,wife has wrong N.C.only & not the FIR that i am demanding money by making phones to his parents.Actually,they are not having landline phone.Her mother's mobile no.i don't know & her fatheris not having any phone since so many years.So how can i call them for the money.Neither i nor my family has demand money from her & her's family.Now i don't want her but i & my family is forced by the police to allow her in my home.We are daily suffering due to this.Our 1 year completes on 25.01.2007
posted by 498A_Victim at 3:57 AM 0 comments

Shahzaad - Riyadh- KSA
Name: ShahzaadComments: I am presently in Riyadh, KSA, and she used to live with me, we have problems since immediate after marriage, in recent times she became very abusive, doubtful that I have one more wife and kids, started beating my two daughters, b'coz they are attahced to me and she wanted to revenge in this way. On 7th Oct, I divorced her in presence of 2 witnesses (by muslim law it is ok, but now she is denying that she is ever divorced) and on 13th she left to india, and filed 498 on 25th. Now my family is trying to get AB for all except me, let us see what happens, even I have proofs of her abuse in way of audio records. Now she accusing us of demanding of dowry, and harassment which outright lie. In this issue Mr. Anantha Krishna has helped us a lot and we are very thankful to him. 1. Should I try to talk to my kids? and record conversation, i know that they will not allow me?2. Should I submit my reply to her FIR to police?3. Should I send maintenance for my kids? I hope these actions will prove that I am atleast not a wrongdoer? My elder brother is dealing with it (who is also one of accused) and his name is AYAZ and his mobile number; 9985479955.Regards
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:53 AM 0 comments
Sunday, November 19, 2006

Rohit - delhi
Name: RohitComments: Dear Sir,
My marriage has been the most sadest phase of my life. I belong to a middle class punjabi family.All of us in my family including me, my parents and my brother are very down to earth people. We dunno have any clever brains to fool others. I fell in love with a girl and in no time married her.My parents never demanded for any dowry, nor did they keep any other expectations. Rather they cooperated with my parents in law in every respect including financially. Right before my marriage my wife was influenced by her relatives that my mother doesnt likes her. As a result of this she literally started hating my mother. My mother is the most gentel lady one can come across. Even my bua'a love her as their younger sister. My late grandfather used to treat her like his daughter. My wife even abused my mother at times. Pooja (name changed), my wife came to my home with an aim of making me her slave which I did not consent to.Even on the day of marriage she fought with me on stage and I was shivering every moment.After we got married She slapped me, tore my clother and even abused me. Further more she always wanted to have a very lavish life in terms of freaking out, buying expensive clother every week. She behave very sick at our home. Its been eight months of our marriage. Till date she hasnt got mixed to may parents. She doesnt even speaks to my relatives. She has threatned me n number of times that she would committ suicide incase I do not agree to her demands.She never comes out of our room through out the day. Me and my parents literally pleaded infront of her to have food, but she doesnt comes out. When it was beyond my patience, I informed her parents and they even came to our home. Till date they have come more than 4 times in eight months in such critical situations when pooja either didnt have food for coouple of days or she threatened me to committ suicide. These days she is at her home. In the last meeting at her place, she literally warned me that she would not let her life get spoilt and threatned me that I would have to pay for my actions. I am not bothered about myself. I am very concrened about my old parents. Our family is a very closely knit family comprising of my parents and my younger brother. Both me and my brother worship our parents. Today I feel all alone and very helpless begging for help. Tomorrow I dunno wanna be behind the bars because of nothing. I know sentiments have no value, but with true heart , I pray to God, if I am guilty then please punish me else prove your existence by helping me through your messenger. Please helpp.................
posted by 498A_Victim at 9:16 AM 0 comments
Saturday, November 18, 2006

maheep jain - udaipur
Name: maheep jainComments: the woman who filed case against us is not my wife but sister-in-law.our family has seprated from my first brother since october 2002.my family(father,second elder brother,sister in law,my wife and me(married in november2004))is staying in udaipur.my first brother is stayin in Beawar(rajasthan.)my first bhabhi went to her father's house(udaipur)on april 19 2002.when asked to come back at our house(beawar)she demanded to get seperated from us.she came back on october 2002 and my brother shifted to another house in beawar.i,with my family,shifted to udaipur on july 2003.my first brother with my bhabhi moved back to our house at beawar.now,my first brother with his wife and their son was living at Beawar.i with my father,second brother,second bhabhi was staing at udaipur.my first bhabhi with her son came back to her father's house(udaipur) in aug 2004she demanded to shift to udaipur.my first brother refused since then she is staying in udaipur.Around in november 2005 she send her son(age 10) at our house in udaipur.in 2006 she demanded divorce.when agreed she demaned Rs100000 and her stridhan.we agreed to that but at final stage she demanded Rs 500000 as security for her child(who was staying with us.).we agreed to pay 400000 cash to her.she raised her demand to 700000.we refused.she filed an camplaint in women cell,and then an fir(i dont know under which section.)she had accused my first brother(her husband)my father and me.of asking for dowary of Rs 200000.showing cruelity, and kidnapping her child.
posted by 498A_Victim at 4:33 AM 0 comments

paul - GULF
Name: paulComments: Married and lived with her 7 days only in india.. i came back to GUlf.She is not intersted with me for any kind of realations.. with long counselling she came after 2 months to Gulf. But the same problem continoues..she is not happy to live with me..as she is looking another..this is arranged marriage.. But now the girls parents is threatening to come back to india otherwise they will case aganist me and my mother with this new act..please advise what kind of step i want to take
posted by 498A_Victim at 1:37 AM 0 comments
Friday, November 17, 2006

Saurabh Grover - Gurgaon / Haryana
Name: Saurabh GroverComments: Got Married on 10 Oct. 1997 thru' an arranged marriage where my brother in law (sandu) was my collegue in Eicher Tractors at Faridabad. My family was informed that the father of the girl was financially not strong to hold a good marriage. To which we had offered to share half of the expenses of the reception & paid Rs. 25000/- in cash next day of my marriage to the father of the girl. The marriage was solemnised at Faridabad & I arranged everything (place, Caterar, tent house, vegetables, blankets, utensils etc.)
My sandu & my inlaws belonged to Panchkula & had got married in Jan' 95. His wife was not willing to join him at Faridabad as to her Faridabad was not a good place to live in as compared with Panchkula.
As soon as we got married, he shifted to an apartment which was not far than 1 km from my parental house, where I was living in. Thereafter my wife's meeting with her Sister & Sister in law rose upto a level of alternate day on average. His was a nuclear family whereas I was living with my Parents.
As I'm the only son to my parents, she enjoyed all the affections of my family members i.e my parents & all my 3 elder married sisters. My wife did not have any idea of the household work and gets up late in the morning at around 730 Hrs. whereas my mother used to leave for teaching at the same time. I asked my wife to get up early. She did not reply to me. But next his Brother in law casually informed me in office why I am bothering her to get up early. Going forward whenever I or my parents asked my wife to do the household work she tried to evade that.
All petty issues were raised to me by my wife & I always tried to console her, to which she became aggressive & even pull my hair fiercely during night. She used to make frivolous allegations against me that I'm having illegal relations with wife of our tenant & even his own sister is interested in me. On 7/6/99 I was blessed with a baby boy & the things became bad to worse. She didnot attend to my kids needs & after days' work I had to keep myself awake the whole night changing his diapers & preparing milk. In the year 2000 my mother got retired & my wife started working for a small school nearby. I kept on helping her out by doing house hold work by my self like cooking vegetables & making dough of wheat flour hideously, as my parents objected to that and my wife always stated that she gets tense as my parents ask her to work.
Then I took a decision & moved out to live separately in Faridabad itself. Within 3 months I got my self transferred to Bhopal with the same Company. There also she kept muttering all the time about her miserable life & made my life hell by asking stupendous questions & even held me from collar. Whenver I tried to escape this situation by moving out she used to lock the door & didnot allow me to move out. In Bhopal mine was a touring job and her attitude towards household remained same. I had to work the whole day after reaching home after my lengthy tours extended upto even 10 days. She did not help me at all.
I stayed there at Bhopal for around 3 years & my parents visited me only 2 time during that period & during the last stay there again was a quarrel as my wife was unnecessarily tried to delay the cooking & eventually my mother cooked food thus leading to a quarrel I asked my parents to leave just to satisfy my wife's ego.
Then last year I got good opportunity at Gurgaon. This was a good chance to come closer to my family yet at a reasonable distance. I tried to make up the her relations with my parents in vain, as her attitude not improved towards household work.
She had dis respected my sister while she was talking to me on phone & asked her to stop interfering in our lives.
Again she removed the maid from washing clothes even & put me completely on house hold job. I used to work from 630 till 1200 Hrs on household job & then my office resumes at 1230 Hrs till 1100 in the night.
She didnot allow my son to visit his grand parents even.
She pressed me to buy Car initially, which I did in Sep 05. Then forced me for House, which I could not due to my financial position & now was pressing me to move abroad to Newzealand where her sister & sister in law starting living 2002 onwards to which I declined finally. I asked her if she is so interested, she can go alone. Then she pressed me to get her passport made. During those days due to my busy schedule in office I requested her to postpone it for few days to which she was not agreed & was willing to go to Newzealand with her sister who was coming to India in Oct 06.
The passport was applied on 26th Sep. for my wife, son & me. On 6th Oct., my son got his collar bone fractured & her sister came during that time only. She said I want to go to my parental house & shall come back before Deewali ie. on 21st. She went there on 11th Oct. I see her off & gave Rs. 1000.00 apart from the ticket for Chandigarh.
As soon as she reached there stopped attending my calls & out of several picked one & asked to come over to Chandigarh to discus with her father, to which I didnot agree.
On 6th recevied summons from Court of Panchkula to appear on 21st. The petition was not enclosed, which we got it later. according to which she has made absolutely false allegations about beating & dowry& has demanded monthly maintenance of her & my son to the tune of Rs. 30000/- under section 125 cr pc.
I had gone to Panchkula as soon as received the summons & tried to patch up. to which she & her family has agreed but adamnat to bring elders on 21st to do agreement in court.
Seeing the allegations afterwards & my present situation. I just want my kid back to school & save his year.
posted by 498A_Victim at 1:04 AM 0 comments
Thursday, November 16, 2006

Madanpal - Greater Noida
Name: MadanpalComments: Respected Sir,I am belongs from a middle class family.Due to some problems in between me and my father-in-law, my father-in-law registed a false dawry case againt me, that he gave me 2.3 kgs of Gold, 20 kgs of Silver and net case Rs.14,27,551.00/- and he told me that, he will sow us the jail not only me but also me and my all family. If my family's single person will go to jail, I will finish myself or him.
For that, I request your good honor to do a needfull and oblise.Thanking you.
Your's faithfull,
MADANPAL,AT-BIRONDA,P.O.-KASNA,(GREATER NOIDA),DIST- G.B.NAGAR-201308(U.P.) PH-0120-3217557
posted by 498A_Victim at 10:21 PM 0 comments

Madanpal - Greater Noida
Name: MadanpalComments: Respected Sir,I am belongs from a middle class family.Due to some problems in between me and my father-in-law, my father-in-law registed a false dawry case againt me, that he gave me 2.3 kgs of Gold, 20 kgs of Silver and net case Rs.14,27,551.00/- and he told me that, he will sow us the jail not only me but also me and my all family. If my family's single person will go to jail, I will finish myself or him.
For that, I request your good honor to do a needfull and oblise.Thanking you.
Your's faithfull,
MADANPAL,AT-BIRONDA,P.O.-KASNA,(GREATER NOIDA),DIST- G.B.NAGAR-201308(U.P.) PH-0120-3217557
posted by 498A_Victim at 10:15 PM 0 comments

Sandy - Knoxville/ TN
Name: SandyComments: Hi,My brother back in INDIA got married in 2005 but her wife went to his parents house in october of the same year and never came back for unknown reasons. MY parents and brother tried their best but now their family has given the case to a chandigarh based NGO and they are exploiting my parents to pay more money than they spent on marriage. Since they (my brother and his wife) are not living together for last more than a year without divorce. Can she still file 498a against my parents or brother? What should he do? Do they take NGO offer or move to court to settle this thing.Thanks for your kind advisesandy
posted by 498A_Victim at 5:28 PM 0 comments
Monday, November 13, 2006

Syed Amjadulla - Bangalore, Karnataka
Name: Syed AmjadullaComments: My wife left my home 102 days (3 months and 12 days) after marriage. She has affair with one married police Inspector named Mohammed Sajjad Khan, attached to Vigilence Section in High Court of Karnataka, Bangalore. Two weeks afetr she left my home, she came to home when my old and ailing mother was alone and took away all jeweleries and clothes that i provided to her during and after marriage. Then that Inspector troubled myslef and my family members through rowdies demanding huge some of money and forcing me to divorce my wife. I sent a notice to the Police Commissioner with copies to the respective police stations complaining about the troubles i am getting through that police inspector (he is neither belongs to my locality police station or to the police station of locality of my wife's parents residence, where my wife lives since she deserted me). Also I filed a suite in court for restitution of conjugal rights. She did not attend even oen hearing till now. Finally she made a private complaimnt to family court. The family court judge directed the Indra Nagar police station incharge to enquire into the matter. This was arranged through that polcie inspector, as residence of my wife's parennts comes in the Indra Nagar police station jurisdiction and the Incharge there was the batch mate of that Mohammed Sajjad Khan. Instead of enquiring the matter, Indra Nagar police assrested me and filed false FIR with IPC 406, 420, 498a, 504, 506B and Sec 3 & 4 of Dowry Prohibition Act. Also the police (though my residence dos not fall under their juridictiony) taken all my house hold articles right from sofa set, to juice glasses to tea tumblers as my wife has claimed all my house hold articles as her with procuring of false bills (even for item which we are using from decades). I was taken into judicial custody for 2 weeks. Finally, i got bail and my Mother (my father is no more), Elder Brother, Sister-in-law and Younger Brother got anticipatory Bail. The Indra Nagar police have not yet filed charge sheet. Within this period, my wife also has put a mainetance case demanding monthly Rs Ten thousand for her. Also she has put a case asking for divorce from me. In her false FIR and cases in courts she is claiming that I have married oen woman from malaysia and she has created imaginary email ids with free email service providers along with imaginary email communication between me and that woman addressing each other as husband and wife. She is claiming that email communication as the proff that i have married that woman and cheated her and married her as secoind wife. The fact is that i don't know about that woman. I have never married any one before or after my marriage to my wife. She is qualified Engineer and IT professional (hardware and systems) and I am a Sofware Engineer. During the proceedings of divorce case filed by her, we had consultaion arranged by court. But she refused to stay with me saying that she does not want to even see my face. Since she is having backup of her lover Police inspector along with influence through her parents, I am finding difficult to contest her false claims, though I have spent about Rupees One lakh so far, for getting bail for myslef, anticipatory bail for my family members and copurt proceedings in various cases filed by her. She has spread false rumours that i have taken money and materials from them as dowry and i have already married anotehr woman etc. Though she also spread false rumours that i am impotent and all, but in complaints to courts and polcie station she ahs not emntioend that point.Please advise me how can i contest all these false allegations.
posted by 498A_Victim at 11:39 PM 0 comments

Alka Chandwani - Delhi
Name: Alka ChandwaniComments: I`m the wife
posted by 498A_Victim at 1:32 PM 0 comments

Maneesh Sharma - Chennai
Name: Maneesh SharmaComments: I stay in Chennai and my wife is currently in Kerala. We have a daughter 10 months old. My worry is that my wife may misuse this new law.
I am shocked to learn about this new DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ACT. I can understand how badly it can be maliciously misued by any woman including my wife. I thought it is better to be prepared beforehand. I would like to meet your lawyer and explain my case. I want to know what preparations/precautions I can take. Please give me the telephone number and address of your office in CHENNAI. I want to personally go and meet your lawyer. I dont mind paying the LEGAL fees if any.
Thanks.
Maneesh
posted by 498A_Victim at 4:50 AM 0 comments

mightycrab - jammu
Name: mightycrabComments: SIF,
Could anyone from the SIF help me decide what to do in the situation as given below:
My wife has proceeded against me and the following sections have been invoked:Sections 498A, 488, 406, 420HMA, Sec. 9, 29, 32RCR
1. She filed a compliant with the subjudge under Sections 498A, 488, 406, 420. I, my parents and some others (totalling 8) have been named in the complaint. The court issued summons against all. The matter came up for hearing on 3/10/06 and 5/11/06. I and four others have appeared and got a regular bail. Two others will be appearing before the judge on the next hearing; they are likely to get regular bail on that day itself. It is pertinent to note here that she has been living separately for last about 3 years. We were together for just 6 to 7 months. And she went to her parental home once she was pregnant and gave birth to a male child there. There were some people mediating between the two parties, but without any results. There was no dowry demand at any point of time and none was received except the usual clothing and ornaments on the wedding day itself. 2. She has filed a separate case for maintenance. I am working in a private company and earn about 20-25 thousands a month. She has done BSc and BEd. 3. She has a case of RCR4. She has also filed a case under HMA, Secs 9, 29, 32.
Thanks
posted by 498A_Victim at 3:19 AM 0 comments
Sunday, November 12, 2006

Gaurang - Hattiesburg,MS,USA
Name: GaurangComments: Dear Sir,I found this site very informative.Please give me advise.I was married in India.I lived in USA.I went to USA on H1B visa.I came to India and got married and brought her to USA.My marriage did not work.I applied for divorce in NY and I received my divorce.I have to pay alimony for2 yrs and I am paying that.I did not file for divorce in India.I am afraid that after two years once she stops receiving money from me then she will file 498a in India.She will try to extort more money and my parents and family members will be in trouble.So please advise me how should I avoid the trouble in future.How do I file for divorce in India.IS divorce in american court recognised in India.Can I get divorce in Indian court since I am divorced in America.Please advise.Thanks
posted by 498A_Victim at 12:14 PM 0 comments
Saturday, November 11, 2006

gopi - Andhra Pradesh
Name: gopiComments: Hi friends,I got divorce in USA on the grounds that the parties have lived seperate for a defined period.Now the problem is getting the divorce legalized in INDIA.According to my USA attorney the divorce is valid world wide.A friend of my father told that the divorce is not valid in India and it is not safe for me to go to INDIA now.My Legal status is Green Card.Could you people guide from this place?Do I need to legalize Divorce in India?If so how long it takes to legalize?What documents are required? All I have is certified copyof final decree of divorce and the copy of proof of publication through which i got divorce.I also heard that 498a can be filed even after getting divorce..Is it true?thanks,Giri
posted by 498A_Victim at 5:24 PM 0 comments
Friday, November 10, 2006

Binaya Kumar Pandey - Darbhanga,Bihar
Name: Binaya Kumar PandeyComments: She is querrelsome ,very abusing and fiery temper.She has couple of time wound me deep by iron rod. I had to take head scaning due to injury. Now I have left home and living alone.She has driven my parents too to flee and take shelter in another city. House is in name of my mother who got it as a gift from her father.She has occupied whole house and we are on run.We have one teen daughter living with her.Can you please advice us what legal remedy is for us.
posted by 498A_Victim at 5:54 AM 0 comments

manish kumar srivastava - ghaziabad,u.p.
Name: manish kumar srivastavaComments: My wife is very egoistic and aggressive by nature. She has trying to commit suicide two times after marriage and as the best of my knowledge once before marriage.She hypothetically created problems and not ready to listed any one even from her family. Now she is thretening me that she would kill our daughter and herself and make my family arrested in dawry case.
posted by 498A_Victim at 5:43 AM 0 comments
Thursday, November 09, 2006

ketan - bangalore/karnatake
Name: ketanComments: this is third time she goes from my house with out telling any one not knowing what to do i gave a missing complaint on 8/9/2006, i married to her on 23/2/2006, as she is from poor back ground ,my mouther her self looked after all the marriage expencess and expected a very good daughter in law, but now as it is two mounths over she is not staying with me she now harasses me and my family of 498a and tells she wont like to live with me in police station (kamakshipalya) and demands that her mouther had given a douvery of two laks , diamond neckless ,,,,,,,,,,and so on for which the inspector is harasing me to get what she is demanding ,which is not true so please help me and i am getting lots of thretening calls
posted by 498A_Victim at 9:48 PM 0 comments
Monday, November 06, 2006

RAMESH KUMAR - delhi
Name: RAMESH KUMARComments: 498a case isat evidence stage from 4yrs of complain.Till date from 4yrs complain avoiding to give evidence and filling application through her advocate of abstance and not visiting the court.
posted by 498A_Victim at 1:24 AM 0 comments
Sunday, November 05, 2006

sangeeta verma - Ranchi(Jharkhand)
Name: sangeeta vermaComments: this is my brother's case.his wife is torturing him physically,mentally & emotionally since april 2005.she & her parents always threatens him that they will send him to jail if he did not do whatever they ask him to do.his wife doesen't seems to be educated enough ,although she claims to have done M.A(psychology),because she can't read or write simple english(she cant even write butter properly).she gets into angry &abusive bouts of fits every weekends. she complains that my brother is impotent& unable to satisfy her sexual needs, at the same time she accuses him of infidality.my brother had been operated for inflated tonsils and has minor injuries in left hand&right ankledue to motorcycle accident which occured some four years ago.the pain in hand some times troubles him .whenever she gets angry(which is six days aweek)she strikes him on the injurd part with a sandle or some thing heavy or kicks him hard on that part,shelocks him in the bathroom/bedroom for long hours & torture as punishment.he works in a MNC ,whenever he has to work overtime on weekdays /weekends ,the hell breaks loose,he is punished by starving,abusing&torture .we are silent &suffering because there is no law to protect my innocent brother from his abusive abnormal wife .she says that if he tried to leave her then she will report a false complaint against him and if he wants to be free then he has to give all his maternal&paternal propertyto her then only he'll get free.her parents know all abaut this matter &they also are involved in it.they are alwaus directing her what to do next.we are law abiding citizens, what should we do to get justice and be free of such wife?.if nothing is done now she 'llkill my brother.her father has threatend my broher several times that he will kill my brother.please help us.
posted by 498A_Victim at 10:29 PM 0 comments

sangeeta verma - Ranchi(Jharkhand)
Name: sangeeta vermaComments: this is my brother's case.his wife is torturing him physically,mentally & emotionally since april 2005.she & her parents always threatens him that they will send him to jail if he did not do whatever they ask him to do.his wife doesen't seems to be educated enough ,although she claims to have done M.A(psychology),because she can't read or write simple english(she cant even write butter properly).she gets into angry &abusive bouts of fits every weekends. she complains that my brother is impotent& unable to satisfy her sexual needs, at the same time she accuses him of infidality.my brother had been operated for inflated tonsils and has minor injuries in left hand&right ankledue to motorcycle accident which occured some four years ago.the pain in hand some times troubles him .whenever she gets angry(which is six days aweek)she strikes him on the injurd part with a sandle or some thing heavy or kicks him hard on that part,shelocks him in the bathroom/bedroom for long hours & torture as punishment.he works in a MNC ,whenever he has to work overtime on weekdays /weekends ,the hell breaks loose,he is punished by starving,abusing&torture .we are silent &suffering because there is no law to protect my innocent brother from his abusive abnormal wife .she says that if he tried to leave her then she will report a false complaint against him and if he wants to be free then he has to give all his maternal&paternal propertyto her then only he'll get free.her parents know all abaut this matter &they also are involved in it.they are alwaus directing her what to do next.we are law abiding citizens, what should we do to get justice and be free of such wife?.if nothing is done now she 'llkill my brother.her father has threatend my broher several times that he will kill my brother.please help us.
posted by 498A_Victim at 10:29 PM 0 comments
Saturday, November 04, 2006

dr kazi rafique - asansol,west bengal
Name: dr kazi rafiqueComments: after 2 years of troublesome mariage life i gave talaq to my wife and flight for dubai for a job.icame back india 7.1.2000 for one month.9.1.2000 midnight police arrest me and my father,other accused are my mother ,sister,sister in law.on the ground of talaq we got bail after 7 painful days.surprisingly on the day 10.6.2006 they registered ipc 125and claim 3500 intrim.both the cases are going on.can you give me any suggetions,particularly muslim personal law?
posted by 498A_Victim at 9:54 AM 0 comments
Tuesday, October 31, 2006

CAPT MEHUL SINHA - Kolkata/West Bengal
Name: CAPT MEHUL SINHAComments: My brother in law, Lt Col in army is looking for retirement and has been asking for funds to start a business for the last few years. I passed it off as a joke till it became a serious issue a few months back and after that on 12th June he and my mother in law who was staying with us left the house alleging insult by me. Three days later my wife left the house and claimed that she had been harassed and tortured for last 16 years. She has not filed an FIR as yet but had threatened to file and go to women's commission too. Now for the last four months she has refused to receive any phone calls from me or any of my relatives and has not allowed any interaction with the 2 children (daughters aged 15 and 11). Meanwhile I had joined my ship to get away from the scene and allow a period of cooling off. Now I fear returning to Jaipur, where I was residing, afraid of being booked under 498.
posted by 498A_Victim at 6:44 PM 0 comments
Monday, October 30, 2006

PRAMOD KUMAR BHATTACHARYA - Renukoot/Uttar pradesh
Name: PRAMOD KUMAR BHATTACHARYAComments: My wife left me in December 2003 . Subsequently whenever I have gone to her house her parents misbehaved with me . In april 2005 when I went to her house she asked me give her mutual divorce . Reasons for divorce she wrote in a letter is my neglect to her during her stay at my house . Later she demanded rs. 800000/= as alimony and my releasing custody of my son who is presently 6 years old . Consequently I filed a case under section 9 for resustication of conjugal rights at my home district court . She consequently got her appearance stayed at the court by filing a transfer petition at supreme court for transferring the case to her home city at calcutta. Presently I am sending her monthly Rs. 7000/= . My present take home salary is around 20000/= . Therefore please let me know following things :
1- What should be my next step ?
2- I want her to either start living with me or get rid of her so that I can start a new life ? What options do I have ?
3- What would be the charges and duration to end this matter ?
posted by 498A_Victim at 11:03 AM 0 comments

PRAMOD KUMAR BHATTACHARYA - Renukoot/Uttar pradesh
Name: PRAMOD KUMAR BHATTACHARYAComments: My wife left me in december 2003. Consequently whenever I have visited her home she and her parents harrassed me quoting my negligence towards my wife during her stay with me as reason . She even sent me a letter writing that she is now very happy and contended at her parents home and she does not wish to come back to my house . She even demanded me to pay Rs. 7000/= monthly towards her and my son's expenses as her father is retired . She even demanded to send back her belongings . I am sending her monthly Rs. 7000/= from april 2005 . I have also lodged a case under section 9 i.e resustication of conjugal rights at my distric court . She subsequently filed a transfer petition at honourable supreme court and got her appearance stayed . I want to know the following :
1- Can she now file case under section 498A? Should I apply for any anticipatory bail against any probable arrest ?
2- If I go for mutual divorce is it possible now ? What would be repurcussions in taking up the issue in this way ? What sort of alimony I would be required to pay ?If I am unable to pay one time settlement what are the options ?My monthly take home salary is around Rs. 20000/=
3- What should be the best way to go forward in this matter ?
Regards,
(PRAMOD KUMAR BHATTACHARYA)
posted by 498A_Victim at 11:03 AM 0 comments

Raj Gupta - New Delhi
Name: Raj GuptaComments: I have got married almost 2 years back. My wife's father and relatives tried to give me the dowary through 6 drafts (each 25000/ value. that means total money is 150000). And these drafts have been made in my name fron some banck in her place. This case is before my marriage. But, I have not taken those money. In fact, they have left those drafts with me like this only and said that plz, deposit these drafts in your account. But, I didn't show any interest in that. Ultimately, those drafts got expired and they had finally yaken from me and cancelled. After my marriage, I have bought several things at my home with my own money. If anyone wants can view my salary account that before every purchase I have withdrawn the money from my account or made the payment through cheques.No one can say that I have bought a single thing from anyone else money. Still, they are saying me to take the cash or draft and deposit it in my account. But, I have flatly refused.Now, they are saying me that open one joint account with my aife. But, I am not opening because of she may be mis use this account and deposit the same money in this account.My queries are::1.) In this case, can I go to court and say that her family tried to give me the dowary?? Here, I have the proof those drafts detail which, have been made in my name and later on cancelled by them.
2.) I would like to know, my stands in this case.
RegardsRaj
posted by 498A_Victim at 1:23 AM 0 comments
Sunday, October 29, 2006

Ravi Rao - ajmer
Name: Ravi RaoComments: iam ravi rao, and iam very much upsett by this case and now iam suffering lots of problem due to this section. and now iam doing my govt job during last 2 years and she doesnt know about this and i dont want to live with her because iam not able to forget all those things which she had done. iam very much innocent in this case. iam suffering by this case for last 3 years and still i didnt get any dicision by which my life is spoiled. and she harrashing me so badly because we are going to andhra pradesh for hearing from ajmer. we are settle in ajmer due to defence services. my father is in mes and iam juniour engineer in mes(military engineering services) now iam posted in barmer. i did marriage in 2002 and i dont know her mental level before marriage, i think she is not matured by her mind she always doubting or suspecting me that iam get engaged to someone . by which i got lots of mental harrashment. and every day she quarreled with me . after 3 month she went away to her house (andhra pradesh). after that she didnt response me for 1 year. after 1 year i came to know that we are in case of 498 A . we are shocked and very much upsett.
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Friday, October 27, 2006

Hitesh Varma - Ranchi/ Jharkahand
Name: Hitesh VarmaComments: I am Hitesh Varma M 40 Dy.Sales Manager Central Coalfields Limited (Coal India Limited) belonging to a respected Kayath family of Bihar now setteled in Jharkhand. My father retired as G.M. from Steel Authority of India Limited. My mother is Reader PG Dept of Botany Ranchi Womens' College Ranchi. My younger sisters are Engineers married and very well settled in US. My younger brother is MCA software professional in Canada .We were happily married for 12 years, had two lovely intelligent children Avaneesh (now 12) and Aishani (now 6). The whole town ( Ranchi is a small town) has remained a witness to our happy and loving relationship (whole family, particularly husband and wife). My wife's father was classmate of my father, similarly my younger sister's father-in-law was also a common classmate in Patne Engineering College . Both marriages were held without any kind of dowry / demand but only out of friendship. For 12 years there has been no complaint whatsoever till my wife was alive. My beloved Late Sanjana Verma was suffering from Interstitial Lung Disease of which there is no effective treatment. She was very beautiful and maintained herself well. This included dieting etc. She had caught Pnemonia since December 2003, was admitted in January 2004 in ICCU for 10 days but saved. But again she caught Pnemonia in October 2004 after performing stringent "Jitiya fast" despite our protests for our childrens' welfare. She was admitted in ICCU where after 24hours "Acute Respiratory Failure" occured because her breathin tubules were choked with cough. She had to be shifted to another Hospital where Artificial breathing (Ventillator) fascility was available. There after 2 hours intensive emergency treatment she left us grieving at 10.30 pm on 13th October 2004. Her father and other relatives were there with us at that time. Two days later on 15th October her brother arrived from USA (we had kept the body for him in our house) and in conspiracy with his very powerful relatives (my wife's Mama / Maternal Uncle is M.P. of Ranchi and Union Minister) lodged an entirely false case on me and my parents of torture for Dowry(after 12 years) and MURDER! Under extraneous considerations I was put behaind bars, my parents fled with mu children and lived a life of wagabond for 14 months, they were haunted tortured while I suffred terribly in Jail. My condition became very serious and had to be shifted to hospital where I was operated while in custody. Initialy because I had been arrested, Police filed a baseless Chargesheet against me by deliberately concealing my wife's hospital treatment papers, but my son parents sisters brother friends wrote to the Hon'ble President of India, DGP Jharkhand etc with all proofs and ultimately the police in their supplementary investigation report incorporated the vital evidences which they had initially concealed agains me and submitted Final Report against my parents EXONERATING them from all charges which were common. CID Jharkhand also conducted a enquiry and found the case to be false! I was ultimately grated bail too. BUT ALMOST 14 AGONISING TORTUROUS HORRIFYING MONTHS HAD LAPSED! My children had not gone to school during this periond. All evidences have come to prove that I am totally innocent, legal procedures for discharge is pending. 498A allegations were all invented after the death of my beloved wife due to acute illness despite medical treatment. BUT WHO WILL RETURN 14 MONTHS BACK TO US AND THE TORTURE MY PARENTS CHILDREN AND I SUFFRED!Hitesh VarmaDy.S.M.CCL, Darbhanga House, Ranchi .287/C Ashok Nagar Ranchi91-651-2243230
posted by 498A_Victim at 8:37 AM 0 comments

Sridhar K - Bangalore
Name: Sridhar KComments: 1. Criminal Case: I was in Singapore and wife left me for Bangalore without any reason, but to be out of wedlock as she was forced into this marriage by her siblings and mother. Chargesheet filed and wife with her 4 other relatives are supposed to be witnesses in 498A case. Even after 7.5years, witnesses don't come and we had asked for completing evidence and cross examination inone group as all of them are part of one family and hence could misguide the court.Despite several notices from the court one or two will appear and still will not give evidence. Deliberately delaying.
2. I had filed for divorce in Aug 1999 and she dragged it on for many years before my and my father's cross examination was completed under HC's directive. Her application for Interim maintenance was dismissed in Jan 2001 on valid grounds that she was working and qualified. At that time I was working in Singapore. Due to repeated travels to India on leave or loss of pay, I was asked to leave by the employer. I lost my job in May 2002 and since then could not get a decent employment anywhere due to my old age and unwanted experience. On the other hand she is still working. She did not challenge the first interim maintenance order. Instead filed another interim maintenance application in Feb 2004 saying she is unemployed while she was still working. On 19/3/05 judge passes an order asking me to pay Rs.4000/- per month from Feb 2004 plus Rs.5000/- as costs. I challenged the same in HC, Karnataka and is still pending. While this is pending, I Principal Family court, Bangalore, dismisses the divorce petition itself on grounds of non payment of Interim Maintenance on 21/11/05, even though the other party only wanted the proceedings to be stayed and never wanted the same to be dismissed. I challenged this again vide MFA 322/2006 on 4/1/06 which was dismissed summarily by the division bench saying that they need not even read any of the files or papers, would not like disturb the lower court's order of dismissing the petition as there are many precedents in Supreme Court even if my case merits a different treatment. the Concerned Judge did not even bother to hear or read anything stated. I have filed an SLP in Supreme court and I am not sure what is in store. Meanwhile, my father passed away a month ago having waited endlessly for some justice to come, but courts and judges have only vested interest in protecting vested groups like this kind women.3. I have totally lost all respect for these laws and judicial system in this country and we have been subjected intimidation, humiliation, insults in the very presence of this judiciary by the other party and their lawyers. My father passed away, my mother is not well, my brother has suffered mentally and my health is not in good shape. I only want an end to all this torture with a divorce first and also close of this baseless of 498A case. If the courts think this is a tall order and want to favour the other party even if we are not guilty, I would prefer to die. Let courts give us death sentence. We don't want to live in this country of sick judiciary where we accused are treated like convicts with no protection to human rights. If possible I would not like to be called a citizen of this country and the house that we live in can be a no man's land. We will starve and die. I hate this incompetent judiciary. They have done far greater damage than the other party with their inaction and partisan behaviour. We won't live long with the kind of threats and illtreatment from the court and the other party.
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:37 AM 0 comments

roy deepak jagannath - bharucg
Name: roy deepak jagannathComments: sir my fatherin law is very rich person and i am poor student. i got married on the account that i am educated (m.b.a)and my fatherinlaw will help me in my carrier development. he paid all the expences of my marriage and the weeding was a grand celebration. as a part of marriage expence he paid rs 200000 to my father to arrange for receptions and baraat kharch. another 200000 he gave a gift checque to me to purchase ornaments for her daughter.on the day of my marriage only my fatherinlaw insulted my sister, relatives and parents and even tortured me mentally during marriage ceremony. he kept me hungry, thirsty and even did not made arrangement for me to go to toilet.when one of my relative complained to her father about my feelings, even my father in law quarelled with my relatives.my wife also abused my relatives and sister.then the things became out of controll when she started wearing jeans and t-shirt on the second day of my marriage.all my relatives were complaining to me for the same. when i told my wife to wear sari she had a very big quarell with me and called up her parents from baroda to my house where my fahternlaw insulted me and my parents. everyday my wife used to talk on mobile phone to ther friends, parents for hrs inspite of my objection. one day she did not disconnected her phone and was continuing to talk to her relative at 1.00am in the morning and in anger i beat her one slap and called her parents to solve this problem. in return she hit me on my face with the mobile bt luckily i escaped and the mobile hit the wall and got broken. next day her parents came and took her daughter away.This incident happened on the eighth day of my marriage. from that day my wife didnt came to my house. my father in law did not allow me to meet her when i went there to bring her back to my house. she started giving calls to my relatives and friends circle that i am having an extra marital affair with a lady who is 45 years old and her daughter who is a student of mbbs to whon i used to teach tutions when she was in school. she started destroying my image and character. one month later i brought her back for two days to my house but she started making excuse that she is having certain health problem and her internal exams are going to start as she is the student of M.C.A. in baroda. she again went back and never return. on phone when i used to contact her, their parents used to pick up the phone and not allow her to talk to me. thereafter for one month i didnot give her any call and neither allowed my parents to make any call to her. one day on 13th july 2006 when my mother was alone in the house, she came along with 25 women cell people along with her mother and sister , father , brother and took away all the jewellery belonging to her , my mother and also the cash 20000 kept in the drawer. at that time i was in ahmedabad on my job. Thereafter on 25th july she got an article published in news paper that my parents and relatives are harassing her along with me for dowary. she got published that her father has paid rs 900000 cash to me as dowary before marriage and again i am asking for 500000 rs dowary to go to foreign. also she has mentioned that i am having an extra marital affair with a doctor student with whon i want to get married and hence i want divorce from her. on 26th july and F.I.R. was filed against 6 members of my family. It included myself, my fahter, mother, my sister and her husband and my bother. sir i would like to inform you that my sister is staying in bihar and she just came for 7 days to attend the marraige and then went back. my bother was studying and was on training period in ahmedabad and just came to attend the marriage. their name has been falsely included. sir never in my family anybody demanded any type of dowary but i suppose my wife does not like me and does not want to stay with me. just to save her impression in the society my wife and her father are harassing me, my family and few of friends and the doctor student. please help me to get out of this worst phase of my life.
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:04 AM 0 comments

roy deepak jagannath - bharucg
Name: roy deepak jagannathComments: sir my fatherin law is very rich person and i am poor student. i got married on the account that i am educated (m.b.a)and my fatherinlaw will help me in my carrier development. he paid all the expences of my marriage and the weeding was a grand celebration. as a part of marriage expence he paid rs 200000 to my father to arrange for receptions and baraat kharch. another 200000 he gave a gift checque to me to purchase ornaments for her daughter.on the day of my marriage only my fatherinlaw insulted my sister, relatives and parents and even tortured me mentally during marriage ceremony. he kept me hungry, thirsty and even did not made arrangement for me to go to toilet.when one of my relative complained to her father about my feelings, even my father in law quarelled with my relatives.my wife also abused my relatives and sister.then the things became out of controll when she started wearing jeans and t-shirt on the second day of my marriage.all my relatives were complaining to me for the same. when i told my wife to wear sari she had a very big quarell with me and called up her parents from baroda to my house where my fahternlaw insulted me and my parents. everyday my wife used to talk on mobile phone to ther friends, parents for hrs inspite of my objection. one day she did not disconnected her phone and was continuing to talk to her relative at 1.00am in the morning and in anger i beat her one slap and called her parents to solve this problem. in return she hit me on my face with the mobile bt luckily i escaped and the mobile hit the wall and got broken. next day her parents came and took her daughter away.This incident happened on the eighth day of my marriage. from that day my wife didnt came to my house. my father in law did not allow me to meet her when i went there to bring her back to my house. she started giving calls to my relatives and friends circle that i am having an extra marital affair with a lady who is 45 years old and her daughter who is a student of mbbs to whon i used to teach tutions when she was in school. she started destroying my image and character. one month later i brought her back for two days to my house but she started making excuse that she is having certain health problem and her internal exams are going to start as she is the student of M.C.A. in baroda. she again went back and never return. on phone when i used to contact her, their parents used to pick up the phone and not allow her to talk to me. thereafter for one month i didnot give her any call and neither allowed my parents to make any call to her. one day on 13th july 2006 when my mother was alone in the house, she came along with 25 women cell people along with her mother and sister , father , brother and took away all the jewellery belonging to her , my mother and also the cash 20000 kept in the drawer. at that time i was in ahmedabad on my job. Thereafter on 25th july she got an article published in news paper that my parents and relatives are harassing her along with me for dowary. she got published that her father has paid rs 900000 cash to me as dowary before marriage and again i am asking for 500000 rs dowary to go to foreign. also she has mentioned that i am having an extra marital affair with a doctor student with whon i want to get married and hence i want divorce from her. on 26th july and F.I.R. was filed against 6 members of my family. It included myself, my fahter, mother, my sister and her husband and my bother. sir i would like to inform you that my sister is staying in bihar and she just came for 7 days to attend the marraige and then went back. my bother was studying and was on training period in ahmedabad and just came to attend the marriage. their name has been falsely included. sir never in my family anybody demanded any type of dowary but i suppose my wife does not like me and does not want to stay with me. just to save her impression in the society my wife and her father are harassing me, my family and few of friends and the doctor student. please help me to get out of this worst phase of my life.
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:01 AM 0 comments
Thursday, October 26, 2006

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bhargava - Hyderabad
Name: bhargavaComments: Found that my wife is have a mental as well as physical relationship with her boyfriend(classmate and collouge) he had admitted the adultry i have recorded what he said. even recorded her feellingsLatter there was gold missing from my home about 200 gmsHer parents and grandmother knew about the realtionship and encouraged her to continue itI what to get ride of her as soon as possible, also dont want to pay any thing to her and go for second marriage at the earliest
posted by 498A_Victim at 9:20 PM 0 comments

Anand - delhi
Name: AnandComments: HiI have new member to this group.I married without any dowry.. She is basically a flirt, highly attached to her parents and her parental influecne is extreme, her mom abused us all. She is forcing me to stay seperate and leave my old parents.she left home and took all her stridhan 6 months back. I tried to bring her back many times but she did not come back.Now,my wife has made false allegations against me, my younger brother and my mother in women cell. As i was out of india i could not attend the first date. Please help me with what should i do as i am very scared. She may file FIR anytime. We have hired a lawyer and he is suggesting me to file a petition for RCR as she is not living with me for the last 6 months. I tried three times to bring her back but she refused. My inlaws have lot of interference. She has chosen this path to force me to stay separate. Please advise me.
Thanks.Anand
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kmastankhan - Hyderabad/Andhra Pradesh
Name: kmastankhanComments: Dear Sir / MadamAs my wife and her parent has register dowry case on me and my family and they have arrested my parent for 2 days in jail.As in that case not even 1% is truth.did our india law and police won't do any justic agaist the mis using of dowry by women and her parent.My wife stayed with me only 2 months and i left for my job after 5 month she went to her house and from their she filed a FIR case against me.pls reply to me what steps i have to takeregards
mastan
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Udit - Gurgaon
Name: UditComments: My Wife left me on 9th August 2006, with her family. On 6th Sep 06 she hacked into my email accounts and also changed the passwords of my demat account. Post that on 12th Sep she has sent a police complaint against me for mental cruelty, dowry harassmnet and adultery. None of the allegations specify time and date. Just stories which cannot be proved in the court. on 28th Sep, we had the first reconcialtion meeting at the women's cell and she is asking for separation or a financial settlement. Initially she demanded that my dad's home be willed to my 10mnth son apart from 5 lakhs in cash. When we said yes, she raised the demand to 10 lakhs cash and the property. The next day, she again changed her demand to 10 lakhs cash and cash recd from immediate sale of my parents house. She says i need to suffer and pay and understand the consequences of divorce.
In fact, none of the claims she has made are true. I was spending for expenses at home and while i have been only able to save 20000/- post a 3 yrs marriage, she has a bank balance of around 4 lakhs. Now all this. Its a mental trauma for me and my folks.
In fact she was also prescribed with Hyper thyroid as an post natal disease and was negative in thinking and thats when things went bad for us. I feel sad for myy son, havent seen him since aug 9th.
Pl help me.
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Wednesday, October 25, 2006

kishore - bangalore
Name: kishoreComments:
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kishore - bangalore
Name: kishoreComments: every one in the case was got bails, at presant only 4 people are accused, other people was removed at the time of Case dairy filling.
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mohit - faridabad
Name: mohitComments: State Vs. Sunder
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VSJ - US
Name: VSJComments: Married: Nov 2000. 2 months after wife got sick. Finally found that she was suffering from epilepsy. Got the record from the hospital and filed for divorce case based on fraud in Nov 2001. I had to go to US for project and ever since I am still in US. They filed false 498A & 406 A against me, my mother and sister. They were bailed out after 4 days with help of my friends and relatives. They also filed for maintenance. Cases kept going on, finally, when I did not get divorce from India. I withdraw the case in India and filed in US and got the divorce. Now in india there maintenance case and 498 A case which my sister and mother are attending. My lawyer is advicing me to get married and do not come to india till everything is settled. Please advice happens to proceeding to india. Can I remarry in US ?will this affect to my cases going on in india?
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Tuesday, October 24, 2006

SF Ahmad - Riyadh, KSA
Name: SF AhmadComments: I am an Indian Muslim, 42 years, M.Sc., working in Saudi Arabia. I married my wife on 16-02-2003, stayed with her till 20-04-2003 in the mean time she conceived and I came to Saudi Arab for job, since then I did not go back to India due to some job problems. On 20-12-2003, we blessed by a baby boy, we named it before his birth as ISA Ahmad. During my stay I lost several jobs and I could not arrange a permanent job so I was helpless to bring my family here. I got a tempary job in Dec. 2003 and lost it on 12-02-2004. My in-law became mad on it lost. They started complaining you deceived us not having job there. On March 28, 2004, my mother in-law called and told some one is calling and saying you are married there. I persauded them by giving her/my relative name and tel. no. in Riyadh to convice of not married anyone here. Since then they did not entertain my phone and my mother in-law took out her belonging which they gave in marriage (it was only Bed, almirah). My mother-in-law changed my son name as "Mohammed Umar" from "Isa Ahmad" and arrange his passport without my knowledge. But my wife in several ways tried to contact me and we exchange SMS also. I promised to bring her here as soon I got job with family visa. We were in touch on phone till August 26, 2006. On Sept.13, 2006 I got a call from South Africa, I called back, the person who replied me may be my wife's cousin, warned me not to call here otherwise you will be in deep trouble, I am going to marry your wife and will adop your son (almost three year old). Even from there my wife called me on first week of October 2006 and told me I was not aware when this immigration to south africa was ready, however if you can come south africa, we will arrange immigration for you, I was agree on it. But next day her Khala (sister of her mother)called me and told your wife gave message for you to divorce her, I replied khala we were talking well last night now she is asking divorce not possible. Even on same evening wife called me the son was weeping and asking to talk to me on phone. Our coversation remain continue till October 19, 2006, since then my wife is not giving answer of my call. I called her uncles (born & settled in south africa)on October 23,2006, but they started to threat me of dire consequences and not to call her. Actually her mother was born there she got the passport of south africa very easily as my wife told me this. Now she is trying for the south african citizenship for her son and my wife and my son also. My query is that how I can bring back my wife and my son from south africa to India while I am in Saudi Arabia and what kind of legal action can be taken against my mother-in-law and her uncles who are playing the game. (Due to finance problem I can not go for a lengthy legal battle.)
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Ram - Ongole/Andhra Pradesh
Name: RamComments: 1.I am presently in UK on my company's temporary assignment.Whether I have to quit all this and go back and get bailand proceed with the formalities. Cause they said thatthey want to meet me personally and talk. We askedthem for their demands. She and their family clearlystated that she is not interested for divorce and shedon’t like any settlements on this. She is interestedto go ahead with these cases. Infact she is lookingfor a job. She is saying that ‘If you don’t be alongwith me, I will screw up your life and I don’t careabout my self’. I am sure I can’t proceed my relation withher any longer.
2.They have given FIR copy to my company.My company said that if Charge Sheet is released;consider your job will be negative. At present its very important for me to keep up my job. Cause to pay off my det’s and lot of investment on these legal activities.Things are getting ready for the charge sheet.
3.I and my family members are innocent and getting effected by this evil thing. How can i keep my family members safeside?
Please give me your valuable advice to improve my situation.
Thanks Ram
posted by 498A_Victim at 12:59 AM 0 comments
Sunday, October 22, 2006

joshua prasanth kumar.patala - HYDERABAD
Name: joshua prasanth kumar.patalaComments: SHE HAS SENT A LEGAL NOTICE AGAINST MAINTAIANCE FOR HER AND CHILDERN IMMEDIATLY I RUSHED TO MY ADVOCATE AND FILE A PETITION UNDER RESTITUTION OF CONGUJIAL RIGHTS TO JOIN WITH ME
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Saturday, October 21, 2006

Ravi - Hyderabad
Name: RaviComments: i`m planning to marry a girl;what should i check before get marry.
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Vishalakshi - Bangalore
Name: VishalakshiComments: My Brother was involved with a girl later he is Engaged with other Good girl; now that 1st girl thretening us with RAPE;
What to do
Please Advice
RegardsVishalkshi - Bangalore91-9886364868.
posted by 498A_Victim at 1:53 AM 0 comments

Vishalakshi - Bangalore
Name: VishalakshiEmail: vpidaparthi@yahoo.comLocation[City/State]: BangaloreHear about us: GoogleSearch498A Registered: NO498A Place: 498A Date: Any Other IPCs: Relatives Accused: Jailed Days: NOStage of Case: no498aSpent Money on 498A: Lived in joint Family: YESMarriage Date: Wife Age: Wife's Education Level: BScWife works (earns)?: doesNotWorkFiled for Divorce: YESHave children: YESLiving With Wife: YESNegotiating with Wife: YESTook her Stridhan Back: YESShe had Any Medical Problems: NOWilling to Help other Victims: YESContact No: 91-9886364868Comments: My Brother was involved with a girl later he is Engaged with other Good girl; now that 1st girl thretening us with RAPE;
What to do
Please Advice
RegardsVishalkshi - Bangalore91-9886364868.
posted by 498A_Victim at 1:43 AM 0 comments
Saturday, June 10, 2006

Present India: Husbands are often assaulted by their wife
Present India: Husbands are often assaulted by their wife
posted by 498A_Victim at 3:35 AM 12 comments
Monday, May 15, 2006

Ravindra bhatt - Bangalore (Canada)
Before married, I was set up by her family. There are episodes verbal abusings by her brother before marriage on me. There were lot of lies told to make me agree for arranged marriage. They lied to me that she has passport and many more things. After marriage We lived together for 27 days, before I relocated to Canada on a Full time job. She was not showing any intrest in me, even those early days of marriage and there are episodes of verbal and physical abuse by her on me. I got her visa and she came here in May,2005. Immdiately after arrival she started harassing and telling lies on me in my back. She lied that I dont bring grocery home, I trouble her by asking her to cook food for me, I dont her medicine, I ask her for money etc etc to her parents. Her parents went to my parents and told many more lies, they even told my parents that we dont have sex, and that I am aksing for 3-5 lakhs. When I spoke in a teleconference with my mother, she told totally opposite,, she said She is spoiling my life, She is not aware that how come her parents are saying that etc etc. Things started falling apart. My mother asked us to work it out and live together, but she wasnt co-operative at all. She continued lieing and insulted me in bed and walked out on me. She said, she wants to go back to India and wants divorce. I arranged for teleconference and asked her and her parents about the lies. She said, I never asked for any money. Her mother said, she never said, I asked for 3-5 lakhs. After that, there were episodes of violence from her on me, she use to throw hot coffee, hit me with coffee mug. She asked me for money on 12th of July,2005 and asked me to clear her parents debt. I said, I am not doing it, she threatend me that things will not be good, on 17th july,2005 she called her parents set up a time to send cops to my house at mid night 3 AM. Her parents sent cops when I was in deep sleep and she went with them, she gave cops her relatives number, and went to Ansalma house and told many lies and got a letter from them and went to her relatives place in Toronto. She then took a flight and went back to India and Filed 498A. Her father is a lawyer, they planned all these. I was not informed of any FIR,Court proceedings. Nobody in my family also were not aware. Whenever our parents spoke they threatened us and my parents, and said they wants me to go back to India. On Dec 25,2005 my mother passed away by all these unbearable harassment from her, She is so cruel, she went to Court and got an Arrest warrant issued saying that She has given me 2 lakhs, and I sent her back asking her for 50000 Rs. Also, in the warrant she has mentioned that I am absconding. They gave our neighbour address for the cops to issue the warrant. My father happend to see the warrant, and went to lawyer then we came to know about all the fruad things she has done. I hired a lawyer and i have filed a case in High court based on Section 188, Res Judicata and that she took advantage of my mothers death. My next hearing in lowyer court is on June 17th 2005. I have given proofs from Canada police that there was no physical injury or physical abuse that night. I have also given letter from work that I never left country and her claim that I am absconding is all lies. The rest is in my lawyers hands.
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:27 AM 2 comments

Dhiraj Upadhyaya - New Delhi
I am defence offr and my wife working in Airlines in Delhi. Destiny made us live apart due to our jobs and this created difference which were became irrepairable later. She was under negative influence of her parents. Rest of the story is like any other story of 498a victim..... She and her parents are trying to blackmail me, which i will not allow under any cirucumstances. We have lived together less than 1 yr in 13 yrs of marraige and with my daughter of 12 yrs not even 3 months.
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:25 AM 1 comments

Partha Basu - Chennai
Filed case at Mumbai in Nov.Got transit remand of my parents, brother and house-maid at local court in Kolkata. After reaching Mumbai they all released on bail on production to the court. I was arrested seperately from Chennai after 7 days and got bail on prodction to the court. Now filed a WP at Mumbai high court. Now 5 months are over, police is yet to file a charge-sheet.
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:24 AM 1 comments

Rakesh - Jalandhar
My wife was suffering from psychotic nervous breakdown before marriage. She used to go to her mothers's place from one to six months by just picking up a fight. Last time she went away on 31st May 2005. The next day her brother came with some local politicians but i did not allow her to enter. When I came to know that they have filed a police complained I filed a suit for divorce on 15th June2005.I was arrested and got bail after spending one night in judicial custody and two in police custody. My divorce case is listed for arguments in a few days and the judje had declared in the court last time that she would give her decision in May 2006 positively. The 498A case has not reached the framing of charges stage till date though i have to appear before the magisterate once a month. The magisterate has not passed any orders u/s125 till date though the family court has awarded Rs. 2500/ as maintenance in my divorce case plus rs.3000 litigation expenses ,which i am paying regularly. my wife has never asked for custody of our 12 years old son who lives with me.
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:22 AM 1 comments

Dr. Kishwar Hayat Khan - Bhagalpur, Bihar
I am Dr. Kishwar Hayat Khan resident of Bhagalpur, Bihar, India. I got married with Zakia Kazim daughter of Mr. Moosa Kazim resident of Gaya, Bihar, India on 2nd January 2005. I lived with my wife only for 10 days. I am one of such grooms who along with the family, is falsely implicated under the IPC 498A and ¾ Dowry Prohibition Act. After obtaining my doctorate degree in Biotechnology from new Delhi, got a job of Research Associate at Saudi Arabia. Presently I am working as a contractual faculty (Lecturer) in the department of Biotechnology, Gwalior, India. Immediately after the marriage I was blackmailed and mentally harassed by my greedy wife to leave my old ailing parents, to sell all the parental properties, to shift to Bhopal or other metropolitan town. She bluntly refused to obey the contract of marriage. Even she refused to lead a conjugal life as a house wife as she wants to walk out from the bond of marriage. We lived together for only 10 days but no conjugal relations were developed. She is continuing her study at Bhopal, M.P. India. Moreover I was threatened a number of times by my father- in- law, mother- in- law, brother-in- law and sister- in- law to full fill the above demands of my wife or to remain for the worst consequences. All the ornaments presented to me as well as to my wife on the eve of marriage, ornaments brought from Saudi Arabia, ornaments presented by my parents and relatives to both of us were taken away by my wife with the aid and support of her family members through a conspiracy. Moreover her father and family members did a house- tress- pass and took away my wife from my house through a criminal conspiracy by showing force. They assaulted my father and took away the briefcase of my mother containing ornaments. I filed a criminal case mentioning the above matter clearly against them under the section 379, 504, 323 etc. Non bail able warrant has been issued against them by the Honorable Court, Bhagalpur, Bihar. The case is pending at Bhagalpur. I sent a pleader notice to my wife to live a conjugal life with me like a house wife. Moreover I also wrote to Imarate Sharia (Muslim Family Court at Bihar) explaining how she deserted my life for her unlawful objects. My wife with aid and support of her family members and muscleman came to Gwalior, M.P. which is my working place, They tortured me physically as well as mentally and threatened to put the entire family behind the bar under section 498A and ¾ Dowry Prohibition Act. I went to near by Police Station and lodged a Station Diary against their threat and blackmailing. I then filed a matrimonial case against my wife at Family Court Bhagalpur “Restitution of Conjugal Right (RCR)” After the above mentioned events I came to know that she has lodged a complaint case at Gaya, Bihar under the section 498A and ¾ Dowry Prohibition Act. She and her father and other family members surrender at Bhagalpur Court. She did not appear at RCR filed against her at Bhagalpur. Finally a gazette was published in News Paper at Gaya on the direction of Judge of Family Court at Bhagalpur against her. In the meantime I applied for the anticipatory bail first for my family members and separately for my self. The bail was rejected at lower court. We then moved to Honorable High Court, Patna, Bihar. My father, mother and brother in law got anticipatory bail from the above High Court. My anticipatory bail petition was dismissed from the High Court. My entire family is under the threat. She is blackmailing to pay a heavy amount of money. They are using the law as an instrument for self gratification and fulfillment of greeds. Now the question is how to get anticipatory bail for my self. How should I save my self as well as my family members against my wife and her family members whose main aim is to extract money? Please send me the necessary guide line to save my self as well as my family members against my wife who is totally blackmailing me by misusing IPC 498A. My Mobile number is 9893******. My email ID is hamkishwar**@yahoo Is there any organization that works to protect the harassment of man at the hand of their selfish, greedy and blackmailing wife? Is there any organization that works to protect old and sick father- in- law and mother- in- law at the hands of their masterminded and wicked daughter- in- law. Kindly help me and send me your guide line.
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:19 AM 0 comments

Reddy Hyderabad, AP(USA)
Wife lives in USA since 8 Sep 1997 and Her parents visited USA. Her father filed a 498A case in India and had my parents get arrested. Now they filed chargesheet also and got NBW on me (Currently living in USA). Can they arrest me in USA with Indian NBW? How could I fight this case.
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:17 AM 0 comments

Dharam Singh - Hyderabaad
I am victim of a false case registered against me US 498a by my wige.My wife had some mental problems and picked up quarrels/fights with me every now and then.[I do not have any proof to support her mental problems].She [with the help of her parents] has filed case against me. Now they are black mailing me & demanding huge sums of money from me.I want to know regarding Maintainance allowance that my wife can claim/get.Lawyers are of the opinion that wife can claims 50% of husband's income, And it is in the hands of court to to grant whatever it may feel right.Are there any set guidelines regards to this,is there any minimum/maximum amount or is it totally at the discretion of Judge?
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:15 AM 0 comments

Anand - chennai
it was a forced marriage for her. First day after the marriage itself she had revealed that she doesnot like him. she threw the thali on the floor. they lived like this for 4 months at his house.when thing went out of control my brother left her back at her house and left for canada where he was working. during the one and half years they used to bring her to our house ( my father,mother myself and my sister are staying) often and after a week or so go back to her house. this was the routine.finally just before his arrival my brother spoke to his father in law and said that he cannot continue the marriage and we will part ways amicably once he is back home. Immediately hearing this they brought her to our house and left her .My brother could not enter the house. we were very scared because any attempt from her side would take us behind the bars. After staying there for 40 days some of our relative ( not her relatives) conviced her to go back home. but after 20 days again she tried to barge in to house. As my brother doesnot want to continue the relation ship we locked the house and moved out of the house. They went to the police station and filed the dowry harrasement complaint under 498A.when we came to know about section 498A we ( are staying in kerala) moved out of kerala and went hiding in Tamilnadu for nearly two weeks. Meanwhile we filed a petition in kerala high court and the the honourable cout of kerala awarded bail for all of us including my brother.right now the case is before the court and the case starts on may 10.
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:13 AM 0 comments

Deepak - Bangalore (USA)
Wife was harassing me in USA not allowing me to focus on job. We had taken marriage counselling in USA but of no use. So took her to India and left her with her parents in Aug 2005. Asked parents to advice her and give her some treatment so that she can be treated. I took an appointment also with Dr. Latha Hemchand consulting pscychologist, but she did not come. She said that me and my parents are mental and needed help. I stayed in India for two months. Since nothing was happening, I took advice of Dr. Latha and proceeded with divorce proceedings in India. In Feb 2006, 6 months on her green card was completing and she ran away to US and staying in women's shelter. She is working with women's organizations to spoil my name and career in US. Now I filed divorce in USA(Mar 2006) and waiting for proceedings. In end of March, my father and BIL were arrested for section 498a violation. But the officer let them go since the victim(my wife) has run away to US. Any advice you give will be helpful.
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:11 AM 3 comments

Aliegh - Bangalore(UAE)
I am 32 Years Old working in a Computer firm in UAE for the last 9years with not much of high salary but a medium salaried person. My family is about 6, myself, mother and four sisters, all have been married. two sisters live with mother and two sisters live with there husbands who work locally in Bangalore, the two sisters living with mother due to there husbands working in abroad one does not have parents the other has some personal issue with his family. Father Expired and I was the only source of income from the age of 15yrs I had to study and work together. somehow had an arrange marriage fixed by my mother and sisters.Background1. Engaged on Oct 10th 2004 with Fathima B also called as Imrana age 24 according to her parents but according to the records its 27(told me after the marriage) Orignally these people are from Tirchy – I was abroad and the engagement happened without me it was all I trusted my parents that they will never wish anything bad to there kids and I have that trust until death.2. Married on Jan 9th 2005, Infantry Road, Bangalore.3. No Demands from my side as I had four sisters got them married I knew how tough it is to have a girl get married. So strictly had no demands. 4. Father in law even though I had strictly denied provided few things like sofa Set, Almira, Showcase and few utensils which are still lying without being used and also 50000rupees cash as gift money5. Finally got married and the first day itself had my nervous break down (biggest mistake of myself was not trying to find out whether these people were reliable or not I was taken by my family words, I saw a stretch mark or you could say a big mark like one would have after u have operated on the skin right on her abdomen when enquired I was told a lie that due to tying the clothes u get mark. I have been asking this question two to three times and nothing concrete answer I got, what I got was silence and crying or a lies. Later I had a verbal confirmation from a doctor when she had a first pregnancy scan I casually asked the doc she said it’s a pregnancy mark I was baffled again tried to ask her but she deviated me and dropped the topic.6. I Kept Calm as I taught this was Gods Wish and it was my fate, didn’t want to make a big issue as mistakes happen in ones life, there was not much of communication in the relationship it was like I got married to a dead soul who couldn’t even laugh, talk, respect, know the basic rules of living somehow taught she will learn from my sisters and mother about all the tips and tricks of living but for a shock she was arrogant and rude, sometimes I felt she had some mental problem as she used to be okay for a while and again gone in the lost world for a while... I just gave some time taught some people require time to patch up so I went back to work 7. Worked for few weeks and called her to UAE along with my mother as she didn’t know still how to cook and other basics...8. tensions every other day she used to always complain about my mother that she did like this and that and I used to always console her that respect elders learn something it happens we are kids in front of elders we tend to make mistakes so try to adjust but all this was a crap for her she went on my mother didn’t utter a word 9. 3 months and my mother had to leave as the period of visa was expired she left this dead soul along with me and went back I taught perhaps when my mother is not there she would be okay but that was just a dream10. She was pregnant the month before my mother left, she literally tortured us by all sorts of stubbornness and arrogance I taught it was normal in pregnancy but my mother knew all her tricks but she didn’t tell me a word she taught we would be fine when she left.11. now it became worse we had arguments every fort night that’s right after we receive her sick parents phone call, after that she was like hell I was like a fool coming everyday home sitting in a corner living on my own, tried talking but again no response sometime if I am lucky she would talk very economically like hi hello okay no that’s it and always having a face seeing which u really get pissed as though she was forced into something, I tried talking to her many times but no luck in getting any answers I taught and console my self that time and the pregnancy period would have some changes but nothing12. she was getting worse and no improvements, no proper sleep always upto something or the other, she even tried to ran away from the house at midnight I warned her not to do but she enjoyed going against me so I had to catch her and slap her few times 13. during these period I had a very tough time in having meals, she used to cook rarely however she all food was out of sync , all training was a waste nothing was in her head I guess or perhaps she didn’t want to learn anything14. seeing the situation worse I had to send her back in her 5th month to home taught ladies would take care better than me but that was also wrong it went too worse, she didn’t want to live in our house with my mother she always made up some story and wanted to go to her house, finally since it was Ramadan and she was not co-operating my mother decided to send her back to her home and I guess she was the most happiest person on earth, meanwhile she had pushed my mother, ill-treated my mother so badly that my mother was regretting and cursing herself that why did she choose such a girl15. she never bothered how I was living she was forcibly calling proxy by her mother always and talking nothing just hi hello , and when I called up the same thing hi hello nothing at all it was like period after that, came to know that she hurt my family very bad I stopped talking to her. I had told her not to go to her house until I come but she refused to listen to me she wanted to stay at there house rather than staying at my house.16. she delivered I didn’t knew about it, her father told lies after lies I didn’t knew about it, on the delivery day he calls up on request of somebody third person and informs that u have a kid even though I was busy in a meeting I am telling him please call up later but that’s it as though for name sake he calls up and finishes his job.17. somehow came to know sent my mother and sisters to see the kid and do the initial rituals again there also they showed disrespect to my family as though there were some untouchables however ignored and carried along18. days passed no communication , meanwhile my mother was often sick and not keeping well and she at least for once didn’t enquire how is my mother , I didn’t care as she was so inhuman. her father another sick person always puts me and my family down had a very big argument with my mother and yet nothing about leaving his daughter in our house just embarrassing , harassing us and he left, my mother said she will talk to me first and then she would decide how to go about.19. days passed and I went on request of my mother to resolve this issue, I landed Friday morning that is 17th march 2006 went for prayers came back and slept went to aunties house as she had returned from HAJ then went to uncles house and came back home I told all the UAE story to my mother and everybody started crying as there was no happiness in the married life it was just sadness and quietness.. Well after listening and trembling the next day 18th march 2006 we had to go to madras immediately as my mothers...Brother was sick and I went along with mother Saturday we were in madras and we visited and moved to our village Mulbagal ..K.G.F it was on the way taught since I was on a short vacation I would visit and finish... While we were there we got a call from our house that some rowdies with police had visited our place searching for me, I told just take the number and when we are back we will revert back to them. when we returned the same evening we entered the house and were dialing the numbers suddenly the police and the rowdies along with the brother-in-law came to our house and said we are all are under arrest and have to pay a visit to the Kadugondanhalli Police Station, it was a shock my mother fainted my sisters started crying it was a terrible blow to us, we had visited the police station and found all wife, father-in-law, rowdies, brother-in-law , wife’s uncle were all there already it was like these guys are already booked the police staff in the station, the Sub Inspector in Question was not even listening to me he was threatening me that I speak a word he will put me and my family in the Lock Up, since my mother and sisters were there I stood quite and was watching whats happening he took the complain and read it aloud which was so horrible and shocking too she my wife had put a dowry case on me telling that I had beaten her tortured her mentally and physically I was demanding money from them and I sent her back to get more money and all the crap I was shattered how could my wife do this to me, I just wanted a happy married life and a lovely relationship and I get all rubbish and garbage in return, she didn’t even have courtesy that my mother and sister went out of the way to teach her how to tie a sari, how to cook, how to clean and all that still she paid them her instincts.20. The Police inspector called both of us her father was sticking to her even though he was calling her separately to talk with me but as u know since the father-in-law had bribed the staff he was also there still the police inspector said if we had any misunderstandings please go ahead and talk it over and come back. 21. we went to a separate room I asked my wife what are you doing, and why are u doing this, she laughed at me and mocked me I was like didn’t know what to do again I asked her how could you do this to me? She said her father had encouraged her to do this and I said even if he did how could you as a person do this to me she kept quite the same stupid behavior of her then I asked her whts her intention does she want to carry on or go ahead with the relationship she said fine we will go ahead with the relationship so we went to the police and said okay we don’t have any misunderstanding we will carry on with the relationship. The police asked to give a written letter that the complain taken back, wife was like a puppet she was always looking at her father whats next like, she didn’t even bother what the police was telling then finally her father said they will come back next day and take the complain back. But the police insisted in having something in writing so with great difficulty they wrote some words and gave it to the police. While leaving father-in-law came to me and said that he would like to have a word with me tomorrow at his house. 22. I didn’t know what was his intention so the next day I went along with my mother, my uncle and cousin brothers went to there place around 630pm in the evening and surprising I saw a big crowd gathered almost around 20 people, fatherinlaw introduced one by one that some were relatives of gangsters, some were from the mosque, some were from the mahila mandal and some were just calling themselves as well wishers. I said he called me and didn’t even mention about this well I didn’t have to be scared as I was not feeling guilty the truth was always our families strength and that’s what our parents have taught us. So I had told them the whole story right from the beginning how father-in-law cheated us by doing some black magic on my family, telling lies about his daughter and all the whole crowd gathering calling themselves as Panch, turned against the father-in-law and pointed at him only that it was his fault that he was not allowing his child to live happily, father-in-law’s arrogant behavior he showed disrespect to all the people he called and everybody were like talking about her father and her how can there ruin there own lives like this. Finally everybody said that since u have a kid happened is happened forget the past and continue living , no phones from her house to our house for at least few days until we get settled so all decided and we decided to take my wife and kid along with us. around midnight 20th March 2006 before leaving after we went thru so much father-in-law shameless character tells us to leave his daughter for a day and take her next day we were like again what the hell is he upto then somehow we said we will be taking her now and we left we reached home, didn’t know what was running on her mind shameless character came home and no wishes still the same arrogant face, I always wondered whts wrong with her either she should speak or tell something so that we could discuss the matter but looks like she wanted to destroy her own life and trouble all the people. She came home n went inside the room and quite everybody left her alone nobody wanted to tell her anything do this do that everybody left her on her own to what ever she liked but nothing went good. We all were silent I tried talking but no luck so went and slept on the couch and she slept with the baby alone not a whisper23. next day I came out and slept at the corridor as I was deeply moved by her actions went to sleep I heard she was inside the room itself always with the baby trying to avoid my family, however everybody understood and left her on her own but since she didn’t knew how to live she was like fish out of water her parents were not there to support her I guess, somehow woke up around 11 and received a call from her house I was like yesterday only we told them not to call but this was heights then I ignored it and gave her the phone they had a long chat didn’t know what they were planning and I just went out to friends place came home late around 10 in the night and my mother said she again tried calling her home and asked for some personal things to be taken care, my mother asked me to call my wife and ask her what the personal thing was , the trauma was still in the minds of my family and afraid as to what would she do next so I asked her what was the matter no answer I asked her again she said some purse thing then I told her that we were very clear that there will be no phone calls in and out to her house until we get settled then why did she go against again no answer I said please don’t do this again and we went to sleep, this time I slept besides her suddenly after some time she came and told me that there are 5 people in the relatives who had forced them to do these steps and she was afraid to tell the names, I was shocked and wanted to know the names of the people but she never opened her mouth till morning finally I told her if you tell and discuss we could avoid such people in future and avoid complications but still she didn’t listen to me and I said forget it if you want to tell u can otherwise go to sleep. Next morning I woke up went to my friends place, meanwhile at home she attempted to run away from house , she packed her bags took the baby and went to our land lords house who stay at the top floor and asked some money from them 100Rs from which she will go to police station and complain the lady of the land lord advised her and consoled her that what she was doing was wrong don’t do anything which will be disgrace to our family and to her family but none of the words went thru her head, the land lady took her baggage and kept with her and sent her back to my home after few minutes again she made an attempt by running towards the road my auntie who was at home was like oh my god help her she is running away outside with the kid she went and caught her and brought her home, she did this two three times and was like determined to runaway, the land lady called me from there and said please rush back to home as my wife was troubling everybody by running away they witnessed and everybody in the neighbours also did our whole respect and dignity in the neighbourhood was again shattered into pieces, I visited the land lady and spoke to her she advised me to call the elders and inform them about this. While I was speaking to her somehow the father-in-law came to know this and rushed to our house with some lady and left the lady along with the wife and said will be back later. I went to my friends place and discussed this and he also said u should inform her elders about this so I came home in the evening and saw already father-in-law, the rowdies I mean the gangsters, and one of his relative who calls himself as uncle were there and they cooked up a story telling the news of running away made my mother-in-law fell down from steps and she was unconscious and they have come to pick my wife up , I could see something fishy as I knew my mother-in-law its like so is the daughter so so is the mother… so I immediately called few people who were in the earlier gathering and some of my relatives that this is the story every body again questioned why did she run away but again no answer somehow father-in-law was succeeded in taking her to his place telling that he will be taking the wife and kid for four days and then he will send them back and it was his responsibility to ensure there safety (I should have taken to the police station and taken a statement but I never knew they will do such horrible thing again) they left along the wife and kid, while going I wanted to clarify about the jewellery part as I had never seen any jewellery at my home then her father said in front of everybody that there jewellery is in there custody and our jewellery is in our custody so no doubts in that was cleared in front of almost 10-15 people. 24. next day i.e., Thursday 23rd march 2006 called her in the morning and enquired about her mother how she was doing and about the kid she said everything was okay 25. I had spoken to one of father-in-law’ Friend a 20year old Friend who seem to be understanding the whole situation and who was close to my father-in-law he told me that all this was a pre-plan setup by him firstly he took us to the police station he failed, secondly he called the gathering again he failed and the third was putting hatredness between my friends and me to isolate me and friends he failed there also ( one of the friend was related to the notorious gangster which even I came to know at that time and it so happened that the gangsters which our father-in-law bought along with him were low end gangsters and were afraid of the notoroious gangster) , he then finally encouraged her daughter to ensure a FIR is Registered 498A . the most saddest part was he didn’t even respect his 20year old friendship he embarrassed his own friend in front of everybody.26. Our land lady over heard my wife who was in the street telling her brother that she will show our family how far she can go, since she had studied psychology she would show some psycho behaviour which she did succeed in.27. Brother-in-law a third class student from Ramaiah Diploma College had gangsters as his company. 28. Father-in-law does not have his own place to live he lives in his father-in-laws place shameless character, he for the name sake practices Sidha herbal medicine but earns lot of money from black magic, I even heard that he was once arrested ages back due to some goof up in his black magic god knows better.29. It was Friday 24th march 2006 morning a police visited to my place and said there is a 498A case registered and my mother, sister, and my self are to be arrested. My mother was again horrified and didn’t knew what to do , I was sleeping inside and my mother went to our land lord and said that there is a police constable who has come for arrest, the land lord knew the police he spoke to him and sent him back, the land lord went to the police station and bribed the staff around 5 police staff not to come to the house and harass people so they stopped for that day we all decided to go underground , after we spoke to the lawyer we went back to some place and got updates from our brothers as to whts happening, my sick wife and her sick father again bribed the police staff and took them along with them and searched my entire relatives house harassing my family they went to each and every relatives house bribed the police staff took them along with and search but by God’s Grace we were untraceable, meanwhile the land lord and my friends suggested that I leave the country and resume my job as soon as possible I was suppose to resume my duties on 29th of march 2006 but looking at the situation everybody decided that I leave the country first and the rest will be taken care slowly. We had applied the same day for Anticipatory Bail for my mother and two sisters and I left India went to Mumbai and the next day on 25th evening I had a flight to UAE landed midnight and reached home on 26th Morning and resumed duties on the same morning. First thing I went to my manager and discussed all this matter and told him the whole story he said not to worry as the company has a contract signed by me. Back home my mother and sisters were having tough time staying in lodges, shuffling from place to place, hiding from disgrace from the relatives and so on … I was tensed here and they were tensed there, the first application for bail failed as the father-in-law had some influence with the ACP perhaps he would have bribed him aswell and pushed for rejection of bail, the second time the bail was applied and finally by God’s Grace we got the bail as of April 10th 2006. 30. Now I don’t know what to do with such inhuman and arrogant people they broke my peaceful family into pieces, I can’t even show my face to my relatives its utter disgrace to me and which I have brought to my family. Please advice and help to sort out this matter justly. Everybody is talking something or the other thing the law is such corrupted that everybody has a Price tagged and without which nobody works or helps. I am a normal human being and I have taken loans and got my sisters married presently I pay 40000Rupees as EMI for four years and I am stuck please help!
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:10 AM 1 comments

Sambamurthy.J - Bangalore
1) Got married in Aug 1999, was an arranged marriage and at that time was working in USA. Came to India and got married in chennai as both our parents live in Chennai. She is from a well to do business family.2) Went back to USA alongwith wife and stayed there till July 2000. Came back together for the child birth.3) Got a baby boy in Sep 2000. I started working in Banglore. She joined me in bangalore in Feb 2001.4) Both of us lived together from Feb 2001 to Oct 2003. She left Bangalore alongwith the kid for Chennai. Never returns back to bangalore irrespective of our best efforts.5) Files a petition for divorce in the family court @ chennai in Dec 2004 citing mental harassment, cruelty and asking for a permanent alimony of 20Lakhs.6) I filed a counter before the family court asking for restitution and child custody in July 2005.7) Counselling by the family court fails in the month of Aug 2005.She files a criminal complaint under 498A and 406 in the month of Aug 2005 after the counselling session. (Myself, father and mother)8) Police came in search of me to Bangalore. I was out of station.They take my parents who reside in chennai and send them to jail. I get anticipatory bail from High court and based on that get my parents released from the jail. My father is 70 yrs old man and my mother is 60 yrs. They have never resided with my wife at all. Because of this now, my father has suffered cardiac arrest in the month of october 2005 and a stroke in feb 2006.9) Police have not filed a charge-sheet till now.10) I am attending my family court proceedings every month and am fighting to see my kid asking for visitation rights.
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:07 AM 0 comments

Siddique Mohammed Ishtiyaq - Mumbai
I was married on may-08-2004,ON 17 feb.2005 my wife dilevered a girl,but my wife said that she wont keep the baby and will give the baby to her elder sister ,who cannot have children due to medical problems,but since her elder sister went to USA on march2005,but returned on 12august 2005 and since that morning my daughter is with her sister at her residence ,I had managed everything to for all three of us and were staying seperate after the marriage .but on 30August 2005,my wife started asking for divore from me ,as i had refused to let her sister adopt my daughter ,that night my wife tried ti commit sucide ,but i savd her and called her family who took her awayat 12-05am 1-9-2005 and at 11am they came to my house and took away all the things with valuables,and not left a single drop of water in my house.I copmplined about this in the Police Sthtion.,later send a legal notice to my wife to come back ,but she along with her elder sister started forcing,threatening my parents to tell me to give divorce or else they will acuse us in false case of 498A,tthen on 8-November,i was called by the thane police comisionner (womens cell) ,there i came to know that she had filed a case against my parents ,brothers,sister,and other relatives that we were torturing her ,my parents always asked her to bring money from her house ,,and she also mentioned that i had tried to kill my daughter on feb-27-2005, i had many proof that i was inocent,but due to her false case against my parents,i agreed to give her divorce.I havent seen my daughter since 30-august 2005,i signed the divore papers under force on 14 -november-2005.Since then i called at my wifes residence to let me see my daughter but they refused ,and after a few days i was called from the police station that she has complained that i am threatening her by making phone calls .as per Muslim law this divorce is considered invalid ,and also as per other laws.but only for the sake of my parents,and there respect,i had to sign thge divorce papers.and also pay her 65,000/-rupees.I am an auto rickshaw driver in mumbai and her sister has mrried a software eng.who is working in usa.they cannot have any children in future,and her husband takes all the responsibilities of there family . My wife got worried that her sister could kill her self if she doesnt get my daughter. and only after my refusal,she started asking for divorce ,,,Can i get my daughter back by any means,i am unable to pay the high fees of advocates ,plz guide me .And help me.I will be very thankfull to you.thanking you
posted by 498A_Victim at 2:05 AM 0 comments

Rajendra Prasad Bandi - Australia
My Name is RP, I am citizen of india resident of Telangana, Andhra pradesh. Currently residing in one of the commonwealth countries as Green Card Holder. I was married in Jan 2004 in hyderabad as bride stays there and Stepped in this country on 15th Feb 2004. As initially i was jobless i couldnt bring my wife to this country. When i am married at that time, She tortured me mentally by not cooperating in all cases(as well as on First Night Also). She has a affair before marriage and Married me because of her parents. So she is thinking she fulfilled her parent wishes and showing unrudely behaviour on me for marrying her. I dont know what wrong i did. Atleast she should tell me before marriage that she doesnt want to marry me so that i can reject marriage offer by saying i didnt like girl. I am a person with moral values and respect to women as i too have a sister. My Father was expired in 1998, since then i am the sole bread earner for my Family. When my father expired, My sister and Brother are studying 10th Class and 7th class respectively. Today they are studying MCA and BTech(CS). I spent each and every paisa on them to get better education. In 2005, Jan i got Job after waiting almost a year. She never been to my house from the marriage date. I adviced her that she is now one of my family and should take care of my family as i am away with my family. She refused to stay with my family and demanded me to take her with me. I am ready to take her After coming here, we may back to India after 4 or 5 years. If she stays with my family she will knowmy current family situation. But i advised again to stay with my family for atleast 3 months. She refused to this and threatened me she will register anti-dowry case on me. At Last she filed case on May 20, 2005. The case filed on me are1) At Sanjeeva Reddy Nagar Police Station , Hyderabad on May 20 20051) She complained on me indirectly about dowry harassment on phone, and my family members directly.Sir, I am not against anti-dowry, Surely the persons harrassing their wifes must be punished. According indian Law, if a case registered with 498A will come under cognizable offence. What offence i did. Police can arrest without warrant and torture me if go back to india. She managed Police with bribes.
posted by 498A_Victim at 1:58 AM 1 comments
Friday, January 06, 2006

Deepak Mumbai
this is my friends stroy, he got married 3yrs back , they ere not in good terms bcoz of same thoughts differences . in total 3 yes time she was here only for 3 month. last she left his home last yr. , and last week suddenly poice reached to his palce for 498A arrest. he is behind baz. his family tried hard for bail , but bail got rejected 3 time, as oppo. party has political influence in that area. we are applying bail in high court.pls help to point out the effective grounds for bails.and how to get rid of this problem.
posted by 498A_Victim at 10:47 PM 7 comments

Joginder Singh - United Kingdom
I have two brothers and one sister. My wife framed my complete family including my mother. My one brother and sister are married. She lived with me not more then 2 months in total. My married brother lives in Hyderabad for last 7 years. He met her only twice. My lawyer fooled us, he just gave money to keep them silent for five months and now again they are creating problem. In first investigation police gave us clean chit, but my in-laws requested re-investigation. Now different police (DSP) is doing investigation and they paid good money to him. We have applied for bail but not got yet. Can law force me to come back to India? Can they charge my married sister? Reason why she filed is i denied to go US with her because her sister lives there and her arrogant behaviour.Please reply soon.
posted by 498A_Victim at 8:53 PM 5 comments

RAVINDRA KUMAR DAS - JHARKHAND
They only married for the sake(name) of marriage, the girl(my wife) had already been involved with anyone whom she could/can never forget, and the matter is known by all her relatives. I protested it by saying that she will go there with me and return with me, but my opinion was rejected by them all. Actually, they had preplanning to harrass me, before marriage they went to Police Authorities(Actually one of his relatives is retired Supdt. of Police). Anyhow marriage held. After that they started to harrass me that I must opt transfer to their place and must give salary in her hand. Within a few days, they came in my Office and complained that I am torturing their daughter, so my half of the salary be sent to them and daughter be sent to them. Again they complained in the Police, I went to them and clearly told my situation, police then sent them back, but by taking an oath from three parties in written, I felt safely. Again after some days they again went to police and complained the same(Those days my wife was with me), police authorities learned the whole idea and told me to compromise me, but I reiterated that she will go with me and will be back with me, they all agreed.To save my life I thought that If she conceives the matter will be solved. By the grace of Almighty, it happened and she gave birth a baby child in October 2002, Her father came and took her to their residence in December, 2002 saying that she will be sent back in the month of January, 2003, but in vain. I sent my relatives to bring her but she didn\'t came. Again they went to the police authorities that I am not bringing my wife and baby child to my home, then I went to bring but they told that it is not possible as they will submit their daughter to the Police authorities, I came back. Again I came to the police, they told me to wait and go after few days. I went there to bring my wife and baby child, but in vain.Again in May 2003 I went to there to bring my wife but again in vain,but they told scolding me that \'If you go to jail you will come in line\', I complained the matter to the Supdt. of Police there and came back and informed the local Supdt. of Police.I talked over phone that if she wishes to come, I will go there, but she ignored.Then on the advice of their ex. legal advisor I filed a case for\'Restitution of Conjugal Rights\', hearing this they filed a case of 498a, 3/4 and 4-5 more cases naming many family members of mine. I got my warrant, went to the Court got the bail of every member , but the District Judge rejected my bail plea. I went to the High Court, from their I got bail without going jail.In the meantime they told me to withdraw my plea on \'Restitution of Conjugal Rights\' with some \'Gundas\'.During the case, they again filed \'Maintenance Suit\' and she is getting 2000/-(Rs. two thousand only) per month from my salary since March, 2005. Now the chargesheet framed and case is going on. Since December 2002, she is staying there, often she comes my town, even my office(her relative do live here).I haven\'t seen my baby child since long, I haven\'t tortured her but getting the result of it. What should I do now, I don\'t know. But I am in full of fear that they will murder me by any means and she will take my service and wealth etc. Believe me, I have never tortured her nor bitten her, I am puzzled that why is the law so \'BLIND\' ?I am helpless as i am not a position to think and do \"bus jiye ja raha hun\'. Kindly advise me.P.S. I haven\'t mentioned many facts due to some reasons.Please help me.
posted by 498A_Victim at 8:35 PM 1 comments
Sunday, October 30, 2005

Straight facts on the sec. 498A. misusage.a)Throughout the world domestic issues are solved by civil laws, only India is having this criminal law in it.b)Poor or rural woman or their husbands don't even know about this law(70%) indian population and can't use this law on thier husbands performing cruel acts on their wifes.c)Indian Educated woman are changed a lot unlike decades back...very harming in nature and selfish inside marriages and blackmailing husbands to the extent of having following REALITY suicide rates in India (Indiastat.com)Suicide rates in India: National Suicide rate is: 11 people per 100,000 For males in the age group of 30 to 44, the Suicide rate is a whopping 508 per 100,000 persons; for women it is 220. The Suicide rates among men in the age group of 45 to 59 is a shocking 1,812 per 100,000 persons and among women, nearly 550. So much more people are dying due to SOWRY harassment than the DOWRY harassment. However, among divorced males the suicide rate is 164 per 100,000 persons, but even in this class, among females the rate is only 63 per 100,000. While the suicide rate for separated men is about 167, for females it is only 41 per 100,000 persons.d) Above statistics are surprising but is reality. REASON FOR DOWRY WORD spread everywhere and became notorious in Indian system is due to spread by more than 60 Women Organizations in India for the decades and Culturally India is very inclined/supportive to women and is the advantage taken by these organizations.e) Compare western males to Indian Males, see their Physical Health look up difference..heavy bellies..tired harworking....burdened...stressed...balded..Western men look STRONG heavily fit, because of the criteria and laws men follow.f) Animals got Rights, Women got Rights .Men protect India by fighting war..but he doesn't have Rights/laws to protect himself inside marriage.g) Introduce Civil laws inside the marriages and share property equally between hubby/wife providing fastest divorces if they are incompatible rather suffering men with this 498A menace.h)USA state Dept. already warning Foreigners at : http://travel.state.gov/travel/india.html at "DOWRY/VISA DEMANDS" section not to travel for marriage to India clearly to avoid 498A."DOWRY/VISA DEMANDS: A number of U.S. citizen men who have come to India to marry Indian nationals have been arrested and charged with crimes related to dowry extraction. Many of the charges stem from the U.S. citizen's inability to provide an immigrant visa for his prospective spouse to travel immediately to the United States. The courts sometimes order the U.S. citizen to pay large sums of money to his spouse in exchange for the dismissal of charges. The courts normally confiscate the American's passport, and he must remain in India until the case has been settled. There are also cases of U.S. citizen women whose families force them against their will into marriages to Indian nationals."k) I hear lot of hatredness towards India by NRIs who are facing this 498A menace (some even lost their parents due to mental harassments by police/judiciary dealings), I doubt whether they turn back to help India anytime in future.ACCORDING TO Section 498A is NON-BAILABLE, NON-COMPOUNDABLE, NON-COGNIZABLE(No investigation to arrest) AND MEMBERS OF THE HUSBANDS FAMILY (including grand parents/unmarried sisters as well) PLACED INSIDE JAIL.Bieng Part of a men's group I hear police vans stop infront of Husband's home and all are usually taken into custody and atleast min. 4-6 nos, are placed behind bars...about 16000Cases Delhi, 8000 Bangalore, 14000 Bombay etc.,Pls. help protect middle class India before Indian men lose complete hopes on our country.http://victims-of-law.blogspot.com
posted by 498A_Victim at 11:46 PM 6 comments
Saturday, August 13, 2005

“What if I am tortured by my daughter-in-law” - Suicide note"If a woman is tortured, the first thing police do is arrest her in-laws, even though they are elderly. What if I am tortured by my daughter-in-law? All 498A(a section that deals with physical and mental torture of women) does is put people like us behind bars, it will never put my daughter-in-law behind bars.Police should look into this discrepancy and if need be change the law, for I am ending my life unable to bear the torture meted out to me by my daughter-in-law…"This suicide note was on Thursday from an Alipore (Kolkata, India) house where 64 year-old Ranjit Chakraborty hanged himself to death from from his bathroom shower.Chakraborty, a retired employee of a multi-national company, worked hard till the day he died.Police conducted a preliminary enquiry and slapped charges of abetting suicide against Chakraborty's daughter-in-law Litu and his only son Partha. Both were arrested. The police action came not just on the basis of the suicide note, but also after an inquiry in the locality.Police suspect Partha and Litu had their eyes on their parent's property and were hence ill-treating their parents. Source: Kolkata edition of The Times of India (couldn't find it online yet)I felt thoroughly horrified after reading this article. How much low can a woman sink for money? Where is the trust , the respect for the elderly? Such people make me sick to my core. And yes the law is unfairly tilted towards women in India. If any wife complains of torture by his husband or in-laws, immediately police arrests them, without even preliminary investigation or legal recourse. You are literally at the mercy of your daughter-in-law. And recently quite a few daughter-in-laws have decided to take advantage of the situation. ANI.MORAL OF THE STORY:all women are not victims they are villian too.but biased law of india think all women are weaker seXtion,and if they do anything that will not harass husband,he should not say anything.her false statement will land him in jail,without bail and these criminal charges are non compoundable.SUICIDE is the only option.http://dowry-law-misuse.braodphase.com
posted by 498A_Victim at 3:02 AM 1 comments
Wednesday, July 06, 2005

This article in today's ToI clearly shows how women get more happier than men after divorce, and why not they get that 'easy money'.Divorce liberates women, but men are devastatedLondon: Divorce, may be a painful experience but a new survey has revealed that a majority of adults involved, emerged happier than before and divorce makes women the happiest of all. Although distressing, a break-up can be a “positive life change’’, with women better able to cope with all its stages than men, it claims, reports the Independent. While women are more likely to feel relieved, liberated, and happy, men are more likely to feel sad, devastated, betrayed, confused and even suicidal. Among both sexes, 57% of those who agreed to separate in the last two years say they are happier now, while among those who broke up two or more years ago, 74% are happier. While surprisingly few of those questioned said they were unhappier than before their split, more men than women were: 18% of men and 14% of women fell into this group in the first two years after a split, and eight% of men and four% of women at two or more years on. Women’s greater emotional strength is perhaps apparent from the activities taken up after deciding to divorce. In the first two years after a split, women were more likely than men to have undertaken positive activities such as spending more time with friends (51% against 38%) or with family (37% to 30%), or taking counselling or therapy (16 % to 14%) Men were more likely than women to drink more (33% against 23%), seek casual sex (23% to 12%), contact an old flame (13% to 9%) or join a dating agency (21 %to 14%). However men were as likely as women to exercise more (30% to 28%), and go on holiday (32% to 33%). Men were also more likely than women to find that their divorce affected their work. They were more likely to say that they were not able to work as well as usual (13% against 10%) and more likely to take some time off because of the divorce (8% to 6%). ANI
posted by 498A_Victim at 12:38 AM 2 comments
Sunday, February 08, 2004

IPC 498a,323,504,506,Indian Penal Code.I'm one of the dowry Prohibition Act (IPC-498A) victim.We got married on 26th April 1997.Ours was arranged marriage, Since beginning she was not ready to mingle with my Family, only one week we stayed with my parents then we went to Bombay, where I was working. In the 2nd week of marriage she demanded DIVORCE, which I was not ready to give, then she and her family started to harass me, After one year our 1st child born; I found out, that she had affair with other man, and she wanted to marry him. But I never questioned her about it. After she come back from delivery, she started act strange, her words were sharp, and she was doing as her mother/sister tell her. Even once her mother told her in front me, NOT to cook. And she did that. I fought with her that day. She was complaining I was not doing, as she wanted.All she wanted is; I have to do as she saysI have to give money to her brothers, whenever they want, and never ask it to return.I have to give all my salary in her hand to manage homeI Should not ask, where she goes at nightI have to wish her all Family members on occasion, but she never done same to my Family.Her Father was threatened me that I have to cook for her Even After coming back from OfficeI have to bring Good Expensive whisky when Family members come home, when I refuse to do coz I'm not drinking and I'm against alcohol; she made to promise to our neighbor that i will start drinking [I see women who pray/do pasting for their husband to STOP drinking.]She was insulting me when I drink Pepsi in get-together, saying its Childs drink.She was telling smoking was style of society- coz I was not smoking.She was telling she was not SLAVE to do house hold work.I was doing my laundryI can challenge any women in cooking (she never been to kitchen till her marriage)She never know how to hold a needle - I was stitching kids cloths and buttonsShe Demanded to write my Flat to her nameShe always demanded to make more new gold ornaments-now she took all my gold with her.My Relatives should not come to my house.On 18th June, At Night 11.30 she called 7/8 relatives to my house, and threatened me, Almost 2 hours they harassed me, threatened me, try to beat; As a Christian I took this matter to Church, on 1st July Church Priest arranged meeting but they walked away insulted, After 2 days at night she came with some women relatives took all my money/gold insurance by force. I did`t went to police, thinking it should not made public, but next morning she lodged false complaint of dowry harassment on me. When I came back from office police were waiting for me. I was charge sheeted, I never took or demanded single paise as dowry, and even I gave half of the money as wedding expenses.Many times I tried to make her understand, our church priest also called her so many times, she was not ready to listen anything, at last our church priest said I'm going abroad, on new job so she came back only for one night to find out, the truth that I'm going aboard or not. As I was not sure about my project, so next day she just fade away as she came.After 4 months when I requested in court to verify the case, she came to the court Second time and asked for compromise, on condition that I've to take her back from her house, still I agreed for that and I went to her parents house in Mangalore, but she or her parents were Angry and were not ready to talk, Her Father tried to hit me, so I came back Empty handed 5th Time.On 28th October night 3 men came to my Flat, to threaten me, I did`t opened the door; I knew who they are and sent by whom. Her sister Husband was arrested/convicted for murder of his Brother-in-law for 7 years, and they have criminal background, in Bombay for just 1000Rs they murder someone. I did`t went to police because before that, also I went to lodge complaint, when her Family members threatened me to break my arms and limbs, Police made me to wait for 2 hours, and took my statement, but did nothing. Next day everyone advised me to leave the city.On 30th Oct 2000 I left Indiawithout telling whereabouts to my parents even.I was contacting my friend through Email and asking for the court date.After 5 years, this case is still going on, she never came to the court, but LAW turn blind eye on that, if I'm not present for one court date, they issue Arrest warrant for me. Even my lawyer is not doing anything, he try to get more money, I paid so much money, and totally I spent 3 Lakhs of Rupees in last 5 years. Still nothing happened.Court issued 4 Warrants against me so far, After Every Warrant i went to indian and Cancelled it, my lawyer says Court sent summons to her; she never came to the court to prove her complaint; unless she comes i cann`t prove my innocence. Law / Court / Judge is not doing anything than give dates after dates.Meanwhile i wrote to President of india and he forwarded my mail to Karnataka State Legal Authority, as i`m native of Karnataka; They Adivced me to approch Maharashtra State legal Authority as my case is in Vasai - Thane - Maharashtra. i wrote to them and went to meet too but concerned Officer was not in his office for 2 days.Now After MSLA order my case is Transferd to Deputation Court,and new judge gave me another date.If her complaint was true, why she is not coming to court.If i ever took or Demanded single paise as dowry, i would have never dare to write to President of india or any Law Authorities.In india women do anything thats right,they have Law support Even Misuse of law.If women ask for Divorce and her husband is not coming to court,court send strickt notice and finish this divorce within 6 months; If same man do and women is not coming,court give date after date,and he will not get divorce for 6 years unless he goes to higher Court.This is our Great Law.In this whole drama, even today, I know she is Innocent,whatever she has done to me,was inspired by those TV serials and her Mother/sister. I found her, in our married life together, she was a nice girl, spoiled by her parents.I tried to contact her many time, but her Parents stoped me/her to meet each other.Now she is affraid, If i take her back,I`ll really harass her and she cann`t do anythingOnly I can say , SHE DUG HER OWN GRAVEhttp://misuseof498a.clawz.com
posted by 498A_Victim at 3:53 AM
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